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415399 tn?1209504302

Crispy, did not understand

How was it with your girlfriend? what was the outcome and what did I say that was the same as your girlfriend.
How did you treat her when you where "using" and what made you decide to quit, please help
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401095 tn?1351391770
I sometimes think that i have a sign on my head that attracts the same type of man...not usually addicts tho,,,in fact never except the alcoholic...a different type of man but not good for healthy relationships..."the conquer u and then i am over it type! i have decided to look within to find why this is...i mean they are carbon copies of each other after i get to know them.....as of late i just remain aloof and i dont get attached anymore and that is not a way to deal with it either...i am ur age and i think dating/relationships at this age are hard!  Good luck
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415399 tn?1209504302
I hope so as this is the worst I have ever seen him and even though this is his doing I so hate to see him suffer, this is not funny but ironic in the most perverse way.
I am 47 I have a son who's Dad died when I was pregnant in 2000, the first relationship I had was not until 3 years ago, that to was strange I knew something wasn't right but couldn't put my finger on it only reason being have never been around anybody that did "coke" when I did find out he promised he would quit which he did only after the "coke" dealer shot himself in the head, so no more "coke" instead he ended up getting strung out on crystal meth and thats when he became physically abusive, with the "coke" he was just creepy, paranoid and downright wierd, when he hit me in front of my little man I threw whatever I could into my car drove 1200 miles to my sisters to get away from him, left everything and everyone I knew, the irony is this even though he abused me he never ever made me feel less than as a woman sexually, and now I am at the total polar opposite, OK get out the crayola's and color me stupid.
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213991 tn?1214273019
sounds like your not a stupid woman so i wish you the best of luck and hopefully he gets tired of w/d all the time i know thats what did it for me. No point in going through life feeling good and then feeling like shyt when it could all be avoided.
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415399 tn?1209504302
I have done everything possible that I know of, I have talked and talked and told him how his addiction and W/D's not only hurt him but how they also affect others, also to me its insane to go through the same thing every month, he W/D's he suffers for a while then he is fine , gets his script refilled and then he is fine till the next time which is every month, he is also Rx'd Androgel but it doesn't work.
Crispy I have spoken to him and I have cried with him but I know there is nothing I can do its up to him, I love him to much to cheat on him just for the sake of sex thats not me anyway, its my decision to stick it out with him and love and support him and consider the possibility of buying me a "toy" with re-chargable batteries (so joking) that is not me either. But thank you all this is a good place to come to. I am totaly receptive to any advice or just to have someone to talk to. Also even though I have a medical background, I worked in a level 2 trauma center (was a paramedic), I understand  addiction clinically but at the same time I dont as I have never had a drug problem, I am no snow white I have done my fair share of "stuff" but I always knew when enough was enough.
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401095 tn?1351391770
I dated an alcoholic and had the same problem....i did not realize he was an alcoholic til well into the relationship...it was hit and miss as far as sex went...It was a blow to my ego to feel sexually unattractive which is how i felt....not a good way to have a relationship at all...i wish u luck with it and perhaps he will quit and you can enjoy intmacy with him,,,if not...i would move on
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460948 tn?1232302122
I don't know your story, but I can tell by what's being said here that you're in a bad place right now with your boyfriend. I'm really sorry hon!!
If you ever need to talk send me a PM!! Take care hon and please realize this isn't your fault and there's nothing you can do to change it.
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213991 tn?1214273019
no one will ever interupt a conversation, its always good to know other ppl are going through the same thing.
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I do not mean to interrupt your conversation with Crispy, but your story sounds a lot and very similar to mine, and I am sorry you are also having to deal with this problem.  My b/f of 3 yrs. is also addicted to Oxycontin.  He did attend rehab almost 3 or 4 yrs. ago, got straight and then relapsed.  By the way he was treating me and our relationship was the way I actually found out the truth - that he had turned back to abusing Oxy (snorting).  He did supposedly try to get off of them again, but couldn't without the nasty withdrawals.  I did so much research and learned about Suboxone.  My b/f also has a new job recently, so he could not actually deal with the withdrawals, so he was willing to try the Suboxone.  I found a doctor who agreed to see him ($300 per month, long-term treatment w/counseling, etc.).  He started the Suboxone and has stayed on it for approximately 6 weeks, and is now in the process of trying to wean himself off of them to become totally drug-free.  The Suboxone has seemed to help him, and I do hope he continues to stay away from the drugs.  Our relationship is not normal yet, but I guess time will tell if it returns back to the way it used to be when he was drug-free.  I just wanted to share my story and tell you that you are not alone, and you just need to be strong and try to either help him get the help he needs, or you need to make yourself happy.  You can only help someone who wants help.  Good luck.
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213991 tn?1214273019
Im sorry to say but as long as hes using it will always be like that. Hes chasing the high and the pills are stoping the erections. Even when I took a anabolic compound (legal) that i have taken pre-pill days i would walk around at attention but i took it again when i was on pills and nothing. Your in a bad spot and i feel for you. Have you tried talking to him about how your feeling? And i mean talk to him not just say something just to have it go out his other ear.
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415399 tn?1209504302
Because this is exactly my story, when it comes to sex he makes me feel like I have leprosy, so I dont ***** anymore, I want him to make love to me because he wants to not just to shut me up, besides it rarely ever gets "up there" anyway so what the point.
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213991 tn?1214273019
I would stick myself in the back room high usually playing video games. We would go months 2-3 months at a time without having sex. She would constantly call us roomates would get mad when i pulled away from her everytime she tried to touch me sexually. The only time I would have sex was when she would ***** every day for a month straight then i would time out my pill distribution for when she got home. So basically was only having sex to shut her up and stop ruining my high. Its a bad way to live especially with someone that has done so much more then a person should do for someone who says they love them but never shows it. When i quit my first time for 2 months after 2 weeks it felt like i was 16 again my libido came back full force. Then when i started back the past 4 months fell back into the same pattern. But my libido is coming back again 9 days clean but not full force. I got tired of running out of pills and always w.d for 3 days when i couldnt get any its no way to live and it affected the person that has put her love, happenies and well being ahead of her own just to help a addict get back to the person she met and fell in love with. When i was high i didnt think it was a big deal i thought just being around her from time to time was enough but thats how us addicts think. When were high everything and everyone is fine or being dramatic.
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