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My boyfriend has started using meth and I don't know what to do...

We've been together for 10 months and i know that's not very long but I love him more than I thought I could love a guy. And we've pretty much planned to be together for a really long time because we've never had such a strong connection with anyone before.. Anyway, he told me last week that he'd been snorting meth that whole week. He said he only did it three times but the fact that he did it at all scares me so much. He has a daughter and she's his whole life. I don't want whatever is about to happen to effect that little girl. He told me it was fun but it's not like he's addicted and gonna go out and get more, but I think he already has. I've been suspicious because he's not acting like himself. Last night was the first night I spent with him all week and it was horrible. We drank, we argued, he ended up having to go give his cousins something. He's selling but he said he's gonna stop. When he came back from his cousins he said he had to go to the bathroom. And he was in there for ten minutes till I heard him snort really loud twice. And then I started crying. Because I was drunk and I didn't piece it all together until I heard him do that. I was gonna wait till he came back into the room but then I heard him throw up. And he kept throwing up. I've NEVER seen him throw up. He can drink anybody under the table. But then I saw blood. And he said it was coming from his throat. I called him out and said I heard what he was doing and that's what happens when you do that. But he denied it and said it was only because he drank so much. He was better eventually but he was sweating. And he was super sexual but couldn't get it up. And I put a flashlight to his eyes and nothing happened. They stayed the same. Then to top things off he stayed up all night. I don't know what to do. He cheated on me like two months ago and basically had to cut off all his friends because the girl is in his circle. So all he has is school me and his daughter. I have no idea what I should do or what I'm supposed to do. I don't even know what I want to do. I can't talk to anyone about it because my family is full of recovering addicts and they'd all just tell me to leave him. But I love him so much and I feel like if its this early something can be done. Idk. I guess I'm hopeful.
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I'm sorry your going through this! I've been there and Its TOXIC! I'd. Say get out while you can!!! That is ALOT of foulness in 10 short months... It gets worse BC your love can't change someone.
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When we do crank it is one drug that can make you psychotic. You have all this irritability and just are so spun..If one stays up for days then they really start thinking or could see things because of the paranoia it will give you..The sweating and clammy is normal..It really hit a transmitter in the brain other then the opiates due. It also really works on the nervous system..All through one thing I can say when I was heavy into it, it was called crank back in the early 80s and when I gave it up I did not have any kind of with draw like I did with the oxys/hydos..BUT with my Methadone and snorting it with Addrral (not prescribed) and took a benzo to come down that was like crank to me..Now I have over a year in and those drugs I came off of made my Physically withdraw go on for at least 6 months and then came the mental rolling in. If he has not been using to long and not alot and if he is young he should just bounce back way better then the pills..I would suggest he talks to the DR and gets a non-narcotic anxiety med because he will feel some anxiety when he lets this go..This has a lot to do with that nervous system balancing back..Maybe if he is lucky he will just sleep it off for days..This is what I did so maybe that is why I felt no w/d back then..Plus I was in my early 20s so that made a big differents right there compared to going c/t from 3 meds at 56. Also it would be really good for him to hit some AA meetings..I find that most of the meeting I go to are people coming off Crank (Meth) or the big H. So if he wants his life back he has to be the one to do this..he will have to stay away from ALL people, places and things that can cause a Big trigger to use..This takes a lot of hard ash work not to give in and a lot of work to be in Recovery..We need support no buts or ends about it..So I sure hope he stops now and maybe hits some meeting before he keeps going up & up and then playing the merry-go round from on drug to a 10000 different ones..I sure pray to God he is not shooting it..This can become a whole other Ball Game. Maybe have him come on here..WE CARE and sure will walk with him all the way..
Bless
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I hate to say it, as I know it isnt what you want to hear, but I have to agree with Rosy on this one!  Get out while you can!  You sound like a young girl, if so then you have a lot of life ahead if you and dont need him to bring you down!  Until he is ready to quit then no amount of begging, loving or crying will change him!  I wish you the best of luck!
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I can tell u from personal experience-if he is taking the risks of selling and using illegal drugs-he is addicted. And if he can't even admit his problems he is not in a place where recovery/getting clean will happen. Message me if you'd like to talk more-my ex was also using and selling and it never got any better, it actually got a whole lot worse before I left. If you don't/won't consider leaving him I can at least give you some signs to watch out for and if you'd like I can tell you more about what happened overtime to him and our relationship. Please be careful, take care
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