I can only speak for my daughter...... she had a very serious oxy addiction...... however, she filled (fills) her time with a lot of aftercare, and no she doesn't always click her heals and skip off to it, but she knows it is something she must do to maintain her sobriety, she spends a lot of time with family, works, goes to college, volunteers, reads, goes bowling, to the movies, to the zoo, plays cards with sober friends, ski's or snowboards, dinner with friends, goes to all of the games (pro and collegiate) depending on the season, takes great care of her gramma, but NO she still won't clean her room :) I think your sober free time is doing what you always did before (without the pills of course) only now you are sober and enjoying it so very much, the simple pleasures of life, are truly the greatest....
This is the hardest part for me I think after withdrawals are over u just gotta find a hobby and make things to do and this is so hard for ne because my docs haven't cleared me to go back to work so I sit around all day just bored and I don't know why but I could sit aroud and play video games and watch movies all day when I was taking pills but I just can't do that anymore the video games get boring after an hour or so and I just don't wanna sit around and watch movies cause I'll just toto sleep all day and when I live there isbNOTHING to do cause I live in a very small town so I just go day by day bored outta my mind unless something is goin on it's just weird how nothin is fun anymore
hey thanks for your response. You know you have to get out though. I know that it ***** not having much to do but, you can find things if you try. It only takes the motivation to get out and realize you and your family are more important than any drug!
honestly the same things you did before just sober .At first it will seem odd or like you can not do them w/o the drugs but you can i would steer clear of bars but try to go on with your normal life everything will fall into place
agree with avisg....your activities do not have to change...only ur perception of these activities when u perform them is different
I take that back...an alcoholic does not need to spend time in a bar ...and an addict does not need to spending time with users.to me addicts and alcoholics are vitually the same
If an addicts life was mostly spent in dangerous places for them when clean..then new habits have to be formed...working out...volunteering if u do not work.....to be honest working and the gym take my time..posting...and now I am an active member of the Tea-Party..there are lots of things to do out there that are not centered on drinking or using
and u will enjoy ur experiences cos u will "feel " them,,,,give it some time....u shall do this!
The only thing i do in sober time . Is enjoy life as it is so much better i have a lot more things to do while sober i enjoy my family a great deal better. While in active addiction i hid from my family not now as i know im a better person for being clean . You can do the same . Have a great sober weekend.......James
I still play video games. Maybe not as long, but it is still a great pleasure for me and my husband. We fish when we can as I live on the water, I watch TV, but now that I have the internet back, I am more interested in photography too, and have been pursuing that as a new hobby. I haven't read a book in a few months, but have them lined up when I get ready. I started walking and that is helping to get the energy increased.
What were you interested in doing before and do you have any hobbies??
One of the important things that I did was reached out to other sober people and started new friendships. I lost a lot of the relationships I had when I was in my addiction, It was hard for me to put myself out there, but when I did, I got some amazing friends out of it.
Also I agree with the others, all the things we did before, but there were some other things that I was too loaded to do or try! Like the Museum of Fine Arts and Sciences, golf tournaments, jazz bars (abstaining from drinking, of course!). There is so much to do in life that I'm still finding new things that I like to do.
Begin an exercise routine if you haven't done so already. It has really helped me after finally getting off all benzos.