meth addiction

[scarlet8]

Hello all... I signed up on this site to get answers for unexplained pains in my arm, but perhaps it was a God send that i wound up here... my boyfriend is LONG time meth addict (20 years).. and wants to get clean, but has very weak will power. He seems to not be able to do normal day to day functions, unless he is under the influence. When he doesn't have any, he sleeps alot, periodically wakes to eat and be mean, and cruel. When he scores more,he binges, he goes to work, showers, does lawn work etc, til supply is gone, then the loop continues. I moved to Calif, from chicago 15 monthes ago to be with him, only to discover this terrible, evil addiction. any suggestions on how to help him would be awesome. money is huge issue keeping us from his going to rehab, as he is self employed, (contractor, tile setter ) and has no insurance. I'm trying to not give up on him, he has a good heart when not in a withdrawal rage.
scarlet

[singhabhishek251]

It sound good that you moved to be with him and do not want to leave him in this bad situation. First of all I will like to say you that you are doing a great work by helping him. You should continue to do so and you need to take him to some meditation classes so that they can help him gain the inner will to live for you.

[nemmajean]

Ok so I am a addict I nd help I do gd  most the time j sarted in 07 to losse my baby what then it got bad my bf and a buddy started cooking it I only smoked it  but he died in a car crash 09 after that I was clean for a yr then I started again I smoke for about a week  then clean for about  2 mo than repeat it over again y do I relapsing

[Savas]

Luv, I'd suggest walking out the door but if it was that simple you wouldn't be on here.

At the very least, try to get yourself in a position of "power". You should develop some friends and income seperate from his existence so when/if you do have to leave, you have the capability. A little over a year in a new place probably has you being mostly reliant on him.

[grievingwidow]

Dear, I think the thing for YOU to do is to leave this guy.  He will do nothing but drag you down with him, look for you have already given up for him.  Get out before it gets even harder to leave.  Maybe he will decide he had rather have you than the drug and then try to get help.  If any of my girls ended up with a guy like this, I don't know what I would do.

[scarlet8]

susieq, thanks for your input..he has it in his mind that he is physically and mentally addicted. i have heard him say he can't tie his shoes without it.. has himself truly convinced.... i must admit, from my own observations, if he doesn't have it, he won't get outta bed, except to eat anything/everything, be very critical, mean, and back to bed.. i've seen him do this sleep/eat, no other functions for two weeks at a time, then will get some, and stay up a week at a time, doing all sorts of meaningless repetitive things, and going to set tile, he's self employed tile contractor.. it has put himself, and now me, in financial ruin..when payday comes around, guess what's purchased BEFORE any bills get paid? i have to add that he does have a kind heart and spirit, when he isn't being a mean, hateful jerk with cravings, and withdrawal. thanks to all of you on this site, getting me thru some tough times, and soul searching....

[susieq87]

Altho meth isn't so much physcially addictive it takes its toll on your bod.  The plain and simple fact for many meth users is you have to go inpatient somewhere in order to get away frm the drug long enough to turn your thinking around.  There are state funded rehabs. Noone ever really wants to go, they usually wait until they are forced to.  Hopefully, he will see reason and research some state funded inpatients  Good luck

[toxictome]

Welcome to the  forum..got your friend invitation...thanks...It sounds like it's time for tough love. Do you want to live the rest of your life this way? Because unless he's ready to quit...he will stay in this viscious cycle, taking you down w/ him.....I'm sorry you didn't know about this before you up and moved away from all your family and friends....keep posting...we're here to help..i would move over to the other forum w/ your next question...i don't think you will get much traffic over here!!!

Good luck and stay strong!!!

[newmanagment]

sorry to say , but it is time for you to quit enabling him. he is using all excuses in his power , because he doesnt want to quit.. is he willing to try some NA meetings. they are free, and he will benefit. but it sounds to me like he is not ready to quit. sorry bout that, and it really isnt his fault, it is the addiction that is living his life right now!! and prolly will continue to steer him along until he says enough is enough. maybe when ya pack a bag and tell him your leaving he will wake up enough to realize he is losing his life a lil at a time! maybe not. im sorry for your situation, and i truly hope he seeks some help. there are probably some freee rehabs around , and he could always call TEEN CHALLENGE, they are a christian based rehab with a 97% no relapse rate. it is 750 for the first 4 months, and an 8 month aftercare that is around 600.... less money then he prolly spends a month on the dope!! good luck, many prayers, and much love....

[scarlet8]

yes he's a snorter, prefers the "good stuff" has the want to quit, but has very weak will power, uses the reason of not quitting cause of no insurance to go to rehab. not thinking he has the guts to quit cold turkey.says he's ready, but not a fighter, but ironically has the "push" to hunt it down to score more. spends  every dime he can to purchase.approx. 200 to 500 $$$ some weeks. binges hard core. he's 41, given 1/2 his life to so far. i gave up my grown kids and home of 35+ years to be out here with him before i discovered this evil secret. we went to local church to pray last mnday, and he scored fat sack tuesday morning. binged til thursday, slept friday, saturday, and scored more last night (sunday) been active doing alot of nothin since then, til this bag runs out. uses it in bathroom, never lets me see, but I HAVE EARS..and can easily tell when he's using. nowadays he just tries keepin low profile. I can't tell you how much i appreciate your feedback.

[usarmymedic1]

scarlett not much on the meth but if you need answers about your arms message me with you signs and symptoms I am a certtifed occupational therapist assistant with 6 years upper extremity rehab

medic

[newmanagment]

scarlett, i have alot of "friends" in my old home town that use and cook meth.. it is a very powerfull addiction, right up there with cocaine, my DOC!! is he smoking or shootin it, i asume he is because it takes a very high quality to snort. He is right in line, most of them will use and get very productive, had a friend that had the cleanest house around when he had "ice", but jus like your man, he was sleepin and a real bear when he was down... as for helping him, you are not gonna do that, unless he is ready to get clean he will continue to use.. he will not stop for you, his family, his health or anything else , untill he is ready to stop for himself. He will need some kind of treatment, unless he has some insane willpower. is he ready to stop, does he want control back, and is he a fighter? let us know ,and i can give ya more help... we usually "hang" on the other forum, but i will continue to check this post. feel free to message me if ya get tired of waiting, good luck and many prayers

[Jacqui805]

No sweat babe.  I posted on the other spot for you.  Hopefully you'll get some more help soon.  I can certainly talk to you more if you like too, PM me anytime as well.  It takes a while to get used to all of the features here and I'll help in any way I can there too.  

Jacqui

[scarlet8]

thanks ever so much, i'm new to the site, so navigating isn't easy yet. yes i will welcome any and all suggestions. bless you and thanks from bottom of my heart.
scarlet

[Jacqui805]

First of all, I hope you got the answers you needed about your arm....Your boyfriend is addicted and so his brain and body will literally not function properly without the med.  His physiology is temporarily changed.  It takes tons of will power and support to give it up, but most of all, the decision to do it in the first place.  This will have to come from him.  Withdrawl is rough and so you absolutely need to have those things I mentioned to get through it.  His brain will eventually go back to normal after some time, but he's gotta make the decision first.  Lots of folks self-detox by weaning and the like, and I'm thinking you'll get more help if you post this to the other site (Addiction:  Substance Abuse Community)  I'll put the message out for folks to come over here and read this so you don't have to worry about re-posting.  - Jacqui