Good post Sara.......... and everyone
Welcome to the forum......Make sure you take care of yourself and your children right now. Alanon is a good place to start. Dont enable him in any way. Would your husband be willing to come here and read these posts?? sara
Knowledge is power - learn more about addiction. The best thing you can do for an addict struggling to admit they have a problem or trying to get clean is set boundaries. What you will and won't do and how far you're willing to go. Addiction is absolutely a family disease and while his addiction is NOT your fault, you do play a role in it. Learning what that role is and setting limits to how far his addiction will affect your life will only benefit him in the long run. But he has to admit there's a problem and actively seek help on his own. Some people fare well with an intervention by professionals, some people respond to a heart-to-heart, some people even respond to scare tactics. But ultimately, unless he wants help for himself, no help can be given. Stick around this forum, read posts, talk to other people - there's tons of support here.
Welcome to the forum.. I really wish it were as simple as something we say that will cause a addict to quit their drugs.. You can say you love him.. you miss him and that you are afraid he is going to die.. You can tell him how much it has changed him and that you do not recognize the person he has become.. You can tell him of your unhappiness your worry and fear.. I would hope this would make a impact but in most cases The addict has to be sick of being a addict.. many have come close to loosing their family and or have lost them.. I'm very sorry that you find yourself here reaching out for support.. But it is good as you need support also.. there are many on this forum that have family members addicted and they are not.. addiction effect everybody.. Please try to educate yourself on his medication and on addiction it's self Knowledge will give you a insight to your husbands addiction you may not of had before.. read the forum reach out for support.. I wish you and your husband the best.. lesa
AS A PERSON WHO IS CURRENTLY TRYING TO STOP PAIN MED, ALL I CAN SAY IS TRY TO UNDERSTAND, BE SUPPORTIVE AND LOVE HIM NO MATTER WHAT. AS I HAVE READ ON THIS FORUM, LIFE IS SO MUCH BETTER W/OUT DRUG, REMIND HIM OF THAT. DO YOU HAVE KIDS? I DO AND I AM DOING THIS AS MUCH FOR ME AS I AM MY FAMILY. JUST SUPPORT HIM AND REMIND HIM HOW GOOD HE WILLL FEEL WITH EACH DAY THATS PASSES, AT LEAST THAT IS WHAT I THINK AND HOPE FOR ME!!! GOOD LUCK!