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495284 tn?1333894042

Painful Times~

Many of us are going thru some very painful and devastating times on the forum.  There are so many questions and no easy answers.  These are the times where our addict brain goes into overdrive.  Our emotions are very foreign to us and we dont understand or know how to get thru the pain.  Our first thought is to use as we think this will help.  I can guarantee that this would only set all of us back and destroy us.  Using is NOT an option for us.  Nothing any of us are going thru is a reason to use.  We have to walk thru our grief, feel our emotions and place one foot in front of the other.  We have to stay close to those that support us and love us.  It is okay to feel things and i for one am grateful that i have been given another chance at life.  Together we will walk this path together~sara
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4204073 tn?1361831476
Tough time of year for different people for different reasons.  Im sorry for your loss and admire your strength and courage.  Last time I had a clean christmas was 6 years ago after I got out of rehab.  
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495284 tn?1333894042
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I am so happy to hear from you.  Please let me know what the doc said.  Many people get on an AD med after they clean up.  Depression can be an underlying issue that the meds covered up.  We continue to put one foot in front of the other and continue in a forward motion~
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3112653 tn?1351622081
my dear friend I'm so sorry to hear of all you are going through, I have been  MIA here lately I had to take a step back and regroup and deal with all that I have been dealing with. and you are so correct using is not option it does not help anything when you sober up all the pain is still there plus guilt lots of guilt I'm still sober but struggling I have made a doctors app to see if I need depression medication. I have just lost my spunk but I had an overwhelming urge to get on here today and wanted to reach out to you I;m so sorry for loss. I understand how hard losing your mom is I lost mine 17 years ago if you ever need a shoulder to lean on or just someone to talk to I'm here and honey I thank you for all your help even though I have not been on here sense josh passed away. your words ring in my ears everytime I want to break down and throw the towel in. you are a true friend and inspiration to all and pray that god gives you peace and comforts you in this very hard time. stay strong hun you are truly loved by all I would love to be able to say something to make the hurt go away but there is nothing one can say. other than I'm here to support you as you have done for so many love and light dear friend I'm praying for you
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2107198 tn?1336136106
I cannot believe I had missed this thread until now.  Thanks for bumping it Pat, and thanks to Sara for such a great post.  I will leave out the gore of my own troubles, but suffice to say I can relate somewhat.

My thoughts go out to all who are struggling with the challenges of life. . .

Bryan
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2107676 tn?1388973859
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2218783 tn?1357571081
Sara I am truly sorry about your Mom, I am sending you prayers and Love I am truly sorry. I pray God gives you peace and strength .
God Bless You <3
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3197167 tn?1348968606
And ALWAYS underneath us.....are everlasting arms~
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Oh and I learned that sometimes there are small miracles((hugs))
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This whole pregnancy ordeal this past weekend has taught me a lot. One: using isn't an option. You cant run and hide. Everything that I felt was normal and OK. Today has been a blessing to so many of us here on the forum~I know I was not the only one at my wits end. Even in the darkest of storms~there is light. And I learned that I need to practice relaxation techniques an patience!! Which I have neither of. I am cautious. My senses are keen and sharp. My guard is up. I owe so many members here a big thank you,,if it was not for you I wouldn't have made it this weekend. This forum again,,saved me. Those that know my story know that a year ago it saved my life. I am so blessed. Prayers heard and answered today. I pray now for God to hold us tight. ((((hugs))))~Bkitty
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4149717 tn?1389503561
I can see why!!! Shes an incredibly strong woman and has been here for so many, me included! She gives incredible support and also gives "tough love" which I for one NEED that!! :)

And I can relate to the north south thing. I actually just moved back to Texas from Chicago, so I have been on both sides!! So I am a little yankee when I need to be and ALOT country when I need to be!!  hahaha
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Well, LOL, she knows me.  We tease eachother because I live in the south and she lives in the north.  Opposite ends of the world, it feels like!  But look at what brought us together?  We all share a common problem and goal.  I adore her and admire and respect her so much!  
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4149717 tn?1389503561
Im sorry but that this just made me LOL!!  "and am sending you a big, gignormous, redneck, hillbilly, Arkansas bear hug!  I'll even spit my dip out before I hug ya! ".....I am from the South and have family from Arkansas so It tickled me probably more than it should have!! hahahaha
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You know, this is like any other day that we struggle to stay clean and sober. You just have to get thru today.  Tomorrow, we will worry with tomorrow.  I've had days that I thought I'd surely die from emotional pain, physical pain.......whatever.  I'm sure you've felt a little that way.  Or a lot that way.  I just wish I had known.  I feel horrible about it!  I'm so dense.....

I'm right here if you need me.  You know how to find me.  AND I love you and am sending you a big, gignormous, redneck, hillbilly, Arkansas bear hug!  I'll even spit my dip out before I hug ya! :)
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Amen you are 100% right,    Xo
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4149717 tn?1389503561
Thank you Sara ! Alot of us, you included,  won our battles yesterday!  You are right, today we are here and present in body and spirit! Together we are all incredibly strong!  What a difference 12 hours makes! :)
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495284 tn?1333894042
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You dont have to apologize at all.  Just being able to talk to you right now is helpful!!
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OMG.......how dumb am I?  I've been so crazy, unbelievably busy that I didn't even know.  I can't apologize enough.  I know how hard it is to stay clean through great trauma and grief.  Hell, it's hard period!  I'm very, very, VERY proud of you.  I wish I could do something to help.  : (((((
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495284 tn?1333894042
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She passed away 3 weeks ago.  I am putting one foot in front of the other, that is all the energy i have right now.  I feel like an orphan but am working thru my grief.  I have stayed close to the forum as it is my comfort place, plus i gotta keep an eye on all my chicks!
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Your mom just died?  You didn't tell me.  I am so sorry, honey.  What can I do to help?  I will pray so hard for you.  Please tell me how I can help.  I feel awful and helpless.  I'm so proud of you for not using.  You have got to feel so overwhelmed right now.  Oh, I just wanna get on a plane, and come see you!
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2107676 tn?1388973859
I did that already but talked myself out of it. I felt better after my walk.
How are you doing?
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495284 tn?1333894042
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Good job!  Dont let yourself get overwhelmed.
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2107676 tn?1388973859
I am forcing myself to do things.  Walks, clean, throw things out.  Put it that way lol.  Staying busy really helps too.
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495284 tn?1333894042
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How are you today Pat?
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2107676 tn?1388973859
Anyone who is going through a sad time or just feel like they are going to use, please post.
I know it works.
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