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220476 tn?1212719350

I'm doing it! CT off alcohol

I have been drinking about a magnum of wine(red or white) plus a few vodka drinks a day.  Or, I have about a fifth of vodka a day.  It's the first thing I thnk about in the morning instead of coffee!!!!!!  Any suggestions?  I really need to do this privately.
Thanks.

Charlie
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i have been very supportive to you girl,u know that...alcoholics don't get better by coddling them....and i don't feel guilty with what i say to u!No one coddled me..like my dad once said u have to do something or get off the commode!U don't like what i'm saying 2 u cuz its making u think!well thats the WHOLE point of this!if u keep doing what ur doing u'll get what u get!theres a saying in AA....a simple program for people who complicate it!
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I thank you for your support but I do wish you would be more emotionally supportive.  
Dark, hope you still hanging in there.  I know how hard it is and I've been thinking about you.  You are inspiring me.. Keep up the good work.

Charlie
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sweets ur such a oxymoron girl....ur doin great but its rough?tough it out?ur fooling no one but urself and so unecessary 2 put urself thru all this...but its ur choice!SIGH!
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I hear you!!  I really don't want to go on any meds right now.  I'm just going to tough it out.  It's been rough but I'm doing great.  

Charlie
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right on dark,right on!!!!!
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I thought C stands for Comprehend, Charlie Cravings?
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when is that doctors appt u made??????Campral?the capital C is for cravings!
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Still doing well.  Staying sober and feeling pretty good.  I do feel anxious more now though.  I'm guessing this is WD symptoms.  That feeling of being on edge.  Kind of in a bad mood.  I'm hoping this will pass soon.  It's driving me nuts.  The cravings are unreal too...  
How are you?  

Charlie
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What's going on?  Still on the clean bandwagon; more AA meetings -- committed staying sober or?
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Just checkin in guys.  How is everyone?  I'm still doing great.  I've been out all day with the boys.  If you think of the name of that movie will rent it.  I could use a time killer.  Oh, you were right about the sweet cravings.  I went out last night at 9pm to get a sundae and I never eat sweets.  So much for my strict diet.  I've been good today though.  No sweets, all salad.  That ice cream with hot fudge was really really yummy....

Charlie
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oh yes tragic life and death by drowning in alcohol for Judy...good movie A Star is Born done by her with alleged story of actress just like her who dies of alcoholism...she was playing herself!Awesome flick done what year dark?help me here...Lee Remick and Jack Lemmon bout 2 married alcoholics...Days of Wine and Roses...landmark flick real progressive for its time....1958?
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Wizard of Oz and that Dorothy (Judy garland) was the biggest boozer in real life; off topic or kind of...  later in life alcohol and medication abuse caught up with her apparently. She forgot the lyrics to songs with slurred her speech while performing.  Found dead at 47, in bathroom, "ten 1.5-grain Seconal capsules".  sad story..  

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one glass of wine for me ended up in getting the magnum!this is what alcoholism is like to me and the many lessons we hafta learn in life.At end of Wizard of Oz dorothy sez snottily to good witch Glenda "u knew i knew how 2 get back 2 kansas whole time-why didn't u tell me?Glenda laffs and replies"Cuz u never woulda b-lieved me..u had 2 find out 4 urself"Bingo charlie...and bingo glenda....this is how we learn the hard lessons we hafta in life..i do think!
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Charlie - I love you candor and honesty and would feel guilty lying on the forum.. Me too!
I have to agree with 'ibizan' on this one; you're playing with fire knowing of your past.  And if I had one glass, then it would be 2,3 and so on; not always, but the potential is there.  Then I would lose all interest in the meal itself and get drunk perhaps.  To me, alcohol and food never made any sense.  I like one other the other.  We are alcoholics and total abstinence is probably the answer.  Don't worry about what you said, I rather have folks here honest and wouldn't look at it as failing.  You doing fine and AWARE of the situation; that's the main thing. -dark
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Hi Guys.  Day six and day one all at once.  I guess today starts a new day.  I never thought it would be this hard to completly obstain.  I was not capable of doing it and it was only day five.  At least I only had one glass of wine.  Maybe by next Sat. night, my next dinner date, I will have more will power.
I am trying hard I want you to know that.  We are home for the rest of the weekend so it should make it easier for me.  
Keep me posted
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oh girl ur playing with fire!Sigh!i c many try to do what ur doing with the JUST ONE.........but it will set the BEAST on fire!well i am concerned about ur research project......but alcoholics just can't have just one!Guess u hafta find out for uself!I do respect honesty...and u know we r here 4 u!
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Hi.  I had dinner with my hubby tonight.  It was wonderful.  I have to admit that I did have one glass of red wine and sipped on it slowly throughout the meal.  It was perfect.  I still have no desire to get up tomorrow and get alcohol at all.  If I can do this only when I go out to dinner or on special holidays, I will be just fine.  I'm home, I'm not wanting more.  I'm content.  
My husband and I talked about it and he agrees that one glass is fine only when we are out to dinner.  Once a week.  This sounds normal to me.  I'm the type of person that if I know I need to change then I just do it.  We don't go to clubs or bars.  We just dine out once a week.  
I'm sorry if you are disappointed in me but I'm not the type of person to lie about things.  I would feel terrible posting here and saying that I didn't have one glass.  
I was never a drinker at all until I had my first child.  Then it was a crutch, I was lonely.  I left my job to stay at home with my children and alcohol was my new best friend.  I'm not scared of loosing this friend.  I'm over the drink, but one glass is enjoyable.  I didn't get buzzed, just enjoyed the flavor.  I love to taste different types and learn about where they came from.  
You have helped me come out of a deep depression.  In the past year we learned that my oldest was on the autism spectrum and I wanted to numb myself from the pain.  Now I am seeing clearly and I am done feeling sorry for myself.  
I hope that you respect my honestly and don't hold this against me.  Tomorrow is a new day and my next date out is next Sat. night.  I will be sober in between.  
I need your support for that.  I will be looking forward to hearing from you.

