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Trying to help 25 yr old son. Any tips appreciated.
I'm a mom trying to help and understand the addiction my son has to hydrocodine. He has admitted to using 10 plus a day for three years. Also using Xanax and Soma in the cocktail. He's had four seizures / overdoses. No organic reason for the seizures after LOTS of tests. Upon third seizure he admitted the addiction. We educated ourselves, went to the doctor, had him tested for a about six weeks... all clean. A month later another seizure/overdose. He's been to a neuro psychriatrist and has recieved the first Vivitrol shot (naltrexone) a few weeks ago. Now I learn he's taking several, 3 to 6, Somas today. Start counseling next week with an LCDC. Any comments welcomed to help me understand this. My mom died in the bottle a few years ago at the early age of 60.
Prays for your daughter on her after care. Going back and reading a couple of times your comments...it seems there is no complete understanding...which is what I am searcing for...I don't yell at him... yet I am strong on the outside and breaking on the inside...Pray has been my only source of sanity in this unwanted reality...He's a smart kid with a degree and all...I'm just trying to wrap my brain around it. My husband is really out in left field with all of this. We are going to start counseling ourselve, together. WE do not want to be enablers...It amazes my how much I enabled him before reality set in. The loosing of the dignity has hit him hard. My husband has finally come to the conclusion to not hide it from his family members anymore. My family knows...and thank God for sisters...Best to you and your daughter for continued success. (I am taking care of me...have to so I can be strong for him)
Trust me, I understand. I think we are always looking for an answer, hence me still on this web site trying to continue to educate myself. I am really glad to read you have your family (my sister was truly my anchor!) for me that was my solace..... that's a bit strong, but my best support.
For me it was hard to accept that everything that came out of my daughter's mouth was a lie, she did play me like a piano...... and that is so very hard when your relationships are based on love and trust... I never in a bazillion years thought she would be an addict or my family would experience what we have...... I think that was my first big step, accepting that she truly was/is an addict.... and that took me a long time. Talking about it to others..... even in cyber space helped me face reality from what I wished it to be... does that make sense? I really hope your son gets it sooner than later.... but for most it is a long road. And no I don't think our kids want to be addicts, I think it is a vicious cycle frpm using to losing all self respect, dignity the list is so sad of what it does to their lives.
Take good care of you. Please remember "you" in all this, as mom's it is too easy to forget our own needs.
For me it was hard to accept that everything that came out of my daughter's mouth was a lie, she did play me like a piano...... and that is so very hard when your relationships are based on love and trust... I never in a bazillion years thought she would be an addict or my family would experience what we have...... I think that was my first big step, accepting that she truly was/is an addict.... and that took me a long time. Talking about it to others..... even in cyber space helped me face reality from what I wished it to be... does that make sense? I really hope your son gets it sooner than later.... but for most it is a long road. And no I don't think our kids want to be addicts, I think it is a vicious cycle frpm using to losing all self respect, dignity the list is so sad of what it does to their lives.
Take good care of you. Please remember "you" in all this, as mom's it is too easy to forget our own needs.
It's not simplistic. I have learned very quickly to draw boundries. We went to a counselor together so she could explain to us the process ahead of us. His last seizure was in front of my husband and they are grand mal / tonic clonic and last about five minutes. Only by the grace of God is he still alive.
I am new to this type of communication or support. Not very computer literate, but I will try.
My son seems to want to quit. I called him on it before the fourth seizure and told him I didn't believe him, that he was using again. I didn't get loud or angry, just told him I loved him and was there to help him when he was ready to help himself. He's been exercising alot. Says he's only using Soma today. I don't understand why. A hair folice test will answer that. He's agreed.
I told him he's not risking another seizure, but his life. It seems my extended family saw all the signs before I did. My sister help me put the peices together by her stories of her step daughter in and out of rehab and having seizures.
I am new to this type of communication or support. Not very computer literate, but I will try.
My son seems to want to quit. I called him on it before the fourth seizure and told him I didn't believe him, that he was using again. I didn't get loud or angry, just told him I loved him and was there to help him when he was ready to help himself. He's been exercising alot. Says he's only using Soma today. I don't understand why. A hair folice test will answer that. He's agreed.
I told him he's not risking another seizure, but his life. It seems my extended family saw all the signs before I did. My sister help me put the peices together by her stories of her step daughter in and out of rehab and having seizures.
I know you didn't ask me this but I thought I would give an answer. I understand where your coming from also and yes could help others too. I know that sometimes I send a pm b/c there are few posters on here that can be nasty at times and depending on what I am talking about sometimes easier to pm and not deal with some of others that feel very strongly about certain things. No matter who is right or wrong.
