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1025924 tn?1251913878

Does Jail time count in sobriety

I was locked up for 22 months in Florida dept of corrections. I got out in July. I immediatley started antending AA meetings upon my release. I'm celebrating two years of my sobriety Sept.25. My Ex Wife says the time in prison doesnt count. She has 26 years of sobriety. She has me confused.  In Prison they make alcohol by the gallon, pot,heroine and pills are plentiful.However I chose not to drink,or use. Ther are people in prison that have 10 ,15 ,20 years of sobriety that attend AA meetings, That will never get out, Does this mean their time doesnt count. I value what she says, but i'm not sure she is correct. Help
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Sober is about not having any intake of alcohol in your system not about where you do not have alcohol. You have been sober and your wife should be proud of you obviously she needs to find out the truth for herself some how
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462570 tn?1273632977
You bet your booties it counts!  Every day without a drink counts!  Tell your wife she is WRONG!
Take Care
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998979 tn?1282151034
i vote yes... congrats,and good luck
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me 2...at least five new things and some i'd rather not know but accept!:)
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1031221 tn?1252636098
See? I learn something new every day, thanks!!
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if u google Guy in the Glass poem u'll see that Dale Wimbrow wrote this and the gal was a sub for guy...but oh so true!
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1031221 tn?1252636098

When you get what you want in your struggle for self
And the world makes you queen for a day,
Just go to a mirror and look at yourself,
And see what that woman has to say.
For it isn't your boyfriend or family or friend
Whose judgement upon you must pass;
The woman whose verdict counts most in the end.
Is the one staring back from the glass.

Some people may think you a straight-shootin' chum
And call you a person of place.
But the woman in the glass says you're only a bum.
If you can't look her straight in the face.

She's the woman to please, never mind all the rest.
For she's with you clear up to the end
And you've passed your most dangerous, difficult test.
If the woman in the glass is your friend.

You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years.
And get pats on the back as you pass,
But your final reward will be heartaches and tears.
If you've cheated the woman in the glass!

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AA has the coolest poesm...The Man in the Glass...and the Gal in the Glass......that poem is about what really matters!check it out if ya aren't familiar with it!it googles easily!
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999891 tn?1407276076
I guess what your wife is getting at is that some people believe that to be sober means not just being without a drink but also changing our old ways,  changing our lives for the better, remember step one, we are powerless over drink our lives have become unmanageable. If you are in prison then it is they who are managing your life not you.
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The definition of Sober to me is not having a drink. It is about living without a drink one day at a time. Working the program of recovery. When people ask me how long am I sober I say just today. I don’t think in terms of weeks months or years, we are sober today and that is what counts.
So I would suggest that you concentrate on staying sober and not worry about what others say. It is one day at a time.
good luck and cherish your sobriety every day.

rod44
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1031221 tn?1252636098
Sober is sober! I hope your wife counts the time she's asleep as sober time...

Congrats and keep up the hard work!
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455167 tn?1259257871
sober time is sober time. it is harder to stay sober in prison--so you should be commended! keeep the faith!  take care,   gm
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495284 tn?1333894042
I have been sober for 7 yrs and noone is going to take that time from me.  Congrats on your upcoming anniv!!!            sara
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i have 25 years sober/clean....every day u don't drink or use its a sober clean day!i think ur x-wife is so very wrong!Nobody passed and appointed her an AA goddess!:)
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