I've been married for 10 years now, My wife and I have had our ups and downs dealing with the kids and just financially trying to make it these days. A little over a year ago I noticed she was getting high on prescription pills on a daily basis.. As time went on I could see the affect the drugs was having on her. She stopped being the loving mother to our children and a loving wife. Not to mention the times where her own daughter would try to wake her up from being so stoned and could not wake her up.
As the year passed it seemed to be what she lived for. She would work or do something with the garden and she would come in at noon and take her pills. and stay messed up the rest of the day, then once 7 o'clock came around it was time to load back up. She would take pain pills, muscle relaxers, adivan, sleeping pills, and cold meds . About 20 min later she would stumble to the bed room to lay down.
It got to a point where she could not remember a simple conversation we had. We started having arguments on this and it would always come back to something I was doing wrong and I would end up feeling guilty for something I never even did. One day this past summer she got really messed up, and once again our oldest couldn't wake her up. So I had to shake her to wake her up. She had no idea what was going on. She went to the bed room and past out again.
I finally got angry about it, and I lost my cool about it. I told her that if she didn't get help I was taking the kids and leaving. This seemed to open her eyes a bit and she told me about a time where she took to much one time and woke up struggling to breath and had defecated on herself. I thought I had got the message across to her.
However after time, I started to see that same blank stare, her face starting to sink in and her abnormal behavior. I would confront her about this once again explaining that I have known so many people to die from doing this exact same thing. Her reply was. I know what I'm doing (she's a nurse) Nobody can help me, and It's the only way she knows how to cope.
I explained to her those are the same things every addict says. She will still not admit to anything and she started lying about her medication intake. She even told our oldest daughter not to tell me about some prescription pills she had received . My daughter didn't tell me, I found the pills on my own. I knew she was lying about what she was taking, I just couldn't prove it until now.
I don't know what to do next, If I say something again , only thing will happen is another huge argument. I don't know where to turn next or how to make things better. I don't want to take my children away from their mother, however I do not want them to find her dead one morning before school or come home from school and find her dead either. If anyone can let me know what steps to take next, I will forever be in dept to you.
Thanks