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Day 12 and just need to vent
My husband knows I am on day 12 and I do Not want to be touched, or have sex I just don't feel good. It is like he is a little baby pressuring me, when I tell him to just give me space and let me heal. Then he tells me he is unhappy in the relationship, Im like really can you just give me a break. I have been sleeping on the couch as well because that is where I feel most comfortable. Tonight I told him I was sorry but I cant meet his needs and I need to put me and this first!!! I wish he would stop. Sorry to vent this has just been building up day after day
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Congratulations on 12 days! I am so sorry that he is trying to make you feel bad because you are not into it right now. :( some say that it helps up those endorphins. Lol I am right there with you though I did not want to do it either. He needs to understand what you are going through and that you are doing something awesome for yourself and for him. Try not to let him stress you out. It is great to vent! Get it out honey and keep up the good hard work :)
Hlpplse, I just wanted to give you props on your First 2 Weeks. Yaaaaay!! Well done, You!! Hope You have a good one today!
I am so glad you talked with him and he is going to be more supportive :) you have to put yourself first right now. Today will be 2 weeks right? Congratulations!!
Thank You so much for your post, yeah he has no idea how hard this is and what an emotional roller coaster I'm on. I'm just trying to take one step at a time and his pressure is hard. We talked today and he is going to try to be more supportive. I'm almost to 2 weeks and so glad to almost be there. Have a great weekend
You all are my family. Thank You
You all are my family. Thank You
Hi there! First, A Hearty Congrats on Day 13, Hipplse!
2nd, he's the one who should be sleeping on that couch right now! On reading your post, I had the same thoughts as thumper52 above: To bring him to the site & to have a serious, open & most of all -- 'Grown-Up' discussion with him. He obviously doesn't have an inkling of what you're going through & needs an education. The fact is, 'needs' or not, he can wait!!!
I'd also second ouchie1987 & ROSYouralright. Most likely, your drive will not only return but you might find yourself in overdrive in early PAWS. However, (& you might tell him this), it might be his very insistence & inability to give you time/space that might hinder this process!! (I mean, we're on such an emotional/physical roller-coaster during acute w/d's!) So, it would actually be in his longterm best interests to let you heal & to show some patience/compassion.
Thanks for posting & getting this out!!
2nd, he's the one who should be sleeping on that couch right now! On reading your post, I had the same thoughts as thumper52 above: To bring him to the site & to have a serious, open & most of all -- 'Grown-Up' discussion with him. He obviously doesn't have an inkling of what you're going through & needs an education. The fact is, 'needs' or not, he can wait!!!
I'd also second ouchie1987 & ROSYouralright. Most likely, your drive will not only return but you might find yourself in overdrive in early PAWS. However, (& you might tell him this), it might be his very insistence & inability to give you time/space that might hinder this process!! (I mean, we're on such an emotional/physical roller-coaster during acute w/d's!) So, it would actually be in his longterm best interests to let you heal & to show some patience/compassion.
Thanks for posting & getting this out!!
Thank You everyone for your support, Day 13 now... I'm in for the long run no matter what:) have a good weekend
Your sex drive will return! No doubt about that! He has the tools (2 hands) at his disposal to take care of himself for a little while while you are recouping! Marriage is in sickness & in health... He may need to remember his vows! Best of luck to you and congratulations on 12 days! Your doing great!
Perhaps he needs an education. OFFER to open this website and go to the information about narcotics withdrawl, side effects etc. Read and chat about it with him. What your going through is VERY PERSONAL, yet in many ways as personal for him. What was the relationship really like when your usage was high? Was this the reason? Maybe you two really need to spend time doing some honest, mature, soul-searching together. Best of luck to you.
It's ok I hear once ur feeling better ur sex drive will thrive n I bet then he won't have anything to complain about. Lol.
Ur hubby jus wants you cuz ur irresistible. Soon he will have the real you back tell him to jus give u time
Ur hubby jus wants you cuz ur irresistible. Soon he will have the real you back tell him to jus give u time
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