Could my new boyfriend be addicted to drugs?

[Sweetnlight]

Ok, my new boyfriend is wonderful! Great job, house, has custody of his kids but I'm suspicious he might be hooked on drugs. He told me he tried drugs in the past and tried crack and cocaine.... Ummmm OK didn't want to judge, everyone has a past. Well tonight he asked me to bring over my pain meds I never took from my neck injury which are oxicodone and percs. I told him I threw them away and he said you did what! I'm not sure if asking for someone's meds is normal but that was a red flag for me and don't want to deal with him anymore. His appearance is he is really skinny, always has sinus problems which he says is job related and he's sensitive to noise which is also job related. Another flag is he makes almost 70,000 a year and is always broke.... That's double what I make and I have a mortgage, bills and kids too and always have money to do what I want. Just don't understand where his money is going to the point he can't buy his daughter a winter coat. Never dated someone who did drugs so not sure if I'm just overreacting.

[2loaded2live]

Fersure it sounds like your b.f. is on drugs...the reason he asked you for your pills was most likely because he was out of whatever he takes and couldn't get ahold of either his connect or his doctor...sorry to tell you but if your not emotionally into this guy then get out of this before you too find your money going to him. But if your heart is in it then confront him and tell him that you will stand by him if he gets help. But don't let anyone take advantage of you or lie to you about something like this especially since you said that you have 3 kids yourself.

[gnarly_1]

Hi.....well your hunch sound right....pills are expensive on the street and it would explain why he is broke all the time......as the disease progresses you get sick if you dont have them....asking about your prescriptions is a tell tale sigh also  time to have a heart to heart with him about this.....just let him know it is possible to get off them  it would be good if he could come on here  we do home detoxes every day  it only takes about 4 days to get past the phyical withdrawal  then a progam like N/A to stay clean.....if he is not willing your going to need to cut your tyes with him living with a addict is no way to live
...........................................Gnarly................................

[jifmoc]

Hi welcome. Yup, that's classic addict behavior. And no, asking for someone unused opiates is not "normal." It's what we addicts do (I did that all the time w/ some silly lie as a reason why I "needed" them.) Usually when someone suspects this, they are right. Trust your instincts. Being broke is a huge symptom too.

What I suggest to you is to let him know, calmly what you suspect. And yes, he will deny it. But, you only have one responsibility and that's to yourself so go to alanon, which is for the loved ones of addicts/alcoholics and start talking to others. You will get amazing support and understand this disease, too. People always think they need to make a decision NOW. You don't. Just get to a meeting. And the answers will start to become clearer for you:)

[Sweetnlight]

Thanks, I was so confused but my gut was telling me something isn't right. He knew I had bottles of meds because I never take anything the doctor gives me and he asks me what is the date on my prescriptions. I thought why would he ask what the dates are.... I guess prescriptions lose their potency the longer they sit.... So is that another sign of addiction if someone is asking not only asking strength but the dates it was filled?