Harsh Responses

[Firefaery1023]

When I first started on this forum, I noticed that everyone was so nice.  I have noticed lately that some people have said some things that seem to be a little harsh to people that are trying to get off of their DOC.  I just wanted to let people know that everyone here is reaching out to get help and that we don't want to be turning people away when they are asking for help.  I am not sure if people mean to be harsh or if it just is hard to tell because it is over the computer.  Could we just read our responses before we post them to people's questions so that we don't turn anyone away?
Thanks!
Fire

[TrayCee]

D R A M A

[worried878]

Seems like a while ago that we had a thread like this that was a bit on the negative side and then there is just no more to be said really....kinda seems like time to let it die and get back on track helping people and the new people sure dont need to see all this for days and if we keep posting on it...like dummy me just did...it will keep bumping it to the top........dern!

[LateAugust]

Sorry,  but I want to say that I have messaged puranx  due to his/her postings, for insight and help,  and had a informative and sincere response.  I am sorry to see him/her singled out,  friends  and family addicts ?,  now that was harsh  and he/she is in early recovery.    I am not going thru withdrawal,  I am going thru it with my daughter.  I search the internet for any and all info I can find to educate myself and try to know  just an   iota of what she is going thru,  I ask for help on this forum last week.....and I ask for candor,  and quite frankly that is exactly what I got.  

I wish you all well,   and will continue to read as a way to educate myself,  and when my daughter is stronger I hope she will visit this site, in addition to her daily NA  mtgs.  councelor  and psychiatrist appts.    And I wish puranx  much success,  and very much appreciate his/her support and experience.

Addiction seems to come with a lot of drama, or so I have personally experienced, regardless of the communicatin method.

My best wishes to all.

[CadillacJack]

Well, sadinmichigan;

I come by it honestly. A few years back, I owned 7 caddys. I'm down to 3 right now. I like the old ones. The're just so outrageous, I guess. My favorite is a 57 fleetwood. It's like 18 feet long, and just oozes down the road.

[sadinmichigan]

I think we have gotten all over it..ya know it's usually that one or two people who stay consistent in their responses..probably meaning well but comming off differnet..But no ones going anywhere..right Hops!!!  and by the way cadillacjack...really like the name..

[CadillacJack]

Thanks, sadinmichigan. And we probably all say things that are wrong to say, sometimes though passing judgment is not to be condoned. I hope all can forgive & forget whatever problem has taken place here.

[bubbaganoosh]

Ive found everyone to be caring and helpfull just my 2 worth

[sadinmichigan]

glad you missed it and thanks for apologizing..(just kidding) glad to hear your going on day 16...

[CadillacJack]

Good evening. Looks like I missed something. I think we all have it in us to be somewhat blunt at time. But I sure don't want to think about anybody leaving because of something said in what very well may be just a bad moment. I totally missed the crux of this situation, but I've got to say, as bad as some comments might be, this forum is, at it's worst, a very uplifting place. Hopsing, I sure hope that you reconsider signing off. You're one of the most supportive members that I've seen here. I don't mean to leave anybody out. Just a comment where it might help. I hope you all cool off a little, and get past the problem. I've only been here two weeks, and I've been hammered some for my expressed opinions, though they have nothing to do with what anybody else does, I've expressed my thoughts as recovering applies to my self. People offend others innocently at times, Like I said, I have no idea what this is about, but I do know that sometimes people have trouble expressing themselves wholly, and offenses are sometimes taken when no were actually intended. I hope this will be resolved without animosities. Further, if I have offended anybody, I sincerely apologize. I totally agree that nobody should find fault with any others approach to there own recovery. This stuff is personal to us, and needless to say, we are all somewhat on edge. best wishes to all. By the way, I'm finishing up day 15.

[wait2long]

i second that Mary...

[GoingToMakeIt]

Interesting. two things we should practice the most but not talk about. :)
It is true, this is an addiction forum and that needs to be our focus.

[allaboutmary]

I know , my bad. lol

[Mikeinthesouth]

two things one should never discuss religion nor politics. LOL

[allaboutmary]

OBAMA   sorry just had to do it.

[122 Tactical Fighter Group]

I have noticed the difference in the forum since around Feb or such. Different people are around more frequently, new people making friends, etc.

No one mentioned the "non-druggies" that occassionaly stir things up - some lunatic student that has no street/practical experience yet thinks he has the answer for the whole world - like, get clean four hours a day or something.....I don't mind if they educate themselves here - but we don't need to be experiments for some theory either.....and occasssionaly they start some lively discussions

[hopsing94]

ugggg I want no part of that ARMY  LOL LOL

[Army220]

Lets move on.  I can see both sides.  This is starting to sound like a Hillary vs. Obama debate.

Army

[sadinmichigan]

you are tooooo funny..LMAO

[Mikeinthesouth]

i agree hop

[hopsing94]

There is nothing wrong with straight up. Just ask Gizzy about straight up thruth. When he first came here I gave it to him straight but I didn't make him feel like his method of getting clean was wrong and there was no way he was gonna succeed. I don't think there is a problem with telling someone the truth of the matter.  Lets just use our better judgement. We are all here for the same reason and yes except for the 1 or 2 passers by it is a great forum.

[Mikeinthesouth]

lol I would have to ask my wife for the names SHe records them on the tvo everyday. OOOWWWWW Thats pain..

[Flutterby111]

You are so funny.....I just had a dream this morning I was in an episode of Days of Our Lives.  I was putting on a ball gown with Hope and Brady and WTF is her name....Chloe were going to be there...and my bra kept sticking out and I was so pissed and we were in this PHAT hotel.....soap operas........and so like the sands of the hourglass....these are the days of our lives........on drugs.

[worried878]

Long thread....and we have had this discussion before...i think cathy and jacquii, toxic and avisg....I feel that if I do not have anything positive to add then I should ignore the post and refrain from posting....if someone is asking for advice, then I can always give my opinion and it is always good to state "I" did this or that...or "If I did this or that" and to state that everyone is different...we all know that one way does not work for all....and everyone has a different situation/circumstance and personality...I had not noticed anyone being out of line but I am not on here all the time...I do think it is good to have a mix....some that say "It is ok, keep trying " and some that tell it straight up....i appreciate straight up...but I do know that many do not...again...everyone is different

[lostdreams]

Agreed! Lets get this place back to where all are happy rather than feeling dis-heartened!!