help for someone who has been sexually abused

[lirelda]

I know this is kind of out there.  I couldn't really find a forum in here that dealt with this subject dirrectly.
Does anyone know of somewhere on the internet where victims of sexual abuse to chat with one another and get
help?
My daughter was abused by her father during every other weekend visits.  As she got older she told her me, we went straight to the police,
and her father is now incarserated.  
She is now 18.  I can tell she has alot of problems stemming from this situation. I think she is a time bomb that will go off. She absolutely will not go to counselling but does agree that she needs to talk to someone.  
If anybody  has any ideas on something available on-line or any suggestions they are welcome.

[Coolio Hernendez]

Beargizmo....You sound like a great guy.......I'm pretty new to this as mine are 7 and 2....and i had the same deal with the 7 year old when other kids asked her one time wheres your dad and she brought them over to me....She was giving me a look like "i hope this is cool" and ofcourse it is...It was the happiest ive ever been.
She still calls me by my name...but if anybody asks who her dad is she points them to me.

To the original poster......Everything will be fine...You seem to really care and there are so many resources to help children with these issues.

[PromisedLand]

I feel rather strongly about this particularly subject.



Jim

[10356]

Thank-you Jim..... lesa

[PromisedLand]

I'm with you, Coolio...I don't understand how men, PARTICULARLY the fathers of young girls could do this...I'll never understand..he (the father in this case) essentially got away with it...a looooooooooooooooong story, but he did get the **** beat out of him by my now wife and hasn't seen his daughters grow up  into beautiful young women, or heard them say that they consider me their "dad", which means more to me than anything...when my wife and I married and I moved into the house...the house the father was supposed to live in with them but never did...I NEVER went into their rooms, nor touched them nor invaded any of their "space" unless asked to do so, or I got their approval...


Just a few minutes ago our 19 year old was here (she is living with her sister in an apt) and as she does everytime she leaves, she gave me the biggest hug, a kiss on the cheek and an "I love you, Jim"...and I love her as much as I love my own kids..we've always been close, and while she has had her time bomb moments, she does credit me with not making things worse.

The "father" left the country and the govt has atttached his wages for back child support to the tune of about $30K which they take out of his military retirement pay...here's a guy who could have retired at 40 and lived comfortably the rest of his life who is essentially nearly destitute..too bad.

My personal belief for abusers of  children...life without parole..they've given their victim's life sentences.

Jim

[nuredshuz]

I hope your daughter reconsiders counceling. Perhaps a group counceling or therapy would be good. I'd be afraid to go to something like that on line. There are so many freaks out in cyberspace. Who knows what kinda freaks would be on a sight like that. They could be posers and really hurt and victimize the people trying to get some help. Just something to think about.

[Coolio Hernendez]

I have two daughters a 7 year old (adopted her when she was 3 her dads in prison) and a 2 year old (biological)....I consider both 100% equal as far as love and bonding.

I never thought about things like this untill i became a father and now it really really bothers me and i have no idea how men are able to do things like this...

It is one of the worse things that can happen to a little girl....but there are many cases that the girl goes on to be a perfectly normal woman.

[PromisedLand]

good luck to you and your daughter...my 2 stepdaughters were abused by their "father" at a young age...they are now 23 and 19 and still suffer the effects.  I pray she will go to counseling and stick with it...our girls went when they were younger and (I wasn't around then) it sounds like they had the perfect counselor..but now they say they don't need it and they are fine but their actions/lives/attitudes, etc clearly show they need it...

our 19 year old was like your daughter...a time bomb...and she went off when she hit about 17 and it is still going off..


May God Bless you and your daughter


Jim

[flmagi]

Here's the MedHelp abuse forum.

http://www.medhelp.org/forums/show/147

Hope she gets the help she needs.

[lady67]

There is a thread on this site for people who have been sexually abused.  You will probably find more help there.

Good Luck