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Where to start hmm.
This is one hell of a ride were on guys/gals. Nothing can be taken for granted when in recovery. We often reach out for help when in need, but yet dont reach to others to often when on top of the world. Dont take this the wrong way but try to post more positive days when u get them so others dont feel hopeless when on the rollercoaster of ups and downs. We all know we will have good and bad days, but the reality of it doesnt hit till you think you have been clean for so long u cant get anymore bad days. This is a set up for abig fall or a jolting memory of addiction/addicts. Lets be here for the bad but also lets be here for the good. I know we all lead diffrent lifes and we have day to day stuff that needs to be done. But lets try to keep more positive up so the negative doesnt well feel like hell.
I really wasn't being sarcastic. I'm pretty straight to the point, if you haven't noticed.
I apologized, even though I didn't HAVE to. I never said you said we weren't being adults.
There is NO internal struggle over here. I simply saw it as a conversation on a public forum with a bunch of different views. It's not like it was a debate on the death penalty or anything. And I have seen posts go way more awry than this one. I've seen posts where it gets really ugly. This was nowhere near that.
I'm capable of discussing things with other people even though they don't totally agree with me.
Anyway, there really was no sarcasm intended. I'm sorry if it came off like that. Sometimes it's hard to tell when things are written and not spoken. Such is the nature of the beast I guess.
All the best,
T.
I apologized, even though I didn't HAVE to. I never said you said we weren't being adults.
There is NO internal struggle over here. I simply saw it as a conversation on a public forum with a bunch of different views. It's not like it was a debate on the death penalty or anything. And I have seen posts go way more awry than this one. I've seen posts where it gets really ugly. This was nowhere near that.
I'm capable of discussing things with other people even though they don't totally agree with me.
Anyway, there really was no sarcasm intended. I'm sorry if it came off like that. Sometimes it's hard to tell when things are written and not spoken. Such is the nature of the beast I guess.
All the best,
T.
little bit of sarcasim dripping from that last comment no? I wasnt saying we we'rent adults i just felt my orginal post got way off topic and when i started writing it my mind was totally on a friend and his struggle. Maybe it could be on the social side but right now that friend wouldnt even think of going to that side. I wanted it deleted because ive seen that way posts will go on and on and get more and more off topic and then members start fighting then my name gets tied up in the mess because im the original poster. Just trying to avoid all conflict on here because to be honest life and this addiction gives me enough internal struggle and i dont need anymore anywhere else. :)
WOW!!
I thought we were all adults capable of having a discussion even if it meant we didn't agree on everything exactly. Maybe I was wrong. No one is saying anything vulgar or rude so why delete the post? Avis?? Calling Avis!! LOL.
I had higher hopes for us. From now on if I don't agree with everything 100% or if I view things even the slightest bit different than the original poster, I won't say anything at all.
I guess you won't see much of me. LOL
I thought we were all adults capable of having a discussion even if it meant we didn't agree on everything exactly. Maybe I was wrong. No one is saying anything vulgar or rude so why delete the post? Avis?? Calling Avis!! LOL.
I had higher hopes for us. From now on if I don't agree with everything 100% or if I view things even the slightest bit different than the original poster, I won't say anything at all.
I guess you won't see much of me. LOL
Delete this post plz. I dont want to cause internal termoil. And good afternoon to everyone on here.
Come on people. No one is starting a war It's a conversation. No one was nasty. if I was, I apologize as it certainly was NOT my intention. I am just having a conversation.
Honestly everyone... we all can't agree on everything and there are always many points of view. That's why this is a public forum... If you wanted everyone to always congratulate you on what you say and tell you how right you are without any input on another way to look at things then you shoujld go stand in front of a mirror.
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Honestly everyone... we all can't agree on everything and there are always many points of view. That's why this is a public forum... If you wanted everyone to always congratulate you on what you say and tell you how right you are without any input on another way to look at things then you shoujld go stand in front of a mirror.
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I was there too.. but saying something postitive every now and again is not making light of anything..I posted about dying the first time ..this is way out of hand..i don't get it..crispy wasn't trying to start a war..we all all struggling and nobody has the corner market on that..
I've had a string of great days lately and feel a little awkward posting it in a new post (as I read how much others may be struggling). However, I completely agree and will do my best to spend more time documenting these good days. As much as I'll need them at some point in the future.
The first 30 days of getting clean are the most important to recognize your good days. As you get further into sobriety, you forget the changes - how bad things where and how good they got - so I agree, please share with everyone!
I'm on Day 25 and have a tremendous amount of energy. I'm back to riding my bike 2 hours and running 7-8 miles. I have no problem cleaning, cooking, running errands (I love to get out now - vs. before) --- all the things I thought I needed pills to get done. It's a bunch of trickery. When you are on your game, and clean, you can REALLY be on fire.
Keep it up all.
The first 30 days of getting clean are the most important to recognize your good days. As you get further into sobriety, you forget the changes - how bad things where and how good they got - so I agree, please share with everyone!
I'm on Day 25 and have a tremendous amount of energy. I'm back to riding my bike 2 hours and running 7-8 miles. I have no problem cleaning, cooking, running errands (I love to get out now - vs. before) --- all the things I thought I needed pills to get done. It's a bunch of trickery. When you are on your game, and clean, you can REALLY be on fire.
Keep it up all.
girlybuff......THANK YOU for putting it into words that I was unable to find. Very well said!!
The Having a Good Day posts belong on the social side if that's the sole reasn for the post. If you are in a post and share about how your life has changed for the better with the hopes of helping someone, then that's just what this forum needs more of.
