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PLEASE give some support

I have a friend here that no longer posts and has fallen deeper into her addiction. I know she is ashamed and fighting something that seems impossible to win. Cocaine is a beast and i truly believe without any help or support relapse is extremely high. She may hate me for putting this up here and that is ok, it's a despertate attempt to get her back on here. when she was posting and on this forum she was doing good, but now things have spiralled down ever worse. This is a medhelp intervention im having, lol and i'm asking any of you, even if you don't know her to throw her some support. She is just a few days clean again and needs to know we are here for her and will not judge. Please don't be mad at me for posting this hopeful, i just want to see you back on here and get better. You know what you have to do so let us help you, but first help yourself. Your such a good person and i know you can beat this. NO MORE HIDING FROM ADDICTION. hugs lori.
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743479 tn?1233592938
I dont know you but it sounds like alot of people do and the love that is out there for you is over whelming. So may of these people love you and our there for you. Please come back,,please please.  I am thinking of you and including you in my prayers. I am rooting for you.  You have many people who love and care about your well being,,, they havent given up nor should you.  Keep your head up,,you deserve happiness.. love melodie xo
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214607 tn?1287677559
She should know that we would NEVER judge her or think bad of her. HOPEFUL..YOU GET YOUR BEHIND BACK HERE...

You need us and we need you. You can't do this alone. You know the support you get here and we will always give it to you, no matter what the circumstance. When I got clean for the first time, meaning I didn't just get clean for a few days it lasted almost 3 months, I was so embarressed and ashamed to tell everyone here. I felt like such a failure. How could I tell all the people who had been cheering me on that I had relapsed. But you know what I came to realize..my addiction was not about them anymore then my relapse was. It was my problem and the only person who could take care of it was me. I realized that the people here were here to help me, NOT judge me. So when I posted my relapse, the ourpoor of love, support, understanding and advice just overwhelmed me. It was that motivation I needed to get back up and try it again. We know its hard and we know you are suffering, but please don't do it alone....

Let us help you please....Please..................

Lisa
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L, once we started a "one day, 24 hours at a time" thing, and it worked for a few days. Now I know its hard, **** I still fight cravings every couple dayz!! so try this one for me, as it is how I had to do it the first few months. Get up in the mornin, and go 4 HOURS at a time.... if ya make it thru lunch , then we focus on makin it to kids comin home and dinner!!! once those hours are outta the way, the hard part hits... we gotta make it to bedtime sober!! My point here is try makin small steps first, short goals are more foreseeable and do-able. I did this for the first few months, as my addiction is wayyyy out there as mosta ya know. Also, another thing I gotta say is this- YOU MUST start to get a normal life schedule and routine. start with gettin to bed by 11 pm, and gettin up by 8 am. getting on a regular schedule makes it easier to set and accomplish them hourly goals.
another thing, dont let go of all the pain that coke has caused you. make a list, one about the fun and good times you had using, and one about all the bad shittt that coke brings. ya know, the being outta money, goin out ta score while others are goin to work, not bein roun for ya kids, and all  the bad consequences of the dope! I bet like me you will find it hard to remember any of the good because the bad outweighs all them. most say forgive yourself and forget, i say forgive yourself and remember!! remember the past and use those bad times to make ya say *** this im out!! forgive yourself and start to be the beautifull wife mother and friend that you wanna be. MUCH LOVE......
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Welcome back hopeful4us... I was glad to see your post..We all have slid in our addiction it is nothing to be ashamed of and nothing for anybody to judge.. What matters is your back and getting the support you so much deserve... You sound like you have good friends in your corner :) I would just like to add my support.. warmly lesa
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My prayers are with you, cocaine is an experience I know about unfortunately, I have suffered with addiction my whole life. There is a time for everything, and now it's your time! GOD bless you if you need someone I am here!   Beth
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I am so happy to see you come on here hopeful, i know that took a lot. You are in for a battle, but with some help and a few changes in your life you can do this. Look at Newmanagement and how far he has come after battling this most his life, he is now clean and happy. You can put this to an end before you lose everything and Lori you know you will if you don't stop. You have so much to live for, don't let this drug keep stealing your life and your family.  Without any help or support, your not gonna make it, we have been at this a year now and it's gotten worse. Bottom line is, it's all in your hands if you want to put the effort in to stay clean, if you don't, you might as well buy your tombstone now and let your kids know their they no longer have parents. This is not harsh, this is REALITY. I care about you and it makes me sick to see this drug steal another life. Make a plan Lori, stick to it and fight with everything you have.

