how sorry I am that you are going through this, keep calm, pray ask God for your serenity in the face of all this problem, but you should sit at a table as a family, and look at all the possibilities you may have to get off the medications, you can do it all together at the same time! include god first in everything !! my heart is with you, I send you a hug
It’s time to cut your son loose and let him live his life. Do you really want someone high working for you? There’s so much drama that isn’t your problem. Seriously I expect this from newbies not from someone working a program with a sponsor. Sometimes it takes someone else to tell you what they see. Your right in putting yourself first. Using isn’t an option. I live with my daughter and no one drinks or uses drugs. Life is simple and things make sense.
Well, as of right now, my daughter in law has been clean since October 9th....she's doing outpatient at a local facility and going to meetings daily. She's back living with her parents (with my grandson) and seems to be doing well. I speak to her every day and her parents. My son, however, has left treatment early and moved in with some dude he met in treatment. Because of the decision he made..........he's on his own. No money, no car, no job, nothing. So far, my husband is our family's weakest link so we all have to stay on top of him. My son knows who the weakest link is so that's the one he calls for smokes, and money, etc.... The answer is NO. He swears up and down he's clean and we're all a bunch of a**holes for not believing him. That's ok....he can believe what he needs to. He knows where we are and when he's ready, we will be there.
The last 2 months have been exhausting. I'm still clean!
So yesterday I had to leave work and bring my son to Odessey House in New Orleans for detox. NO MATTER how hard I try, this was the only option at this point. He will then be entering a 28 day program. I'm scared ******** but I KNOW he can do this.....I just don't know if he WANTS to do this? When you get cornered and have no more options...........I don't know. However, when I got home and spoke with his wife (they are living with us due to Hurricane Ida) it was told to me that his wife is in just as much trouble. I'm at a loss people...........she doesn't want to involve her family b/c they will blame my son (and I can't say that I would blame them!) Do I help her without involving her parents? Will my son be able to handle it if he gets out of treatment and his wife is gone? I know I didn't cause this.......but I sure as hell am trying to FIX (control) it!!! My good old fashioned addict behavior is totally showing! I'm talking with my sponsor but I'm still not sure. I find it so much easier to help people that AREN'T MY CHILDREN!!!!! Even though I know what I should do.........it's hard to do.