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621322 tn?1222138491

anyone spouse using and u trying to stay sober?

This is kind of frustrating. my husband is still taking a every morning here  for legitimate pain. This is bothersome because i am temted here and there. I am really disappointed in him, but i guess he is not ready to quit. i also noticed he keeps telling me about his pain more often so i guess he can relieve himself the guilt when he takes them. I think he is just fooling himself. There are other treatment for pain that are non habit forming. i know him, he likes the high, just like I all did. But what he needs to know is how freeing and wonderful life can be without them. i am on day 2 of detox, and u know what! it is hard and my day doesn't seem so grand, but my self -esteem has increase by 50% in jus one day bacsue i feel like a better person for stopping. I am going to positively reinforce every day i am sober. It just really ***** that my hub not on same page, i know he has the potential to be, but he is just not there yet. This will make it harder for me, but i will do it. anyone going through this? i have lots of questions because we are going through other stuff that is related to drugs, please send me a message
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Is your husband's legitimate pain bad enough to use the scripts? You are probably right in saying he's fooling himself, but if your relationship is going to be healthy in the future, then he too has to quit. I've been there, it's not easy, esp. if you know where they are (pills or whaatever). Sit down, have a good discussion and let him know how you feel, he might be supportive of your wishes and at least tell him you are concerned about him and that he needs to respect your desire to want to change your life, if he has to put the pills somewhere where you do not have access to them.

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yes, I am going through that..it is very hard. I quit taking hydros/soma on March 8..I have to fight this all the time. He doesn't leave anything in the house but he has an endless (seemingly) supply of percs,Norco and oxy...but..they are everywhere..I just have to not think about it..it is frustrating though.
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hey there, i just read one of your threads that said you are on sub.
and this one says that you are clean but husband still using
are you 2 days off the sub? off all narcotics?
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hang in there, i got clean in 04 my hubby quit in 05
i know its hard, at the end, i was fed up!!! i made him leave and told him that he needed to get clean before he could come back
but my situation may be different from yours, so i can just give you my experience and hope it helps
when my husband was on methadone for a yr. after i quit
he did not keep the pills in our home, he kept them at work
he did not talk to me about them
i told him that he had to goto na, even if he was using (but YOUR hubby may not be an addict, so telling him this would be stupid, if he is a pain patient with chronic illness, like i said, our situation maybe differnt, so you can take what you can use and over-look the other stuff)
when i could not take it anymore, when i could see that the pills were making him high, when i could not trust him with the kids, i said goto rehab or we are getting a divorce

during this mess, we had lost our house, only getting to see our children on the weekends and i was living with an illness that was kicking my butt
i am telling you this to let you know that people can stay clean through anyhting, for me, all it tool was going to 90 na meetings in 90 days, getting a sponsor and not using

i hope this helps, i wish i had more time, this is an issue that is close to my heart
i hated watching my husband use after i knew there was a better way to live

we are doing great now, last year we bought a house that is so much better than the one our addiction took from us
our children are healing, we both are constantly doing the next right thing
everyday is not all sunshine and roses, last summer i had to do a short round of chemo, my oldest son is having a time in school, he is autistic and i am getting ready to homeschool him, our life is not perfect but atleast we are present for it

you guys will make!!!!
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just don't make mistake I made a few years back. We quit r vices together. But when one of us falls, the other might also! So keep them separate. Besides,once ur head is clearer & ur feeling stronger,u can b the shoulder he leans on,when he goes thru it.
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I have heard the cherry juice extract helps as well.  But, for me with chronic pain from fibromyalgia, I take Magnesium and St. John's Wort.  It takes away my chronic pain!  It's amazing.  But, I have to admit it did not work for my shoulder pain or my spinal pain, but for the general aches and pains it did wonders.  I'm just now back on my St. John's Wort, couldn't take it for a few days while taking the Tranxene regularly, the pharmacist said it was a no no.  So, now I only take the Tranxene around 6 p.m. and then by morning I can take my St. John's Wort - I started it again today - and I'm already starting to feel better -might be psychological, but I don't care!  I feel better!  

Good luck hun!!!
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Not sure how much he's taking or how much you were taking, or for what pain he's taking them for.

I can tell you as well as I've told many others here about the benefits of cherry juice extract.  You can buy it at the local grocery.  It's like a syrup.  You take 1 - 2 table spoons every day.  Give it a week or two.  I noticed results in 2 - 3 days.  I have chronic pain in my neck and my knee.

I'm sure you're tempted.  I stole from my wife many times.  Now she hides them quite well (if she ever has any - she doesn't have chronic pain, but has had a few scripts for other pain issues.)  She even chooses different places to hide them each time.  

If nothing else, suggest the cherry juice extract to him.  And for your own good, ask him to start hiding his pills from you.  And tell him you'd like to be sober as well as him.  He has to want to be.  Trust me, I know, because I don't.  But be supportive.  This isn't what I got from my wife, and it only makes it worse.  

I know that doesn't cure your problem.  But it might keep you sober.
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im not going through anything like that, my hubby hated pills. but i just wanted to give you my advice. i would sit him down, and in a nice way tell him you understand he has pain, but for sack of staying sober, please dont tell me about the pill, take them infront of me, or let mek now when you take them. and if you can, i would like it if they wherent even inthe house. or at least let me think there not in the house. and let him nkow that when he does deside to get off them you will support him all the way and help him in the way that you got off. thats what i would do. good luck. your in my prayers.

xoxoxo
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