Need advice/help to ensure my daughters safety

[greatfulcanadian1]

Long story short. I'm. 29 years with a 8 year old daughter. I have ways been very close to my father. My daughter and I lived with him for 3 years after my fiance killed himself my father started to help me care for my daughter . Dec 2014 my daughter came to me with questionable things he was doing to her. I left everything I own packed a bag and left to a hotel then woman's shelter.  Tool her to the police station and bease she didn't disclose anything to them they closed the investigation allowing my father to take me to court for custody.  My daughter has told her play therapist but the police do not care. The court appointed shrink as advised the court she think my daughter should remain with me and visits shouldn't even be an option right now . But the courts are now letting him try to get access in the meantime because trial for custody isn't until Feb 2017. It's been almost 2 years since I or my daughter has seen my dad and she says to me "after what papa did to me why can he try to see me again " she cries to me telling me she's scared she will have to see him again. My dad also livs with his brother.  Both men are single have never had girlfriends , they go everywhere together . My daughter says when we were living there my dad would tickle his brothers back shirtless while watching tele toon and get her to help him tickle . There's so much more innapropriateness that went on and I'm so scared for her that they would even consider letting him visit her. My dad even has a cop as a "character witness" it makes me sick to my stomach
If anyone has any resources they know of or anyone that could help. Or helpful advice . ANYTHING ! Don't hesitate to tell me.
Thanks you
Scared mom

[Justanothermom2]

You need to take your daughter to a child psychologist and tell her to be truthful, then you need to ask that paychologist what to do to ensure he cannot harm your daughter or any other child again. You need to file a report and speak to a prosecutor to press charges once you have additional evidence.  Does canada have child protective services like the US CPS?  You need to be reaching for as many advocates for your daughter as possible right now.  In the US, character witnesses carry little weight against accusations verified by a licensed psychologist.

[Will2help]

Your very brave daughter and your very special trust that you have with your special daughter is much more important Tha anything else. These situations unfortunately happen...alot. Its Not right. Its not normal and its not acceptable. I would go public .. I am talking papers, Tele and every abuse centre available in order to keep the perverted arse****s away from your daughter and known for others to be aware. You should protect and honor your daughter as the loving Mum you are. Nothing else. No one else matters right now. Support and strength to you and your daughter. Talk and rite down and record the incidents so you don't have to keep going over it all and it can digest in a proper way. Tell tell tell and fight for your own creations future. Good luck

[RockRose]

Can you get a CASA (Court Appointed Special Advocate) for your child through the courts?  

What are the "questionable things" your daughter says were happening?  I'm not sure tickling grandpa's brother with grandpa there is all that concerning - in context,  it sounds like it could be family play.  Were there other things?

Since you've always been close to your dad,  have you ever experienced or suspected him of being an abuser?

For a grandparent to file for custody of a grandchild,  and have a court date to determine that,  there must be more issues here?  In the US,  for a grandparent to be considered for custody of a child,  the parents must be considered to be unfit.  Here, a  grandparent can't just come in and take custody away from a fit parent against their wishes.   (Which doesn't mean the parents are unfit,  it means the court views the parents as unfit).  

[greatfulcanadian1]

In Canada anyone can apply for custody of your child even your neighbour. It doesn't mean they will get it but they are able to it doesn't mean your unfit parents. The other questionable things is wiping her after she goes pee, every time. Even when my daughter apparently insists to him that she doesn't need him to.. He was doing that until she was 6. He also layer her on the ground in a towel outside the bathroom and opened her private to apparently look in side to see if she had a bladder infection. My mother when I was a child got a court order my father even signed that my uncle is not to be left alone with me after having an erection with me on his lap.. The same uncle that's having my daughter help tickle backs .. These 2 men are sick and the thought of my daughter ending back in that house Alone is very scary.

[care22039457]

The previous court order that your mother got when you were a child should be evidence that at least the brother is dangerous for your child to be around.  You should be able to at least get the court to prohibit contact between the brother and your daughter.