Helping to deal with withdrawl

[scaredmommy1]

My daughter is scheduled to head to rehab next week for a severe opiate addiction. She has suboxone but has also lapsed and not used that and has reverted to opiates. What can I do to help her get through the next few days until she leaves. Her mood swings and anger are off the charts. Last night I gave her my sleeping pills and a muscle relaxer. I just want to make her comfortable and not have her flip out and try to get drugs or get violent. Last night she was trying to convince me to get her pills or weed because she was going through withdrawal and couldn't take it. When I refused she started threatening that she wouldn't go to rehab. I'm about at my wits end. I'm trying to be supportive, but she literally goes insane and it scares me.  I know she is excited and scared about going but her addicted bf is putting pressure on her. He has been getting most of  his money for pills from her and is making her feel responsible. What can I do to help her through these difficult next couple of days.

[Flyerthanmost82]

I am currently going through withdrawal from suboxone, which is worse than withdrawal from opiates. It's extremely hard and a nightmare to experience. I have never felt so bad in my life but I want to be sober. I feel for you and and your daughter, but the good news is that if your daughter really wants to get better and you two are able to hold in there, her not taking the suboxone will actually be beneficial to her, her recovery will be easier and not as long. God bless and good luck!

[CWKavinRAS]

Have you called the rehab and asked if they can take her any sooner? It seems like is more than you can handle until Tuesday. Her doctor has given you all the appropriate medications to help her symptoms, but they will still be present and combined with her bf pressure and her level of anxiety is just not a good situation. That is the reason when parents calls me I try to get the patient is right away so things don’t escalate.
I can give you opinions on how to handle, but I don’t think much would help now other than getting her into treatment sooner.
My heart and prayers are with you.

[scaredmommy1]

The doctor that she went to for suboxone gave her sleeping pills, clonapin and one other thing. I have just been holding them and only giving her as needed. If I let her hold the suboxone, it would be sold. This morning did not go well. She is trying to hold rehab over my head. If I don't let her go out she will not go on Tuesday. I just told her then you need to get out and I will not give you any money or support you financially. I feel like I am going to throw up but I cannot live on this roller coaster anymore.

[ruggedhands]

What you are going through most people would not wish on their worse enemy. The key is to hold your ground and "fake it" till you make it, (appear strong and resolute, even thought you don't feel it.) Let your daughter know, that you love and care about her each and every time you deny her drugs. Since you are really dealing with two people..your daughter and her boyfriend, it's a bit tricky, but can be done. You see, they both want and need what you already have...namely sobriety. We all understand your giving her sleeping pills to help her rest, that has it's risks in and of itself, but unless you reach out and get extra help or tell your daughter it''s your way or the "highway" then that may be your only recourse for now. Remember in the end, it's your daughters choice to get better, you can help, but you can't do it for her.