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WHAT SHOULD I DO
my dad as most prob know keeps hurting me and it never stops he keeps going he plays head games is abusive lies all the time but when he doesnt get what he wants he hurts my mom
what should i do
what should i do
Leah,
It is NEVER okay for your father to hurt you. I don't know your situtation, maybe your father is mental ill. BUT YOU NEED TO HELP YOURSELF! PLEASE! Talk to a counsler at school or your doctor. You have to find someone you can trust. Most schools have a social worker. You need to have a support group and surround yourself with people who love you and can relate to what you have been and are going through.
If you attend a church your pastor/rabbi/ or whomever can and will listen to you and may be able to provide you with the help you so deisire. May God be with you and I will pray for your safety and emotional health.
It is NEVER okay for your father to hurt you. I don't know your situtation, maybe your father is mental ill. BUT YOU NEED TO HELP YOURSELF! PLEASE! Talk to a counsler at school or your doctor. You have to find someone you can trust. Most schools have a social worker. You need to have a support group and surround yourself with people who love you and can relate to what you have been and are going through.
If you attend a church your pastor/rabbi/ or whomever can and will listen to you and may be able to provide you with the help you so deisire. May God be with you and I will pray for your safety and emotional health.
Dear Leah,
Knowing first hand at what a person of this kind can do to hurt someone without bruises.
Well, I have 2 grown daughters', (i am 53) I was married to someone who used verbal
abuse to domestically keep me in place, or check. My daughters' have suffered the ill affects of his disorder. Narcissistic sociopath disorder. People who look at the person they are belittling are really looking at their own selves as an extension of this person, to him. I could never do anything right. mind games, emotional, mental, psychological,
and more. There is a very good book on this subject that might help your Mom.
Called Trapped in the Mirror. It took me 9 yrs. of leaving him, (going to shelters) for me to actually see what he had been doing to me all these years. The day I called the police? I had it set to my phone as push just one number, bam they were there.
Please let your councilor at your school know of this. Fear is what keeps this type
of person going. Please, try not to show fear. I know it is hard, hope things work out for you and your mom.
Knowing first hand at what a person of this kind can do to hurt someone without bruises.
Well, I have 2 grown daughters', (i am 53) I was married to someone who used verbal
abuse to domestically keep me in place, or check. My daughters' have suffered the ill affects of his disorder. Narcissistic sociopath disorder. People who look at the person they are belittling are really looking at their own selves as an extension of this person, to him. I could never do anything right. mind games, emotional, mental, psychological,
and more. There is a very good book on this subject that might help your Mom.
Called Trapped in the Mirror. It took me 9 yrs. of leaving him, (going to shelters) for me to actually see what he had been doing to me all these years. The day I called the police? I had it set to my phone as push just one number, bam they were there.
Please let your councilor at your school know of this. Fear is what keeps this type
of person going. Please, try not to show fear. I know it is hard, hope things work out for you and your mom.
Don't worry - you aren't alone. There are many many people who've been through the same sort of thing as you; including me. I promise, even though it feels like nothing will change, that there's nothing you can do, things will get better. You have to be strong, and have conviction in yourself. Remember that it's your father who's wrong in this situation, not you. He might make you feel guilty, that you're telling lies, that you're stirring things up, that you're being selfish, that you're juust exagerrating, and that there's really nothing wrong - none of this is true. It's just the last resort of an angry, controlling man who doesn't understand that he's wrong. You and your mother deserve better.
In my personal experience, it's easier to talk to a school aid, who will call social services/ the police if they feel that it's required. These people are nice, and will guide you through everything and give you the support you need.
Everything that you're feeling is justified - what this man is doing is wrong, and his behavior is unlikely to change. You shouldn't have to walk on eggshells around him, and no matter what excuses he gives (which are always coincidentally YOUR fault, and NEVER his) to justify his actions, he is the one in the wrong. His actions are both morally reprehensible and illegal.
I think that you should talk to your mother about what you want to do - she will most likely be scared of rocking the boat, but otherwise nothing will change. You should both learn to lean on each other in these hard times - a father is supposed to be a pillar of support, not someone to fear.
I wish you the best of luck in your life.
In my personal experience, it's easier to talk to a school aid, who will call social services/ the police if they feel that it's required. These people are nice, and will guide you through everything and give you the support you need.
Everything that you're feeling is justified - what this man is doing is wrong, and his behavior is unlikely to change. You shouldn't have to walk on eggshells around him, and no matter what excuses he gives (which are always coincidentally YOUR fault, and NEVER his) to justify his actions, he is the one in the wrong. His actions are both morally reprehensible and illegal.
I think that you should talk to your mother about what you want to do - she will most likely be scared of rocking the boat, but otherwise nothing will change. You should both learn to lean on each other in these hard times - a father is supposed to be a pillar of support, not someone to fear.
I wish you the best of luck in your life.
Find help. You are not responsible for his actions and should not be made to feel like you have to suffer b/c he takes it out on your mom. You both need some help. Find a counselor, doctor, anyone who can give you some more insight and point you in the right direction. You said "speak out in court", are you all going to court soon. If so, if you voice your thoughts to a judge or your mom's attorney they generally bring in a psychologist to speak with you. I hope this is the case. Please try to find a counselor or doctor to speak with as soon as you can!!
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