A sad story

[quitinoxys]

I just want to relate to all of you a very sad occurrence that I experienced at our Thanksgiving day day at my sisters house. We were all having a great time and I noticed my niece going to the basement room MANY times, so me having a suspicion of why she was disappearing I followed her to the basement.  I went down to see what was going on and found her snorting oxys. I said what are you doing and she told me was just trying this as her friend told her she would get energy to go out for black Friday. I said to her REALLY!!!! do you think getting F' ed up on oxys are going to get you more energy. I told her no my dear it is going to suck the life out of you. She then said I used to steal your pills, and how can you judge me when you did the same thing. I told her yes I made some major mistakes and I am trying to tell you you are in for a life of hell. She responded it is my life an I can do what I want. I told her with that attitude she will probably be dead in a year.

When I told her I was going to tell her parents my niece said "If you keep this between me and you I will turn you on to some oxys, I know you really what to do some".  My God how evil does addiction make us. I told my niece I would help her get through the addiction, but it fell on deaf ears. I am posting this to chronicle the huge problem that our that needs to be overcome as addiction is everywhere and it must not be overlooked.  I feel very sad that I had to post this but it had to be said......  

[atthebeach]

the addiction continues in my family. i knew my daughter was using on and off. i thought the last couple months she was doing better. she has been working 5 days a week for 3 months. wednesday morning she came home after staying out all night. she immediately ran to the toilet and was vomiting. she said i think i ate something last night that was bad. she looked terrible and slept all day. i told my husband i thought she had used. he asked her and she admitted she did roxys. i have been in tears since tuesday. this is a new drug for her. she had done coke and xanax before.she is 20. she has already been on probation, in iop,knows the hurt and devastration of  addiction from her dad and her brother. i am so distraught.

[gnarly_1]

Rick you did the right thing now you got to see how deep she is in with a little luck she is only dabbling and not addicted yet but you will find out over the next few days stick with this God got you in this for a reason if nothing else for intercessory prayer where praying on this end I went thew a horable addiction with my daughter that stated at 13 it why I have a heart for the young one on here you very well may have saved her life the street is an evil place I use to go in and out of crack houses chasing Sara down I feel for ya bro.......Gnarly

[dominosarah]

Most of us were very mad once someone caught on to our dirty little secret.  Hopefully she will use her "mad on" and clean up.  Keep us posted on how she is doing.

[quitinoxys]

Ash took my niece out shopping with her and is going to talk to her. Ash and my niece get along like sisters so she may be able to get some where with her. Right now she told me she is very mad at me and will never forgive me for telling her parents. I told her I am glad that I found out and told on her as she would probably die if she continued that life.

[Dav125]

This is sad Rick. She's dug in like a Georgia Tick with that attitude of her's..We've all heard it before and many of us lived it in our earlier days..Myself? I never could conceive it would be a legal prescription that raked me over the coals after years of playing in other minefields back 25 years ago..

The only suggestion I have that might bring some awareness to her without her having to humble herself to you is mentioning the forum and ask her to read some of the horror stories..In the context of "just do some reading...You don't have to believe what I say, but do yourself a favor and just take a minute to read about what other's experienced, and many that felt it would never cause them problems down the road etc as she seems to believe like many do..

After that, its her choice as to whether she wants to take a look and see what other's have to say about how it eventually robs everyone of their joys in life..

Myself personally am still astounded I never found this forum earlier than I did being it has been around 12 years or better. I had searched the wd subject over the past 6 years after my 2005 surgery trying to understand some of my ill feelings during short spells of having to be re-prescribed when I would overdo things physically during the time I was trying to readjust to the fact I could not physically do some of the things I did effortlessly in the past.. But for whatever reason,,I never got linked to this site until April of 2010...And boy was that a wakeup call. I started reading and the picture became crystal clear..I was in deep... Had I found it 6 years ago, I feel confident I would have never gotten caught the way I did..Those oxycontins are just flat out evil..Sneak in and by the time we realize the extent of their grip, we are already in a place of facing a world of hurt trying to walk away.. Thats a place I never want to revisit..

