Girlfriend drinks

[surfin]

Hi,

I'm 6+ years sober from alcohol and it actually started by me posting to this website a long time ago, and then I joined AA and stayed sober since. I'm 27 now.

I got a new girlfriend about a month ago, and we both really adore each other, it's great. Just recently, though, I realized that she is kind of awkward/shy without alcohol, but opens up with it. Each of our dates have included dinner, and she's had 1-3 drinks each time. One time she came from a party and was already "pretty drunk," in her words, but I couldn't tell she was that drunk. She's not uncomfortable with the fact that I don't drink--she doesn't seem to mind at all.

Do you think this is okay/normal drinking for a 26 year old? I don't think it's a big deal that she had a glass of wine and a mixed drink the night we went dancing, but maybe it is? It's tough for me to see this clearly because I really, really like her a lot and I wouldn't want to break this off unless it was necessary for my health. I don't feel uncomfortable when she drinks, but I want a partner who doesn't need alcohol to have fun every time she goes out, and who is a moderate or light drinker. Am I answering my own question? Her parents recently divorced, and I'm wondering if she's using alcohol as a coping mechanism.

We have been really excited and planning future trips together and other fun things, but I don't want to get too attached too soon so that I'll ignore red flags that pop up, like I did with girls when I was younger.

Thanks for your help

[TTinKKerBBell]

I think You are very wise to have these concerns.  You should share these concerns with Her.  Have an open discussion.  I truely believe love is (and certainly should be) a CHOICE and we should choose wisely.  There is trouble in Paradise when we sweep those 'red flags' under the carpet.  
Good Luck

[ibizan]

YES!you are answering your own questions!Take her drinking as a MAJOR red flag to you and your sobriety!The longer u get complacent @ her drinking may predispose you to get complacent @ your sobriety!I had a BF i adored in 2005 when i was 22 years sober/clean.He was clean from cocaine for 3 years ,then he started smoking pot.Then he started doing cocaine/crack again and MISTAKENLY thought I would tolerate it due to my love for him.I rid myself of him for my own sanity!I do remember you! Best of Luck to you in this.Play the tape the whole way through with this,and let your brains/rational thinking guide you vs.your heart!