oh I'm sorry...I thought it was a new relationship and he was a boyfriend. I didn't read your second post saying you were married together for 33 years.
Yes... Crack is very hard on someone's health, so much that it's scary.
The best thing you can do is convince him to go into a treatment program since you two have the money.
Pinpinpatrick is right, after staying up a few days straight, especially on crack, you begin to hallucinate. It's not possible to stay up completely a few weeks without any sleep, not a chance. For some rock bottom is not enough to stop, so think about yourself now. Easier said than done, but why would you want to live like this any longer, jail did not even help him. Crackheads in active use, dont' care about anything but their next fix. Get some help for yourself, your worth it. Here is a link for al anon if your willing to check it out, it's for family members of addicts. Good luck and sorry your going through this:)
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
I empathize with you, and all I can contribute is that Love will never heal, and no matter how much you love him, and cant leave, then at least get some help for your self. I am right there with you on this, and I cant leave, I cant even begin to think what I would do without him, but at the same time I have made for darn certain, he cant take me down with him. Please try to get things in order for your self, before he takes you the business and him self into a place you cant recover from. I wish you all the luck, please feel free to msg me any time you just need to talk. HUGS
those stars i don't know why they censored it... i put treatment programs.
If he is smoking that much crack... clearly the drug has taken control of him...
If he's smoking it every waking hour of the day and only sleeping every few weeks... he must be in another world...
If someone went even 3 days with no sleep... not even on any drugs whatsoever, they would start hallucinating.
You have to leave this person. That's just too much crack use for anyone to be sane. Even in many ************** programs, they always recommend the addict to refrain from having a relationship until at least 1 year sobriety.
OMG I am so sorry for what you have to go thru...Is there any way for you to quit it all without losing it all? If he can skim off your money, believe me you're gonna loose it all to crack anyways.
I know that 33 years of marriage is an achievement but please think about you and the life you have been building for yourself. There's NO way he's gonna quit in that mind frame.
xoxoxo. sophie.
I try to make him leave but we have been married for 33 years and it is really hard to do. We also own a tavern in town and there is an unlimited amount of money from there that he can skim off the top so i doubt he will ever hit rock bottom. I just can't imagine his health will hold out forever it has to be hard on your body i know i couldn't do it i'd be gone along time ago. It has been a few years now that he is into this except for his 7 months in jail.
I agree with sophie. Think about yourself.....My oldest sister was on it BAD and still is. I cut off contact with her because that drug just takes control of people and willmake them do things they normally wouldnt.. Im sorry your going thru this....
Hi and welcome to the forum!
Unfortunately, you can't help him, he's gotta decide it's over and kick off.
You can wait all you want but nothing's gonna change if he doesn't want to. Crack is one he!! of a drug to quit, he really will need to hit rock bottom. IMO, If I was you I'd think about myself and get outa there as fast as I can.
Best of luck.
xoxoxo. sophie.