In some ways I guess I'm grateful I had to experience the horror as my children witnessed this..They saw what took place..And got a first hand glimmce of what can happen..They saw their invincible dad get knocked down to the point of crying like a child....Looking back, it had a very positive impact on them and from what I understand, some of their schoolmates screw around with these pill parties etc in which my kids gang up on them and let them have it in the form of being fools..My experience was certainly a lesson I never wanted to learn but some benefit did come from it..

She may not have acknowledged to you she heard what you were saying but just maybe some of your concerns got thru that thick skull of her's..Lets hope so and also hope she does take a minute to maybe do a little research on what it will do to her..From the sounds of it though, she's probably already crossed the line. She just hasn't realized that the reason she feels like crap without them is the fact she's already set herself up for the hard wd's we both know come's with that crap..Just a shame..Dav :(

[vicki595]

Good job Uncle Rick!  You've probably saved that girl's life.

[Innerstrength67]

This is very heartbreaking to read because as addicts we know the merry go round of addiction. The hard part to look at is this is a life or death sickness. In active addiction, most of us could have died at any point in time but the disease grips us do strongly and it's as if we just don't care what happens.
It sounds like she doesn't realize or care what she is doing to herself.
I think trying to get her to connect with other recovering addicts her age might be helpful. All you can do is tell her you are here for her.

[addict3]

I will keep her in my thoughts and prayers but, as sara said you know this has to be her decision.

I hope all works out well for your family.

[laurel453]

Maybe going to al.anon would help them... learning about not enabling her and all the stuff,... it will be hard, very hard for them cause we can not be helped unless we want the help. I am remembering now that at a time, i was so desperate for someone helping me but still unable of asking for it that i even resented my mother or those close to me for turning a blind eye on my behaviour. So be sure that doing as if nothing happens is never the way, tell your sister and brother in law that knowing is always better even if for the next months they wish they didn't know...her daughter is sick, not a bad person and she needs addressing this first of all... i spent many years looking at myself as a bad person, ashamed of myself instead of looking at me like a sick person....

[dominosarah]

This is so sad to hear.  I hope and pray your niece will take this opportunity to get some help now but you know as well as i do it has to be up to her.  You did all you can at this point.    sara

[quitinoxys]

I sat my sister and brother-in-law down this morning and told them about their daughters problem. I could see the hurt and pain in their eye's. They went to my niece and sat her down and talked to her. I stayed out of it this morning but I told them I will help in any way I can. I just hope m niece can see the light before its too late.---Rick

[laurel453]

sad, very sad, Rick... as Gnarly said, she has had to be on the pills for a long time since she was stealing yours... her reaction is of denial and trying to make you feel bad instead of her... you know , like when we think we can handle the situation and we are invincible... Did you talk to her parents ?  she is an addict and she needs help. Sadly, she wants to have it but maybe you can convince her to go to some meetings or talk to a youth addiction councellor, being among other young addicts looking for help might be good, if not in the short time in the long time...cause it is a matter of time that she will get there when she feels bad about it, destryed by the pills and wanting help.

[gnarly_1]

so sad to read .....its really hard with the young ones they dont know what there getting them selfs into.....but do any of use really when where in active addiction??.....well go to her parents and try a family intervention Rick you know you cant stop here she has to want to stop but at least you guys can try to get her some help....could you tell how deep she was in it?? I mean if she was steeling yours she has been at it a wile you got some major clean time right now you got to figure out if its got its hooks in her or she is stilll just dabbling here and there ether way its got to stop mabe turn her on to our web site sometimes reading this stuff will wake her up b/4 she is in over her head I feel for you dude it really su c k s when its family just do what you can and try and be there for her good luck with this one my friend I will keep your family in my prayers........Gnarly