I am sorry, it is so very hard to watch our children battle with addiction. My daughter has/had a horrid addiction to oxy..... there was absolutely no medical reason for her to take oxy, it was just on the list of her drug experience, however this one took her soul. I don't think I am exagerating to say it has been hell for the past 3 years.... and as you we got her all the best treatment available.... she finished her 4th time in rehab this past Feb 2009 and (for the first time) has been sober with an incredible amount of aftercare.
I have gone to concelors I attend Al-Anon, a support group for families living with addiction, it is a great help (as is Narc-Anon but there are not as many meeting locations or times) however I will never understand what caused my daughter to use oxy.... I truly doubt I will ever be able to wrap my head around the why's how's and what's of her addiction. Funny, but it took me a while to accept that concept...... there was no rational logic for her abusing oxy. All I do know is the love I have for her, and what I was willing to do to help her out of her personal hell of oxy.... and that is the key and most personal question.... The pain of addiction touches all aspects and relationships in a family, I did what I felt was the best I could do for my daughter to save her life, and that was MY decision. I urge you to search your heart, educate yourself as much as possible about your son's addiction, and begin with what you are willing to do to help him, or what boundries you need to draw...... this is not an easy decision, nor is it an short term situation.... It was so much harder than I imagined and I thought I was as educated and prepared as possible to assist my daughter.... in reality I didnt have a clue! Regardless of other's opinion, I knew in my heart of what I felt was best.... wrong right or indifferent I went with my convictions, and for that I have no regrets.
My advise is follow your heart. I apologize if that sounds simplistic..... it is my advise as one mom to another.
I have gone to concelors I attend Al-Anon, a support group for families living with addiction, it is a great help (as is Narc-Anon but there are not as many meeting locations or times) however I will never understand what caused my daughter to use oxy.... I truly doubt I will ever be able to wrap my head around the why's how's and what's of her addiction. Funny, but it took me a while to accept that concept...... there was no rational logic for her abusing oxy. All I do know is the love I have for her, and what I was willing to do to help her out of her personal hell of oxy.... and that is the key and most personal question.... The pain of addiction touches all aspects and relationships in a family, I did what I felt was the best I could do for my daughter to save her life, and that was MY decision. I urge you to search your heart, educate yourself as much as possible about your son's addiction, and begin with what you are willing to do to help him, or what boundries you need to draw...... this is not an easy decision, nor is it an short term situation.... It was so much harder than I imagined and I thought I was as educated and prepared as possible to assist my daughter.... in reality I didnt have a clue! Regardless of other's opinion, I knew in my heart of what I felt was best.... wrong right or indifferent I went with my convictions, and for that I have no regrets.
My advise is follow your heart. I apologize if that sounds simplistic..... it is my advise as one mom to another.
just wondering why you choose to answer by pm instead of putting it on the forum. it is through these posts that others gain knowledge. there are currently several mom's posting on the forum...and something that you say might bring some insight into their situations.
Hello and welcome to forum they are great support and help./ I wish your son great success with the shots and let us know he does on them. I have heard of them but don't know that much about them., I do know about xanax and soma very dangerous drugs to mix and will and can od you fast. I knew a lady that had taken 2 1mg xannax and 2 soma and she died in her sleep they slow your respiratory system down. Soma alone can od you they are very dangerous drug.
looked this up for you
Interactions between your selected drugs
alprazolam ⇔ carisoprodol
Applies to: Xanax (alprazolam), Soma (carisoprodol)
MONITOR: Central nervous system- and/or respiratory-depressant effects may be additively or synergistically increased in patients taking multiple drugs that cause these effects, especially in elderly or debilitated patients. MANAGEMENT: During concomitant use of these drugs, patients should be monitored for potentially excessive or prolonged CNS and respiratory depression. Ambulatory patients should be counseled to avoid hazardous activities requiring complete mental alertness and motor coordination until they know how these agents affect them, and to notify their physician if they experience excessive or prolonged CNS effects that interfere with their normal activities.
looked this up for you
Interactions between your selected drugs
alprazolam ⇔ carisoprodol
Applies to: Xanax (alprazolam), Soma (carisoprodol)
MONITOR: Central nervous system- and/or respiratory-depressant effects may be additively or synergistically increased in patients taking multiple drugs that cause these effects, especially in elderly or debilitated patients. MANAGEMENT: During concomitant use of these drugs, patients should be monitored for potentially excessive or prolonged CNS and respiratory depression. Ambulatory patients should be counseled to avoid hazardous activities requiring complete mental alertness and motor coordination until they know how these agents affect them, and to notify their physician if they experience excessive or prolonged CNS effects that interfere with their normal activities.
I am so sorry that you and your son are going trough this terrible thing called addiction that controls and destroys lives I am well acquainted with this life of addiction for my son as well is addicted to hydrocodine and he is 36 and also has seizures ! if you want to ask questions I"ll be more than happy to try to answer with some of the things Ive learned though his addiction and illness's but i will answer by sending you a private message
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