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Choked

My husband choked me and its hard to swallow i feel it when i inhale and exhale and its sore at this one part on my neck. I also blacked out for a few seconds. Scared to go to the ER cuz we just had a baby. Is there anyway to bypass going to the doctor but still see if im ok??
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I really feel for you and your gonna have to be so strong over the next few months but firstly you have to get to a&e tell them everything don't let this coward back in I hope you have someone who will be there be strong you are better than this I wish I could help more but you will get through this and he will get his,it will come back at him,now love your baby and yourself you will get thru
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Get rid of him. Nobody deserves to live like that.
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It's so easy for people to say but this is a really difficult situation, especially now that you have a child with him.  BUT you do have to get away from, I hope you already have. Domestic violence tends to escalate.  I know, I grew up with it.  Ultimate my dad killed my mom, and no mother wants her children to grow up with her.  Please reach out for support from a battered womans shelter who can help you get the resources you need to get back on your feet without him.
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oops I meant grow up withOUT her!
Leave. Leave. Leave.... WATCH THE NEWS.. u dont want to be on it. Too much of that going on dead beat dad, abusive dads, abusive step dads killing their non bilogical children. PEOPLE PROTECT UR KIDS. he isnt MADE OF GOLD. ur kids are. Wisen up ur better than all of that mess. I didnt have support single mom of 3. That happened to me, i ptrssed charges, got restraining and i left. F.. that. My kids came first. Not ok to get abused.  He isnt that great. Love isnt love with ABUSE. YOU CAN SURVIVE. Get rid of pride and just do it.
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Dear Ani, you are in extreme danger. Choking/strangulation is incredibly serious when it comes to domestic violence cases. A 2008 study determined that 43% of domestic murder victims were strangled by their partners within the year prior to their murder. It is the number one greatest predictor of YOUR risk of being murdered by this man. Please seek help. I pray you realize how much danger you are in and get away from him..
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2573025/
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You need to leave take your baby and yourself to a family member or close friend and seek the help of a social worker counselor or police department
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What the hell. Why are you'll trying to protect these dead beats. You know to go and seek treatment and yes they need to do their job and report this. Its a no-brainer!!
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Please do not be so harsh towards her! It's hard enough for a woman in this situation already without you sounding so condescending. Please think about the things you say.
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My Hope Is that you did go to the hospital and when they asked what happened you told the truth because if that was the case as I know someone who this exact scenario happened to the doctors would have called the police and the police would have went to your house even if your husband was not there they would have waited for him and arrested him the minute he arrived he would have been taken to jail and had a court date I just hope you did the right thing my friend did not know the cops were going to come to her house when she went to the hospital she didn't know her husband was going to be arrested she also didn't press charges and he was out 2 Days Later also I hope you did some information they gave a homeless shelter is no place for a woman and a baby anyone who is actually had to stay in one knows that but there are women's shelters for women with children who are coming out of abusive situations they are specific for women in your scenario they will help you get away legally and safely again I speak from experience
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The best thing for you right now, is to get out of that situation. It will only get worse and the fact that you have a baby makes it even more dangerous. If you have any family or friends or anywhere else to stay, it would be best to leave. I know it can be embarrassing but these people love you and would rather have you with them than hurting somewhere. Your child is going to grow up seeing this and it will truly leave some scars. Also, what is to stop him from coming after your child. He sounds quite terrible. Please for the sake of your child and yourself, leave this man.

Anna
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A man who hit a women will continue to do so even though he says am not doing it again. Please your children are your future.
3060903 tn?1398565123
I'm sorry to say but you shouldn't have had a child with a man like this. You must know that. However, the child is here, and it is your job to protect them and the only way to do that is to protect their mother. For whatever the reason (habit formed in childhood) that you chose a man that was a beast, you need to now do what you should have, and deal with why your expectations were so low.(so you don't make the same mistake and accept a man that has uncontrolled rage issues). So you need to talk to a therapist as well as a family doctor regarding your being strangled.

Nothing worth having is easy. You chose to have a child , one of the biggest and most challenging events in any person's life. It will take a lot of work (perhaps you need further education to be able to get a good enough job to be this child's sole financial support)? and therapy (to be sure you have the required expectations of men to be the baby's role model). and a doctor (to give you the all clear that there's been no damage done physically). The best thing that you could do for yourself and your partner, is to go to the police and have him charged. The faster that there are consequences and the faster that this man is able to see that he needs help with Anger Management, the better the scenario for him being in good enough shape to the biological parent to his child).

If you have no other option that to go to a homeless shelter with your baby,  the i suggest you do the right thing for your child and go. They will help you immediately with all of the above things it is suggested to abused women to do. They will help you with the police, a permanent place to live , an education (free or through student loans). In fact you can get student loans, that will pay your rent while you go to school. There is subsidized child care available, or you can take a college course online while at home with your baby.

Do you have other children, or do you have the one?
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Honestly, how dare you put the blame on her like that? That's unbelievable. This woman has been hurt by somebody she's supposed to be able to trust, and your response is "Well, you MUST know you shouldn't have had a kid with somebody like THAT."

Please reassess how you deal with people who have experienced traumatic situations and try not to blame victims for literal abuse.
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You could take the baby with you so the baby will be safe and go to a shelter or a women's services organization, and see if they can arrange for you to see a medical person without risk.  Talk to them about why you are with this guy, they might be able to give you some perspective.
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