I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!
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please don't ever feel ashamed for being human,we have all been where you are at and understand truley we do,so stay with us and let us pull you along kicking and screaming all the way! love and hugs to you and don't give up
snowflake
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Thank you all so much for your support and for careing.....i feel the love..lol....and cant thank you all enough....you are awesome people...Chrissy....I know that what you do for me is because you truly care and you are a AMAZING friend...we have been through a lot together and you never give up on me...thank you for that...newmanagement....thank you also for all the time you have spent trying to talk sense into me...i love you for it..and know you understand where i am at....to all the rest of you...I  am in tears over the support and love i feel from you all....you bet ill be back....thanks to all of you...and i will give it all i got to beat this horrible addiction....thank you all again
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gizzy you rock!! I hope and pray for your friend! You have nothing to be ashamed of! You can beat the beast! I know you have it in you to win the battle!!! Remember how good it felt the first time around... This website saved my life and I want it to do the same for you! Pick yourself up by your bootstraps and kick the shizzznat out of addiction and gizzy:)! Come on home... Xo
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I just got off the phone with her and she's coming back on. I am proud of you lori. I can take my boot off now:)
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Gizzy, what a great friend you are...I know she will not be upset with you.....I am praying that she comes back..Although , cocaine is not my DOC...I have seen it destroy so many lives...One being my ex- husband...YOU have to fight hard with all you have...We are all here to help you...No one wants to judge anyone, we just want to help...
hugs to you
r2r
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222369 tn?1274474635
I guarantee you will not get judgment from me. No addict hasn't felt the shame of relapse. It's a natural emotion in that time. It's also a rare occurrence of an addict thinking about how they've let others down. Usually, we only think of ourselves. So, hopeful...let loose of the shame and guilt..those emotions will not help you achieve sobriety. Come and share..release all of those nasty emotions and get some support.
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611067 tn?1458591483
WOW!  I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes because of the love I feel here!  You guys are so wonderful!  Hopeful - we love ya!  
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558096 tn?1255887002
I didn't ever get a chance to know you as I'm still somewhat shy on this site, but I've been where you have SO many times.  Whenever I relapsed and started using again, I will stop coming on medhelp and posting completely.  I know that sometimes this site can seem a little overwhelming, but it has the best intentions.  Gizzy obviously (to make that post) cares SO much about you.  Just remember that relapsing again is fixable! All of us have been where you are.  Plz come back to medhelp, it's saved my life literally, let it save yours! xoxoxoxo
JENN
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I remember you too...Everyone is here for you, and I will be here for you also when you are ready to kick Gizzys butt, lol...Please come back!
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611067 tn?1458591483
I sent her a note.  Thanks for letting us know.  Sometimes we need to reach out to each other and I hope she knows that we only wish her the best and that there are no judgments - just support and love!  
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452063 tn?1324074916
Hi hopeful, I remember you. Please don't give up on yourself. Sometimes we have to pick ourselves up a few times. I know that I was angry and ashamed when I relapsed. I think that most of us have been there. I will keep you in my prayers.We are here to support you. GBU, Corey
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G , great post , and hopefully it will hit home. coke is a real MF to kick, and support is usually needed to get past the first month at least.
I know who this post is for, and so do she. IT IS TIME to start fightin for real, b4 its too late and life becomes even more unmanagable.
I will continue to help if I can, and so will Gizzy obviously, but hon ya gotta try harder and focus to start  accumulating clean days. I know its hella hard, but as those days grow in number it does get easier :)
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Her name is hopeful4us and she is going to kick my white *** now
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303824 tn?1294871401
There is absolutely NO ONE on here that can judge anyone!! Please come back and let us all help you through this!! Nothing to be ashamed of, no judgement, just SUPPORT!
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611067 tn?1458591483
My thoughts and prayers are with whoever this person is - and Gizzy thanks for always being so supportive and loving toward everyone.  Please come back and let me get to know you if I don't already know you and let us support you and help you!!!!  YOU ARE WORTH IT!  Lots of love and hugs, Janet
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ill promise to stop being mean if you come back on, lol
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495284 tn?1333894042
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Please come back and talk with us....noone will judge you.  We understand.  You need support and we are here..........Please just come back......sara
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I will keep her in my thoughts and prayers. You are a great friend!
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