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coke questions

My husband of 7 yrs just informed me that he's been doing coke for about a year and a half. I had no idea. I guess I'm pretty dumb. I just really never saw any signs and wouldn't have known what I was looking at even if I did. He won't tell me anything else about it other than it was just once or twice a week and he said he only told me because he's done and he doesn't want to do it anymore and he needs my help to quit, (shouldn't he go to meetings? I don't think I can be his only help) I think he only told me because he was incredibly sick and I told him I'd take him to the hospital so he felt like he had to come clean (he was worried he was dying -it was just strep throat).  He says he's really done for good and doesn't need any help to quit because he's not addicted. Is that possible? I'm worried that he's just going to use again and find a way to hide it from me. I'm also worried that he will start using crack, isn't it sorta the same thing?
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Hi, Nikki. It's late for most so you will prob getting more responses later. I gotta say, for someone who hasn't dealt w/ addiction, you seem to be very aware:)

Yes, your husband should be going to meetings. And that is very wise of you to know that you can't be his support. Good for you. You can tell him that firmly yet gently. Of course, I can't be sure, but if he REALLY didn't think he had a problem, I doubt he would bother telling you. Also, we addicts tend to diminish the amount that we ingest to non addicts. When I was taking say 8 pain killers a day, I would tell my ex that I took 3...occasionally. My point is, you have a right to be concerned. BUT, no need to freak out. He told you, good start. Now, it's his work to do. You can suggest meetings, suggest that he look on here. After that, it's his work.

For you, I can tell you that alanon is great. It's for the loved ones of addicts/alcoholics. You will get endless support and learn that YOU don't have to fix it. Lots of great people there who were blindsided by drug/alcohol usage. Just like you:)
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I would suggest some kind of outpatient rehab unless he continues to use.  Then inpatient.  For him to be sick like that from Coke, he's been doing it a long time.  Crack is cocaine in a different form.  Crack is more addicting.  If he is smoking crack you will know by lack of money.  It's expensive and lasts for 2 seconds but very addicting. Do you guys have insurance?
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