Charlie
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good goin girl..proud of u.....those weren't scare tactics i was using...just plain old reality of what this disease is like....been there hon.....was quite the liquor drinker like u!keep it goin....we're all b-hind u!
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Good work and thanks for checking in!

I've heard good things about Grey's anatomy; have not watched; probably too late.  Yeah, the people at AA are nice, the stories OK, but I have to say they have fun and focused on the business at hand - to stay sober.  And whatever it takes!  Charlie, I'm proud of you!  

We're all heavy hardcore booze hounds that can't handle moderation or the meaning of, lets face it.  I'm very proud of you; for a while I didn't think you actually we're going to commit yourself.  Yep, no headaches and refreshed in the morning; the belly will get smaller - your brain will start coming out of a fog.  Me day 18 and no way turning back!

I'm sure your husband was very impressed with 'the new you; let's face it…. it's the right thing to do in our cases.  Your relationships will improve with family and friends.  "Proud to say you don't drink"… those are indeed powerful impressive words!

Yes, wonders fot improving self-esteem and health, no doubt!   In my case the depression is gone, which is incredible.  I'd be hung-over the first day, them depressed for 3 days after. And all for a few hours of buzz??

Good - keep it busy, go to the mall and stay on the right path with me!  Yes, the internet is a great tool for communication.  Have a good day Charlie grl!

Your friend, dark
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Sorry I didn't get back to you guys last night.  Grey's anatomy was on and I love that show.  I was watching with hubby.  I did go to aa.  It was good.  Coffee, nice people, stories, twelve step review.  I sat in the back.  I felt very weird at first but just tried to keep to myself.  I met some nice people and I think I will return.  Oh, one man was very religious but that's his thing.
You are all right about trying to have just one glass.  I was a heavy drinker and I'm not even going to try.  I'm on day five and I'm so proud of myself.  I feel better, my belly is going down, waking up in a good mood with more energy.  I haven't had any physical WD.  Maybe the first few days a little weak and bored but now I feel just fine.  Plus headaches.  This may be from giving up bread though.
I didn't tell my husband that I went to AA until I got back.  He was very impressed.  I don't think he realized how serious I was until I told him.  Alcohol runs in both sides of my family and I don't want to be like that.  Dark, you are right it's not cool to drink.  I will be proud to say I don't drink.  It's not necessary.  I feel just fine without it.  It had gotten to the point where it wasn't even doing anything for me anymore.  I would drink so much and not even feel the buzz, not at all.  SO, what's the point, right?
I'm going out to dinner tonight so this will be a challenge.  I'm determined.  I'm not even going to have one glass of red wine.  I know myself and I will feel guilty.  Staying sober is doing wonders for my self esteem and my health.  I already feel less depressed and more social.  My older son is at preschool right now and my baby is napping.  In the past I would be drinking by now.  Instead I'm going to the mall to get my son walking shoes.  Life is getting better.  
ibizan.  I thank you so much for pushing me to just do it.  The scare tactic works.  This forum is a huge support for me.  It's wonderful that we all have internet now so we can turn to someone at anytime.  
Keep me posted Dark, my friend.

Charlie
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ibizan  -  There's just no way I can realistically be a social drinker NOW; the thing is I've always been anti-social once I start.  Not always, but a good portion of the time... retired is the only thing to do.

Charlie - You still with us girl?


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if ya hafta go to gre8t lengths to prove 2 urself u can/will control...then ur outta control!i had to retire from the game.....was a miserable failure at social/controlled drinking and recreational drug use!!!!
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I concur 'shomneg' as I stated before.  Not many of us can handle 1 or 2 glasses of wine at dinner, because most here are volume drinkers and not satisfied until we're passed out on the floor.  Sometimes I can moderate and do, but I'm disappointed I can't have more if I'm restricted for reasons of driving etc.  I always prefer to have more and that's a problem' I seem to get lost once I start.

Yes, just give up and quit chasing it.  It's nice I don't have to buy the **** anymore too!
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Charlie;s Girl. the thing is about controlling it, I don't beleive that I can. I know that if I have the one drink, I will progress it. Therefore, It is much easier to control it, by giving up. You win, booze.

Thinking you can have moderate booze will not work for me. I am not even going to try.

So all I know, is that it sounds to me like you were  a heavy drinker, out of control. It seems to me that you won't be able to moderate it. You can certainly try, if you want to, but my limited exp. tells me that you won't be able to, because it is a disease, an insidious disease.

At any rate, I would advise to have 30 or 90 days clean and then see how you feel about it.

I have found that it does get easier over time.

Keep coming back!

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