I echo Motye insomuch as if he's 'staying the course' and sticking with it, that's a good thing and hopefully there's an end in sight! But Cesi, I can imagine your frustrations. I've had friends put up with so much during my own tapers of benzos and barbiturates. I've accepted their help so long as I can say that I've been working on my sobriety (and working HARD), but I also know that it hasn't been a walk in the park for them. I can only imagine what it's like to be someone's spouse, especially when intimacy is a challenge. I really hope he continues to be successful and that you two can get that spark reignited again at the end of this!
First let me apologize for not answering your last question......I just got completely sidetracked with life....ughhhh.
If I'm understanding you right your husband went down from 8mg to 6mg but the doctor wants him back up to 8mg? If he's still having withdrawal's and the dr maybe thinks it's affecting his blood pressure, heart rate, ability to function, it might be that he needs to get more acclimated to 8mg. SLOW and steady is how you have to do suboxone. It's unlike any other drug your going to get off of (which is what I think they don't tell you in the beginning). If the doctor doesn't prescribe "comfort" drugs then 800mg Motrin will help and the supplements. The healthier he is the better he will feel. He will still feel like crap....but, a little better.
You will get to the end of this assuming he adhere's to what the doctors tell him to do. The lack of sex, lack of emotion, lack of EVERYTHING, is totally normal! My sex life was garbage for quite awhile while I was on them. I know your tired and frustrated........it's exhausting. Look, I have a husband, 4 children, a small business and volunteer commitments that I had to put on hold while i got off that medicine. My husband was at work for well over 3-4 months without me running the office b/c I was at home sick. It was hard on him Iknow! My daughter and daughter in law did ALL of the housework and shopping b/c I literally didn't go to any stores. I lie.....I went to a CVS about 2 weeks in to buy Immodium and it was freezing cold....I looked like a bum with hats, scarves, sweatshirts, dirty hair, no makeup.......I garauntee the clerk was waiting for me to rob her.....lmao. My point to that was as long as I was working towards getting off the subs, my family was willing to help me anyway possible. If I wouldn't have worked as hard as I did I'm not sure my family would've done as much as they did? You get what I'm saying? HE has to be doing his part!
Have you ever considered going to Al-Anon? You should look it up in your local area and see if it's available. It's a great support group for loved one's of addicts and will give you another place to vent and get help as well. Continue to come on here and let us know how ya'll are doing, this would be in addition to.
Thank you for answering, he is now stable 6mg, but I am desperate with this situation, I do not even have sex because he does not have the desire, he says that Suboxone takes away his sexual desire, I have been going through this situation for 5 years, I am tired, worn out , of waiting and waiting for something that I do not see the way out, just be for him flattening him, I am tired of the mind and the soul, I feel alone, and this is the only place that I can vent, sometimes I wonder if he can not go to cold turkey at once, and not be lowering, to that medicine, I'm getting desperate I want this to end now
I was reading, in the forums about anxiety, I read about people who were clean of opiums and still feel bad, they do not feel normal, and that they need opium to be able to feel normal, I am sad to read this, and it takes away all hope to see my husband well, what awaits me after my husband is clean?
Thank you very much, hearing that gives me hope. my husband will start to decrease again tomorrow from 4mg to 2mg! with God and a lot of faith