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Man is 55 and sleeps with his daughters and fondles in public, whats up?

This is an intelligent person (neighbor) who has very beautiful daughters. One of the girls (17) who is a ballerina and in perfect shape, sits on his lap often. He rubs her feet her legs her back and her hair in fornt onf his entire family and no one seems to think its weird. She is very aggressive and always expects hi mto hold her hand even when he is holding his GFs hand (like in a movie theater) and he lays next to both of them in  bed for hours at a time (supposedly) talking. I found out about this from his GF and came over once when she was there and witnessed all of the above. The girls openly hug and kiss him on the lips (not open mouth). She confronted him and he physically threw her out of his house. She came back but they never discuss it anymore and the girls now live with his ex. My question is why wouldn't the girls want to reveal him if he is sexually abusive and wouldn't this hurt them in time as they mature?
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Man is 55 and sleeps with his daughters and fondles in public, whats up?

This sound very salacious doesn't it? 55 year old man "Sleeps" with his daughter and "Fondles" them in public. He lays down in bed and talks with his kids. and he rubs his ballerina daughter's back and legs because of the intense pain that comes with that form of professional athleticism.
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His daughter is a ballerina, which is a grueling work out, and he's probably been massaging her leg and back etc, for many many years. Laying in bed and talking is no sin. The child is exhibiting nothing that would suggest there is anything sexual going on, and i do believe that this may be a case of a women who simply does not appreciate the parenting choices, and is suggesting it is sexual to try to control and change the family. Fact is that this may make him incompatible with the girlfriend, but making it into something sexual is no way to deal with a family unit that you just don't dig.
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Well, his girlfriend may not be the 'most' reliable source.  I can't tell you how many posts I've read here as the CL of the Relationships forum of girlfriends who have a problem with affection between their now boyfriend and the boyfriend's older teen daughters.  Not sure if this is what is going on but try not to take sides.  

My sons are not that old yet.  But they are younger teens.  So far, they still hold my hand occasionally and are affectionate with me and guess what, I lay on their bed at night sometimes and we 'talk'.  I'm dying to be let into their lives and boys can be quiet so this is when they often tell me about their feelings and what is REALLY going on.  I'm not IN bed with them.  But on the bed.  Soaking up every moment of being a parent before they are long gone.  

So, I don't know.  Maybe his girls don't act like he's abusive because he isn't abusing them?  Some kids do separate completely from parents and wouldn't be caught dead holding their hand.  Others still do.  I held my mother's hand.  (I'm a female .  .  .  we weren't gay but based on the idea that holding your child's hand is sexual, . . . I guess I have to throw that in).  

If you feel he is molesting his children or sexually inappropriate, then the right thing to do, though, is to call Child Protective Services so they can investigate.  You can do so anonymously although he will probably blame the girlfriend.  And if SHE thinks he is inappropriate, what the heck is she still doing with him?  Ya know?  Why complain to a neighbor about something so serious and then go right back to him?  

So, use your judgment.  Not everyone parents the same.  But if the man is sexually touching his daughters, you should report it for their protection.  If you are just going by what the girlfriend says, I'd kind of wonder about HER at this point and maybe keep your distance.  good luck
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