Welcome to the forum. I'll try to help. But it is obvious you are emotionally distraught; based on the discussion I see in the HIV community forum, it seems you are not thinking very clearly about this.
If your partner had HIV, there was perhaps 1 chance in 500 that you might have caught HIV the time the condom broke during anal sex. So if we assume a 10% chance he was infected, the chance you caught it was 1 in 5,000. So the odds are very strongly in your favor.
From the community forum, I believe you had EBV several years ago. You probably no longer have an active infection. But if you do, it will have no effect on catching HIV, symptoms, or time to postive blood test results.
I reviewed your symptoms very carefully. None of them suggests HIV. They sound mostly like the physical manifestations of anxiety and stress.
But the big question is this: Why haven't you had an HIV test?? With the modern tests, you can get accurate results as soon as 4 weeks after exposure (for the duo test, i.e. HIV antibody plus p24 antigen) or 6 weeks for an antibody test. (See
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/1704700).
My advice therefore is to stop speculating and stop worrying. Visit a doctor or clinic and get tested for HIV. Then return with a follow-up comment to let me know the result. In the meantime, try to relax. Your test probably will be negative.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD