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Support Forums for Spouses of Addicts

Does anyone know of a good online support forum for spouses of Addicts, preferably prescription pill addicts.  I want to talk to others who are affected by wives or husbands who are abusing ... so that I don't feel alone.  My wife is a long time abuser.  I've come to realized that I'm am powerless, a meager blip on the radar that sweeps ever so cunningly for its next fix.  It is obvious that nothing else is as important as hydrocodone - I don't even know who she is anymore.  I work hard for our family and a good portion of the proceeds I provide are pissed away so that she can spend her time high as a kite in our bedroom that has affectively become her lair.   I cannot fathom the pursuit to waste away in such wretched state.  The compulsion draws lies and deceit that transcend the insult of infidelity.  Does anyone else feel as cheated and offended as me?  I wonder...
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hi
im recently coming from a 15 year relationship with my girlfriend Cherokee who I fell in love with the moment I laid eyes on her.
ive ever since tried to treat her right and we brought up her two kids also.she has been a speed addict on mostly and off since before we met.
she also suffers severe depression and mood swings as well as being violent in the past also.
it seems by providing and helping througtout the years ive only exsasabated things buy supporting her despite her not having worked 95 % of our time together.
she can be lasy and sleep for days if allowed to and picks her face regularly while on speed distroyng her beautiful skin terribly.

she has always been in denile and we have now split as she does not want to change

im shattered emotionally and had heart attack and quad bypass 3 years ago at age 42
we have battered eachother emotionally as we were until recently I think deeply in love still
ive lots my love,all her family and everything ive known to this drugs effects so I urge anyone who wants to get help to seek the likes of people on this forum as they are some truly amazing people

heatbroken wayne
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New to this group but know all to well of my husbands substance abuse. I am just sick of the lies that he tells and all the times he leaves and is gone for hours, returning with drugs in his system. He will finally admit it that he went and did some drugs. He keeps saying I'm sorry, won't happen again, but that is a lie!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Hi Diamond...its time for YOU to shine ok.
Love is blind...it takes many a life time to understand the abuse they endure by the hands of someone that claim to love them.
You are being abused in every way...emotionally, physically also being held hostage by his suicide threats.
Your not happy...how can you be ?  
It wont get better, it will only make you question you over time.
Your young, while I know you love mike, and yes im sure some of this abuse it connected to his addiction...that gives him NO right to treat you this way.  I have known addicts with a heart of gold, kind, loving, wouldn't physically hurt a soul.  I also know non addicts that have the same behavior as your fiancĂ©,  they are selfish to the core.  Life tends to be wrapped around that type of personality for life, its all about them.  
Either you fit and hurt, or you break free.
There are Great loving caring people in this world...
As for the addiction, hes going to need to take care of that, you cant do it for him.
Sit back for a bit honey, where do you see your life heading with Mike ?
Its ALL in your hands, make YOUR life about you.
Good Luck
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Hi my name is Diamond i am 20 years old and my fiance Mike is 24 he is a drug addict and we have been together almost a year now. Since we have been together his drug problem has got worse. i try to help him and i try to get him to stop but he wont he has been doing things more lately and he dose them now in front of me i walk away but he still dose it when i say im gonna tell his family he threatens to hurt me or he yells and screams at me he even calls me names that are so hurtful. i try to leave but then he pushes me down and holds me till i say im not leave n he has pushed me gainst walls and even pushed me while i am in my brace . when i have left him he has over dosed but they brought him back he has even died in front of me and i had to bring him back he keeps lie n to me and he makes me feel crazy because i know he is use n drugs . his family tells me i should leave but then he says that he will kill himself if i leave. im tired of feeling bad cause he is always high. i feel like he use is me some times to get stuff he has stoled things from me and yet when i get mad he makes me feel like im the bad guy i am to the point where im not sleeping right and i eat to much cause im stressed out . and hge puts me in situations where he threaten to drop me off on the side of the road he has almost ran us off the road several times while high. i want to believe that he will change but im scared he wont . i hate when he calls me names and degrades me when all i do is try make him happy and be there for him.  so please someone give me some advice .
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I don't know if you will read this or not but I'll give it a try.  In my experience, those who really love the high more than anything else in life, never will quit.  It does not matter what you threaten them with.  They love the high more.  I have been married to an addict for 38 years.  He is one of those addicts who takes care of their responsibilities and he has never gotten into debt, but his addictions have ruined our lives.  He has other mental problems too and self medicates to deal with these.  This is what I think anyway.  Today, he's taken a bunch of pills so he's out in the yard cutting down trees!  They get super energy when they take those but their judgement suffers.  Otherwise, they have little to no energy.  
So, to answer your question, it depends on the person.
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I completely understand where you're coming from.
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