is this love or not

[jessiplus3]

Hi ppl. So I'm 19 and 8 months pregnant w my third kid I am married my husband is 21. He has also been hitting me chocking kicking me n he recently got a shot gun n told me one night he would kill me in my sleep n held it to my head he keeps brass knuckles in the house n has been calling my four year old son nasty names like ***** and ******.he trips and pushes him around all the time n laughs it off. My question is a month ago I left him finally he was very controlling and.I was not allowed to wear certain close or makeup and wasn't allowed out side I pressed charges and me n the kids r living w my mom but now he sirry and wants his family back and really telling me everything I want to hear. I'm scared if I dnt get some help or advice ima go back I always go back n fourth but I think if I go back thia time he will kill me cuz now he mad I got the cops involved but why do I still get suckered in by his charm that I knoe is a lie what do I do?

[brittmarie06]

Please consider your kids. My mom stayed in an abusive relationship and it tore my childhood apart. Once he tied her to the car and dragged her from it while me and my little sister were in the back seat. My dad too was a charmer and always knew how to sweet talk my mom.. Please don't let your kids go through that! You deserve so much more, I pray one day you believe that.

[Fitns75]

It would only take once for a man to hurt or mock one of my children.  Put them first!  They cannot protect themselves and they look to you for protection, you cant fail them on this.

[withdrawal4]

Please don't go back!  Your's and your childrens lives will never change!  Be strong and stay at your Mum's until you get back on your feet.  He doesn't love you, and your Son's will start behaving like him as that is the only thing they will know how to do.

[kelly486]

think of ur kids because if he is doing it to u he will start doing to his kids and becareful always stay two steps ahead

[allmymarbles]

You say that if you go back to him he will kill you. So don't go back to what you feel is certain death. At least on your own there is a chance this won't happen. Meanwhile find the means to protect yourself and your children.

[als2012]

Plz don't go back it wont change.  U deserve to be happy. My aunts husband did this for years. They r still together and she is a 400 pound depressed person with no self esteem. Plus ur children don't need to see that. I saw abuse only a few times in my life but for me it taught me that if a boy cause a person who hits women r not men I would do everything in my power to not let them see me even if I had child with them it would be the same. So plz stay with ur mom