Alcoholism in partner

[sparrowfeed]

My fiancee has alcoholism issues and admitted he needs help but he doesn't want me to be with him anymore because he doesn't feel I deserve someone like him and can do better :( I told him I would support him through it all and he said that he wouldn't ever expect someone like me to have to go through the ordeal of supporting him to get off alcohol. I think at least there's a conversation now. We got engaged last yr and he's been having drinking problems for the 3 yrs we've been together but it's on / off and it isn't a full blown alcoholism. I feel like the 3 yrs have been a lie since it's all been just alcoholism that's kept it going :( But I do know that it wasn't like that all of the time; recently, the past 2 weeks it's gotten worse.

[17mthssober275]

Hi, I agree go to Alanon and talk to other people in the same situation, it will help you make a decision about it when you know what you're dealing with. He has to want to quit, and if he doesn't you can't convince him to. He needs to go for help, quitting is hard and he probably can't do it alone. Alcoholism is a horrible disease and could ruin your life. I quit almost 2 years ago, I drank every night, and wasn't good for anybody either. I quit because I wanted my relationship to work with my fiancé. Won't work drinking. When you quit, like I did, you need to go to AA meetings, get a sponsor and study the twelve steps of AA. It's something you have to work at everyday. It is not easy and lots of people go back to drinking after they quit. Go to Alanon and get more education on Alcoholism first before you decide to do anything else. We care. Best Wishes Take Care
Judy

[ibizan]

Have u gotten urself to Al-Anon yet?if not u need to find some meetings and get urself there.......many men/women like u in the same situation!