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Child behavior/peeing
My son just turned 7 years old in February and has recently (within the past 2 weeks) began peeing on various things around the house/yard. We havent had any changes to our household or routine recently (we did move back home with my parents 6 months ago, but he has loved being back home with his family) He is always getting in trouble at school, and his teachers say he has a really hard time focusing and paying attention and may have ADHD, althoguh he has never been tested. I'm worried that this behavior is snowballing and is just going to continue to worsen if we don't find anythign to help quickly. Is there anything we can do? We've tried numerous punishments (spanking, time-out, taking away toys/tv/special fun thigns) but nothing works with him. We have even tried reward treatments but he doesnt stick to it more than a few days at a time...
serenity for the child. every day. within the laws of nature. his reactions are from your reaction to his instinctual need to balance diet and the greater influence in his environment. its very simple, he thinks its complex.
Sounds like a definate possibility. Wetting is one thing but purposely peeing is another that leads me to think this is of an emotional nature. And what you are describing JGF25 sounds like something that could certainly bbe going on.
I tihnk finding a root cause is going to be the key to stopping this behavior and if he is feeling so lost/sad/frustrated within-------- you want to help him with those inner feelings.
Would a child psychologist be something the poster would consider? I think it could be very helpful here.
I tihnk finding a root cause is going to be the key to stopping this behavior and if he is feeling so lost/sad/frustrated within-------- you want to help him with those inner feelings.
Would a child psychologist be something the poster would consider? I think it could be very helpful here.
I'm just throwing this out there...could it be a control issue? Could it be that he feels like he has no control over other things in his life because of a learning difference, etc. but that he has control over where he pees so he is acting out defiantly? Could it all be out of complete frustration?
What do you think specialmom?
What do you think specialmom?
I was concerned about the 'peeing' around the house which is different than wetting onself. At 7, he may pee during the night or have an accident but purposely peeing on the carpet and such is such a defiant act. Is that what is going on amanda? Or is he wetting himself accidentally?
I start to think of emotional issues to be honest. Is he going through a challenging time of any sort?
I start to think of emotional issues to be honest. Is he going through a challenging time of any sort?
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Well, the problem is that if he does have something like adhd - studies show he will have more difficulity with bladder control. But more importantly, using just a reward system to get behavioral results isn't effective. I've posted pretty extensively on this in the past. Unfortunately, I am on vacation in Australia and doing long posts on an Ipad iis a pain. Get the book - the adhd answer book by Susan Ashley - found here http://www.amazon.com/ADD-ADHD-Answer-Book-Professional/dp/140220549X
it will help tremendously. I will be glad to answer any questions you have after going over the book. And I will be home in a week and will be able to acess many more resources on my computer to help - so keep in touch!
it will help tremendously. I will be glad to answer any questions you have after going over the book. And I will be home in a week and will be able to acess many more resources on my computer to help - so keep in touch!
I have asked him why he is doing it (the peeing) and he doesnt seem to give me any straight answers. He just kind of mumbles around and says something like 'oh I dont know." and then starts to get really angry.
I have thought for about 2 years that he may have ADHD, because he acts very impulsive, and has a hard time comtrolling himself. (fidgeting, bouncing back and forth when he's supposed to be sitting or standing still or walking in a line) His teachers have all had concerns with his ability to stay on task, follow instructions, control his body, and focus during lesson sand reading time. The inability to do this has actually began to hinder his learning also, his last report card showed him as below level in reading, and needs improvement in everything else.
He does seem a bit calmer after exerting a bit of energy, but not by much, and certainly not for long. As far as focusing better, not really. He just stays in one place longer instead of trying to get and move around all the time.
We try to continue the rewards systems we use, too. Its just that it isnt like you said where its a couple of good days then a bad day then another good... Its more along the lines of 2 good, then bad, then another bad... then after 2 or 3 days of bad behavior and not getting his rewards, he gives up and says he is never going to get it. His teacher has had the same problem with rewards as well, she said at our meetign this past week that he is really excited about it for a few days, but then loses interest and doesnt want to do it anymore.
I have thought for about 2 years that he may have ADHD, because he acts very impulsive, and has a hard time comtrolling himself. (fidgeting, bouncing back and forth when he's supposed to be sitting or standing still or walking in a line) His teachers have all had concerns with his ability to stay on task, follow instructions, control his body, and focus during lesson sand reading time. The inability to do this has actually began to hinder his learning also, his last report card showed him as below level in reading, and needs improvement in everything else.
He does seem a bit calmer after exerting a bit of energy, but not by much, and certainly not for long. As far as focusing better, not really. He just stays in one place longer instead of trying to get and move around all the time.
We try to continue the rewards systems we use, too. Its just that it isnt like you said where its a couple of good days then a bad day then another good... Its more along the lines of 2 good, then bad, then another bad... then after 2 or 3 days of bad behavior and not getting his rewards, he gives up and says he is never going to get it. His teacher has had the same problem with rewards as well, she said at our meetign this past week that he is really excited about it for a few days, but then loses interest and doesnt want to do it anymore.
Hi there. Well, peeing around the house is not desirable . . . says the mother of two boys myself! Why does he say he is doing it? That is curious and quite angressive behavior to all of a sudden start. I'd be more concerned about why he is doing this than anything else. Is he angry? Is something going wrong for him at school or elsewhere? I would try to talk to him and see what triggers him to do it and what her verbalizes as the reason.
I'd obviously make him clean it (you can go back later and do it better!) and if some gets on something that you can part with --- and especially something he likes---- 'so sorry. you ruined it. Now it has to be thrown away." and pitch it in front of him.
Why do you think he has add/adhd? Curious if you've had complaints at school, if anyone has thought he had something 'extra' going on, or what you are comparing him to.
My son doesn't have add/adhd but has something called sensory integration disorder. It involves the nervous system like add/adhd and has VERY similar symptoms. We do what they call "heavy work" for it (a term used in the occupational therapy world--- who is the specialist that handles sensory kids).
does your son seem noticably calmer, more focused and organized after heavy physical activity?
And also, if the reward system works even for a few days, I'd stick with it. Maybe he's 3 good days, 1 bad, 2 good days, 1 bad, 7 good days, etc. which is a lot better than ALL bad days.
good luck
I'd obviously make him clean it (you can go back later and do it better!) and if some gets on something that you can part with --- and especially something he likes---- 'so sorry. you ruined it. Now it has to be thrown away." and pitch it in front of him.
Why do you think he has add/adhd? Curious if you've had complaints at school, if anyone has thought he had something 'extra' going on, or what you are comparing him to.
My son doesn't have add/adhd but has something called sensory integration disorder. It involves the nervous system like add/adhd and has VERY similar symptoms. We do what they call "heavy work" for it (a term used in the occupational therapy world--- who is the specialist that handles sensory kids).
does your son seem noticably calmer, more focused and organized after heavy physical activity?
And also, if the reward system works even for a few days, I'd stick with it. Maybe he's 3 good days, 1 bad, 2 good days, 1 bad, 7 good days, etc. which is a lot better than ALL bad days.
good luck
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