wife left/worried

[finsfan4ever]

Not sure its a question but here goes....
I came to this web site three years ago with a terrible hydrocodone addiction, and after 12 long days of withdrawls, and working hard at it, I am 3 years clean. I have been happily married for twenty years (last month), and I did say happily!
I came home from work yesterday, and she was gone. All of her stuff and about $90,000 from our savings account.
I am devistated. We never argued, fought, nothing. We had made love the night before, and discussed vacation plans in the hot tub that morning. Now shes gone! Turned off her phone and just gone.....
I am concerned about my sobriety. Went to a meeting this morning, and I think it helped.
I'm not sure if I just want to know "why", or if something else is going on....
Everyone here has always had my back, and I credit them every day for saving my life 3 years ago.....
Please help me..................

[nursegirl6572]

Ok, this is going to sound really weird (it feels weird to even say).

I got this overwhelming urge to check on you, and for some reason, I got this flash of you drinking and living it up in a bar setting.

Are you doing okay?

I am not trying to offend you, I don't ever get those kinds of intuitions, so I had to say something.  Hope you're at home, in bed, doing something boring!  :0)

<3

[lulu747]

Honey you aren't whining- you're venting and it's healthy.
I will never tire of hearing your thoughts and feelings.
Ups and downs are normal.  Time to stop thinking about your wife and the future that is not to be, and time to start thinking about YOUR future and what you want for yourself.
Hitting up any support groups or counselling?  I think this is needed asap.
Love to you my friend
xo
Lu

[Chefs]

Hello Fin
I was wondering how you were doing.  Sounds like you are dealing in a normal fashion.  If you didn't have up and down days, i would be worried for you.  You are dealing with a very raw wound.  You sound like you are dealing in a healthy manner.  Your post often make me cry.  The whole thing really *****.  I am very new to this board.  I hesitated to start a profile.  I am so tired of being hostage to pain medication.  My husband told me the other day that it is changing my personality.  Ugh.....I know it has.  I just dont know what to do about it.  Do you have plans for the 4th?  Hope you are staying busy.

[finsfan4ever]

  Well, I am back home for a few days, mostly getting over the jet lag.
I went out fishing with a "friend" from Russia who is over here visiting.
He's actually a scary dude...lol
We caught four dolphin and shared old "war stories". I'll try and post a pic of me holding the last one I caught.
I am still about the same.... up then down.
I have always been about the future. My daughters future. My wife and I's future.
A lot of the time now it just seems pointless. My daughters future is just that...
HER future. How do you get over the twenty years part?
Sorry, most of my posts are just like my days, a little up, and a lotta down.
I LOVE you guys for putting up with me. I had paused with my posting because even I"M tired of hearing me whine.
Nurse n Lulu...hugs..... Me

[snakejones]

Wondering the same thing. Fin, come out and play with your FinFans!

[lulu747]

I'm with Nursegirl.  Sending out the bat signal...Please check in (:

xox
Lu