Let us not forget that addiction, for most people, is a matter of life or death. People who come here to get help and then leave when they don't need that help anymore are probably the very people that need to stay here the most and help someone else because they thknk the journey of sobriety ends when the physical part is conquered.
In program speak we say that "I came here for me and I STAY here for you". In regular everyday terms it's paying it forward.
There is nothing wrong with talking about things in a positive light, but if you want to chit chat about what you had for lunch and what you happened to do that day, start a thread on the social side. Most of you weren't here when it was started. It was started because general posts becamae conversations betweem 2 people with the majority of posts dealing with work and taking the garbage out and what their kid did that day, what their favorite movie was and so on.
There is a social side, a private message system, that wasn't here when I first came around, and a way to leave quick notes, which also wasn't here then.
People who are on the brink of death and who really think they are dying don't need to think about how to spin their post in a positive way when they are begging for help and trying not to give up and die.
So for me, this place has been a matter of choices.... LIVE or DIE..
Let us not forget that addiction, for most people, is a matter of life or death. People who come here to get help and then leave when they don't need that help anymore are probably the very people that need to stay here the most and help someone else because they thknk the journey of sobriety ends when the physical part is conquered.
In program speak we say that "I came here for me and I STAY here for you". In regular everyday terms it's paying it forward.
There is nothing wrong with talking about things in a positive light, but if you want to chit chat about what you had for lunch and what you happened to do that day, start a thread on the social side. Most of you weren't here when it was started. It was started because general posts becamae conversations betweem 2 people with the majority of posts dealing with work and taking the garbage out and what their kid did that day, what their favorite movie was and so on.
There is a social side, a private message system, that wasn't here when I first came around, and a way to leave quick notes, which also wasn't here then.
People who are on the brink of death and who really think they are dying don't need to think about how to spin their post in a positive way when they are begging for help and trying not to give up and die.
So for me, this place has been a matter of choices.... LIVE or DIE..
I think this post is getting so weird.......I think we all having a Nauty moment.....Yeah !! It's in our heads, but we're not getting it out and are not completely understanding this entire issue. All of our points are valid, but I dont' think any of us are getting it, or getting out what we mean.......as crispy said.......He was actually refering this this post to a certain individual......we didn't know that at first so the whole thing is a mess......Post whatever you want, good days, bad day, when you need help, how your feeling .....whatever.........Just keep posting !!! I'm done on this issue cause I really don't entirely get it anyway............
Post, Post, Post........
Nauty.......
Post, Post, Post........
Nauty.......
Sara....LOL.....glad you are opening up!!
No reason we all can't say what we feel!! Maybe that is the soul reasoning for my photo!!
No reason we all can't say what we feel!! Maybe that is the soul reasoning for my photo!!
COMMUNITY LEADER
well here goes....when i first came to this forum i was scared to death. I posted for awhile during my w/d's as most of you know i was always scared i was dying....at the same time i was reading the other posts and seeing that you people were going outside, leaving your house, shopping, bathing,laughing etc. It gave me hope as i wasnt doing any of it. I kept telling myself these people have been where i am at right now and maybe i can do this. Everyone kept saying it gets better just hang in there. Everyday is a struggle for me and so far today i am clean. I try to not get ahead of myself. I know we all have alot of raw emotions and all of our opinions are just that. It would be a pretty boring world if we all thought alike. Oh and i am trying to get over being a big chicken shat in saying what i think!!!!! sara
Cuz I am an emotional time bomb.......sometimes that means I am WAY too sensitive.
not all comments are diercted towards you honey..I mean that...why do you always think that
I guess there is nothing wrong with starting a thread entitled......Having a good day, Anyone else" and let it go from there........
Nauty.......
Nauty.......
Hey, I'm clean for 6 months now. Everyday is a great one just because I'm not imprisoned by those little mnfrs anymore. When obstacles come around and they do all the time, I just remind myself-
this is nothing. i quit those drugs that i thought i could never do. the hardest thing i have ever done.
it is actually inspiration to do other challenging things now. it has given me mega confidence that i never had before. some people may think it isn't such an accomplishment but we know different. ha, even thought of adding it to my resume.
so heads high everyone. even if you are just beginning. it is a very courageous thing you are doing!
this is nothing. i quit those drugs that i thought i could never do. the hardest thing i have ever done.
it is actually inspiration to do other challenging things now. it has given me mega confidence that i never had before. some people may think it isn't such an accomplishment but we know different. ha, even thought of adding it to my resume.
so heads high everyone. even if you are just beginning. it is a very courageous thing you are doing!
I am not one to "debate" on here about anything, and that is NOT what I am trying to do and I think my point is being missed. I am NOT saying that we should not post happy things, hell, I am one who told Lisa I wanted to hear some positive from her every once in a while, BUT the original post said "more good than bad days", and I am sorry but I think for the first "couple months" we DO have more BAD than good days. That is what I was trying to say about false hope. I agree ppl need to know there is light at the end of the tunnel and I think that I respond as "optimistic" as I can to most everyone. Maybe I am taking the post wrong, but to me it sounds like there should be 70% happy posts and 30% blah posts and that isn't realistic in my eyes. Sorry I even commented.
If it makes you feel better I hate shoes too! So I think it's a good thing the puppies ate them! LMAO!! You have a great day too!
Ok girls now I'm depressed, Our pit bull puppies just ate my house slipper. Oh well I hate shoes anyway. LOL have a great and blessed day all.
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