Please Help!!!!

[scared4myfamily]

My fiance and I have been together for 5 years. This past Thursday he came clean to me about his Hydrocodone/Oxycontin addiction to which he has been addicted for 2 years. He has since decided to go "cold turkey" and I got him all the vitamins and other at home basics he would need. My problem now is after a 12 hour day at work I came home the other day to find him gone. He has since told me that he needs to be away from our home together and to work things out physically and emotionally. He has been venting to family and other friends, and practically emotionally abusing me with beating me over the head with our petty problems. It's almost as though his mentality is "I'm and addict and it's YOUR fault!" I don't know how much more of this I can or cannot take and I feel as though we are at a complete stand still. I have done countless amount of research on how to help him (in-patient, out-patient,ect, ect...) but realistically I can't force him to do any of this. He says he's serious about getting clean, but I'm worried about relapse, and his emotional state becoming the demise of our relationship. I have a 7 year old to think about, (who by the way doesn't really have any idea of what's going on), my question is: How much of this is the WD symptoms? What do I do?

[Ella789]

He is stabbing you in the back girl,  sorry, but no one is crazy when they go through W/D and this is not an excuse!  It's a cop-out for others to feel sorry for him and excuse his louzy behavior with the drugs!   Addicts in denial will say and do whatever they need to.  He needs a dose of reality,  rock bottom reality, and I hope he gets it soon.  No one opened his whinney little mouth and made him take anything, he fed his own habit and now you are supposed to play the scape-goat. :(  I hope you don't put up with it.
Ella

[notgoingdown]

I am not an addict but the wife of a recovering vicodin addict. Hopefully someone with more first hand info will be along soon to answer your question.

In my opinion tho this COULD be the anxiety but I feel that it is more likely that he tried to quit but is having a hard time not taking anything and he either doesnt want you to know that he is caving or that he has decided he doesnt want to quit now. Depression and anxiety are common but to me the anger and blaming you for the problem sounds more like the quacking of an active addict.