Hi Again.
Bummer. Maybe if he goes to Church with you and gets involved in some Bible studies he would come around. Sometimes we have deep issues that we stuff away in our back pockets and most of these issues we are not even aware of. Going to AA would be better for him, as these meetings seem to be a bit more Spiritual. I agree with your counselor, you might have to put up some Boundaries and let him know you will not put up with this.
You are so right, when we use any mind-altering substances it changes our real personality. I have been reading some books that talk alot about the Frontal Lobe and how diet, sugar, coffee, drugs, booze, tv and so fourth can affect this area too. Maybe, just Maybe, if he knew a bit more about Addiction and the Brain he could get more info on what he is doing to himself and others around him.
Talk to the Pastor and see what they have to offer. I sure hope he does go to Church with you and Meetings. It does take some Time to understand it all, but we do grow more and more with this understanding. Also, the Big thing is too, that eventually we do damage to our Bodies, Heart, Kidneys, Liver, Stomach, Brain & so fourth. These bad habits are grooved in our Brain and we must change the singles to a new but better ones. All of this does not happen overnight or in a month to a yr. It takes Time, time, time & Patience...the 2 words that are spoken alot on here. I will have 4yrs in this month and I look at the ones that have 10 or more yrs. Wow, the knowledge and growth they have made. Just keep Praying that the Lord will wake up his Spirit and that you 2 can grow Spiritually together. To be equally yoked is a good one. I will be Praying for him 2.
Vickie
What a nice update! Congrats on 71 days now.
It is just a wonderful blessing when we surrender this back to our Lord.
You will see yourself growing and growing more & more. I will have 4yrs this month and ALL the changes I have been doing seems like it has been forever, but it is just because I have taken many steps to get here. Still growing and changing everyday, as I learn more & more. I find myself doing more Bible studying then anything else these days.(again). I have studied addiction in a more scientific way, as you know, to reading what the lord says about the Mind and our Temple. I have repented, been baptized for the 3rd time and have asked for forgiveness many times. I am looking at all of the things I have done from getting high and hanging with certain people throughout my life, to the damage I had done to my body & brain..However, I know most of it can be healed. Sometimes we ask the question "Why" did we do this to ourselves, but we have to remember not to beat ourselves up, as this is a Disease.
I am very happy for You and I think it is good that you and your fiance will be going to these support groups together. Now you both can continue to have such a better future together and when you marry you will be on the same page. Maybe you 2 will have a large Christian family and be very blessed. Hang in and never look back. Proud of YOU!
God be with...
Vickie
Hi Congratulations on your 71 days clean. I am just at the start of my clean time, day 3 from Fentanyl. You are lucky you have found a great support group and found God.
You have a second chance and are surrounded by love and the church and have a young son so make the most of it. Gnarly is correct
" You only keep it by giving it away "show love and compassion to others and it is repaid tenfold.
Staying clean needs support and you will find it here and at you Church.
Life is amazing once you are free of the pill count.
Look to the future and not the past.
Sending you lots of hugs xx
Hey girl......well it sounds like you found a great support group and it is always good to feel like you fit in..... a small group is always the best .. my home group with N/A is like 9 of us....some friday nights it is just us other it is a room full you never know.....but over the years I have made some great friend that Do care if I succeed that is what is important.....in N/A we make no distinction between drugs we focus on what we ALL have in common where addicts.. that support group is going to be your life line when life on lifes terms gets hard to manage....I am a hopeless dope fiend and drugs have always been my go to to get past stress...im also happy to here your new found love for God it is a spiritual awaking that makes recovery possible....you sound like you got a recipe for success so keep going to the group and church it is a winning ticket....we harp on aftercare so much here because we see those that use it and those that dont or try to go it alone the sad part.....those that dont come here over and over again anyway you have fought a good fight and im sure your one of the ones that makes it...one of the keys to do this long term....''you can only keep it by giving it away'' so offer to others what was offered to you here on the forum...I wish you only the best in your ''new'' life now and going to school to be a counselor is a great idea keep posting for support and to help others it really is a great way to help yourself..........Gnarly
Hey Hey a big congrats on 69 days clean!!!!! it always makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside to read a post like this.....being chained to a pill bottle is no way to live.....just keep doing what your doing it is working for you....My relationship with God grew strong threw the process yours will to...Jesus came to set the captives free and there isent much more captivating the active addiction....my wife just celebrated 27yr clean.....if you ask her she will tell you it is all from the power of the shed blood of Jesus.....it works for her....i need a little more structure so that and the N/A progam keeps me clean im sure you have heard this allot but get involved with some sort of aftercare it is a critical step to keep you clean im so happy for you these posts help a lot of people it gives them hope that if you did it so can they... hope to see you stick around and help others good luck and God bless
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