Who to trust?

[Hiedra]

I need to talk to a third party. My childs father in extremely emotionally an verbally abusive to me.  I need help! I am scared for my unborn an the 2 that r here.  Who can i talk too? My family thinks he's dangerous an his thinks he's a saint.

[Messmess66]

U need to be really careful not to get stressed it can kill the baby when pics up the kids go to a police station were he will pick them up

[jo871]

You need to take care of yourself and your children first, any place is better than the house of an abuser that could turn on you any time. I know it is not easy to do, I lived your same situtation, but you know that there is no other choice, if you want to live. Gather the courage to move on, things will get better. Contact a woman shelter for support, social workers for your children, family or friends if you have any. Put a restraining order on him, reach out for help in your community, but DON'T GIVE UP! You and your children deserve a HAPPY LIFE!

[4slenderthread]

I am sorry for what you are going through. Some people are so good at hiding their uglier side to friends and family. I know exactly what it is like. I was once married to a guy that was emotionally, mentally and (in my case,) physically abusive as well. I had 3 small girls when we separated and divorced. I was fortunate because he lived in an entirely different state. So I didn't have him around to bother me any longer.
One thing about abuse, no matter what kind, it always gets worse. I don't want to think of you going through all of that and wondering if it was somehow your 'fault.' The abuser blames the victim for everything ... eventually the victim of abuse starts to blame themselves.That is not a lesson you want your children to learn.  
Does your boyfriend live somewhere nearby or does he actually live with you?  If you depend on him financially, then that complicates things. I would normally suggest that you go to the local police department, and talk with them about a restraining order -  If he lives with you, you obviously cannot do that. If you rely on him, then it would not be practical to ask him to leave - as much as that would help your situation.
Since you didn't give much information, I cannot give you more advice. At some point you are going to have to make some difficult choices ... It's only a matter of time. Take care and best of luck sweetie!

[margypops]

Listen to your family .....

[margypops]

Only one thing to do ..leave it wont get better and your child be also get a lot and will see and hear you being abused ,it will affect the child all its life .you could try telling /asking him to get anger management but he';s got to want to.You say you have 2 children  there what do they do when he is yelling and abusive ?? ..

[jenniekae81]

Hi I just posted a reply to you on your post in the baby forum. I stopped by your profile to leave you a message because it seemed our situations were very similar and that you could use a friend that understands. Now I know ours are similar! While the baby I am pregger with now, her dad isnt in the picture. But I am going thru a divorce from my 1 yr old sons father. He was VERY verbally/emotionally abusive and controlling towards myself and my 11yr old son from a previous marriage. My family all saw it and tried to warn me but he pulled the wool over my eyes and he is the golden child who can do no wrong in his family. It is was so hard to leave and i'm not gonna lie, I still get fooled by him and talked into thinking hes changed or wants to change at times. I had talked with my local domestic violence center and they helped a ton in the beginning! And dont let anyone make you think differently....emotional and verbal abuse is just as much domestic abuse as physical violence is. I am going to send you a message to your inbox with my cell #. Feel free to call or text anytime if you need to talk hun