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Painful Intercourse
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I have been in menopause since I was 36 (now 56). I had 2 endimetrial biopsies years ago, was on a clinical trial for breast cancer prevention (heavy family history), opted to NOT take hormone therapy because of my family history. But put all that together (and than some), My sex life with my hubby is not there. I feel bad for him, and I feel bad for me too. I do still crave intercourse, but the shere though of what I experience is to much to bare, and what starts out in my head as what will be enjoyable, is excruciatingly painful, to thye point that my sex life is not there. I know there are of course other ways to satisfy ones self , but would love to have pleasurable intercourse again. My uterous lining is also as thin as it can get too. So my7 best desription is what is the most painful is this feeling of extreme painful burning as if what is left of my lining is raw and about to rip. That is my best description. My OBGYN out of no answers suggested trying a dab of estogen cream internally. Hesitant, fearful, yet out of know othesafe alternatives, I tryed it for about a month. There was NO difference as far as the overbearingly painful experience I felt. It is as if every nerve ending is sreaming . I am so upset over this what seems to be a no win situation., and of course feel bad for my husband too. Yet do not want to harm my self either lateron OR now. I know of no homopathic , safe ways either. Geez I am willing to try coconut oil if it is safe and works! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
I have been in menopause since I was 36 (now 56). I had 2 endimetrial biopsies years ago, was on a clinical trial for breast cancer prevention (heavy family history), opted to NOT take hormone therapy because of my family history. But put all that together (and than some), My sex life with my hubby is not there. I feel bad for him, and I feel bad for me too. I do still crave intercourse, but the shere though of what I experience is to much to bare, and what starts out in my head as what will be enjoyable, is excruciatingly painful, to thye point that my sex life is not there. I know there are of course other ways to satisfy ones self , but would love to have pleasurable intercourse again. My uterous lining is also as thin as it can get too. So my7 best desription is what is the most painful is this feeling of extreme painful burning as if what is left of my lining is raw and about to rip. That is my best description. My OBGYN out of no answers suggested trying a dab of estogen cream internally. Hesitant, fearful, yet out of know othesafe alternatives, I tryed it for about a month. There was NO difference as far as the overbearingly painful experience I felt. It is as if every nerve ending is sreaming . I am so upset over this what seems to be a no win situation., and of course feel bad for my husband too. Yet do not want to harm my self either lateron OR now. I know of no homopathic , safe ways either. Geez I am willing to try coconut oil if it is safe and works! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
I am going to make it my life-long goal to let people know my story. I TOO suffered with the exact pain you're suffering. I am about your age. I finally discovered I had a Femoral Hernia! It is in the "occult hernia" category--meaning they're the type of hernias that "hide". I went through the estrogen cream, EVERYTHING! This hernia invades the "femoral canal". The nerves that go to the urethra and the vaginal vault run in this same canal. Femoral Hernias can be caused by several things. Sometimes the patient will have urethral pain, sometimes not. But patients usually have vaginal burning with sexual intercourse. It just depends upon where the hernia is pressing. Mine was FINALLY diagnosed with an ultrasound. Doctor and ultrasound tech had me bear down while they scanned my lower left quadrant area. If you draw a line from the top of your pubic bone to the bottom of your pelvic bone you're in the general area of the hernia. Please search the internet for more info.
I'm also menopausal and the dryness is what causes the trouble. Have you tried some of the lubricating gels on the market? I've tried a few but they made me itch and swell. Not very pleasurable. I think my doc even recommended a little vegetable oil but that doesn't seem quite right to me. And of course, take thing slow and easy. No more instant excitement like the good old days.
Do try the lubricants if you haven't already. Read the ingredients. They're water based (the first ingredient actually) with a little glycerin to ease the way.
Do try the lubricants if you haven't already. Read the ingredients. They're water based (the first ingredient actually) with a little glycerin to ease the way.
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