Busted

[worried878]

My brother is in town so we all went bowling...my nieces, my sister, my parents, mydaughter and her hubby and child...my whole family minus a few as the others live out of town also....i was supposed to go to a st paddys day bash but chose to go there/with my family instead...enjoyed...get up to leave and pull out my keys...my son-in-law says "Is that a NA keychain" right in front of everyone...I say "No" and walk on....geez...what a  bumber!

[flmagi]

ouch! So nobody questioned it further? How does your son-in-law know what a N/A key chain looks like? Don't be surprised if someone doesn't get you alone and ask some questions. Good luck, and yes bumber! But on the other hand, you should be proud, but I also understand wanting to keep it under wraps.

[cathy5841]

hi magi good to see you.

worried that is a bummer, and as magi said be prepared for a few questions.  you dont have to go into details,  remember it is up to you what you reveal.  but i on brighter note.  i am proud of you, you have come along way and should your head up high.  you are beating this thing honey

[MizDemeanor]

ARGH I would have died too! I know there is nothing to be ashamed about in getting help but dang thats a rough one, and as magi said, how did he know it was an NA keychain? Is that like an AA chip? (excuse the ignorance but I have no NA experience, only AA via my ex)
If anyone asks you, I think its totally up to you what you tell them. As long as you are getting better and doing well its your business. With that said, I know how my family is and they would be grilling me...so I know it might be hard.
Either way or whatever happens, you are doing the right thing for you and Im sure your family would MUCH rather know you are recovering than being a family that has to do an intervention. I hurt so much for families who try to deal with addicts who are using. At least pat yourself that you saved them that now.
Keep the faith, baby, and hang tough! "All in all, its just another brick in the wall" ... (If you are old like me you will recognize that ..lol) For the babies its Pink Floyd and if you dont know who they are Im prolly yer Gramma, heh.
Peace~

[newmanagment]

MIZ "we dont need no education" LOL
worried- i feel for ya, but i like magi , think you should be proud.. NA is an awesome help to countless people everyday. tell em you joined for a firend. or if your sick of lieing, tell em the truth! you are a wonderfull, caring  person, and i know your family loves you. they will probably suprise you with their reactions!! you may even find some of them knew more than you think.we usually only fool ourselves, those that know us best usually sense when things are going on. dont know who said it but its right "The truth will set you free"  .....much love

[sterling_silver]

I know you might feel bad and scared now. But, this was a good thing. I hope they shower you with support. Once they all know, and there are no secrets, it goes a long way in avoiding a relapse. This is just another step in your recovery. You will feel good about this in the near future.

[flmagi]

Or you can just say you found it and didn't know what it was. But like newmngmnt. said, people may have sensed something was up.
Just as long as you stay proud. Privately or publically.

[worried878]

You know i am home and my heart is still fast-tracking....he did not say NA...he said "narcotics anonymous"....most of my nieces and such do not know what a narcotic is....my mom knows about all this as I told her....my dad, sister, daughter, brother, his wife and my 21 year old niece who I helped raise...do know what a narcotic is...how he knows this, I have no IDEA!....he is a pain in the butt and causes my daughter much difficulty...I  love him and they have been married or 9 years and he is only 30 now?   my daughter is 26...how could he know?   maybe a friend or employee as he owns an air conditioning company....he does love to drink and will take a few on occasion but really do not think he has been to NA...I am very happy my son was not there as he would defieitely know as he worked at a methadone clinic and i would be cringing right now...I am the rock for my children and never want them to know about this...they can not help me and there is just no point in them knowing...I am crying!

[Shotrock]

iT WON'T BE BROUGHT UP AGAIN. mOVE oN.

[worried878]

I will...move on...may be tomorrow tho!   LOL....i move on quickly...feel it and let it go...i am feeling it right now and that is how i cope...i dont hang onto to it long tho....gotta feel it right now tho...thanx

[worried878]

Well...when u r 24 hours clean, you get a white keychain that says NA on it...on the back it say "just for today"   I was so proud that i went 24 hours...i put it on my chain...1 month u get another and so on/different colors...i was leaving when this happened so I just said "NO" and kept going...did not stay to answer questions as I had stood up and was leaving when this happened

[whathefu_k]

Hi worried. Sorry that happened to you. I know you don't need more drama in your life right now. It sounds like you did a fairly good job of blowing it off.
Keep your chin up- and maybe get a new keychain
Sleep well

[Flutterby111]

You could always say it is a friend's who wanted you to have it.....if it's even to come up again......not that lying is the solution, but it's not really anonymous if they all know about it is it?  That's why the last time I was involved in NA, I stuck to the medallion....I kept it in my pocket, where only the people I wanted to see it, would....It's ok sugar....you deserve to be proud of yourself.  YOu know the hell we'v ebeen through....but it's only up from here, right?  :) Peace.

[Flutterby111]

But, how did you bowl? I suck!!! Except on the Wii, hmmmm.....maybe I'll challenge the hubz to a game on the Wii.....sorry, hun, just trying to make you smile :)

[worried878]

u r very right...guess i was just so dern happy to be clean...didnt figure anyone knew what NA stood for cept us....took it off my key chain....cant be labeled now...this is my disease and my probelm...I will share with those who understand...as those who do not can not help me anyway...I was about to say "keep posting"   LOL   but it is me   duh!

[Flutterby111]

LOL, keep posting Worried, we're here for you!!!! muah!

[NautyOne]

Maybe Next time you should ask for the bumper sticker.......lol.  

[confused456]

Girl, you are hilarious! Gotta luv ya!! KEEP POSTIN!!

[persnick38]

I'm sorry that happened to you. I did not tell any of my friends/family that I was addicted or that I am trying to recover. As I was reading your post and all of the responses it struck me as so sad that we feel the need to hide what is such a huge accomplishment. Don't get me wrong, I'm not suggesting anyone (myself included) start wearing "Addict in Recovery and proud of it" T-shirts but it's too bad that we have to feel so ashamed of what is essentially a disease. People who are recovering from cancer generally proudly share the amount of time they have had in remission. And they should.
Sorry to get on the soapbox. I just wish we lived in a better, less judgmental world that would be free of prejudice of all kinds.

[Flutterby111]

great point.....wouldn't that be a beautiful place to live????  I told quite a few actually....but I haven't told my dad about the emotional toll it's taken....I sort of left it at the physical withdrawls....my mom however has been a life saver.  and husband...and few friends know the details..... we should get a marathon and raise money for recovery!!!! :)

[NautyOne]

I apologize for my above post.  Someone brought it to my attention.  I was not paying attention to the thread.  I saw a bunch of lol's and I thought you were joking about it.  I didn't realize how upset you were .......


Luv,
Nauty................

[Oxykicker]

You have nothing to be ashamed of, you are a wonderful person, and anybody who says different can go and suck,I cannot know how you feel, but I told everybody, and if they didn't like it , well they were not friends then, only we know how much pain you suffered, others just cannot imagine, so stand tall worried, you are a towering strengh to us all.

[scared2Bwithout_my_Vees]

If they ask you about it can you just say that you have a friend or friends who are working on quitting their addictions and had it bc you are proud of them?  That wouldn't be a lie.  I know you have moved on from worrying about it & I'm happy you can do that!  I just wanted to add my 2 cents because I feel for you!!!