10 year old not wanting to sleep in her own room and crying and refusing to go to school.

[hailsky]

please give me help and tips how to stop this,
TOPIC 1-my 10 year old daughter refuses to go to school and she cries a ton and just plane out refuses. about a week befor we thought she had stopped, she went to school no complaining she diddent come home crying. but now since  break is over she is crying and refusing to go back. this has goin on for pretty much the whole 4 mounths school has been in. please give me tips/help on how to stop this horrible behavior.
TOPIC 2- my same 10 year old daughter refuses top sleep in her own room. she was sleeping in ehr own room at age 9 for a couple mounths then me n my houband wanted to sleep in diffrent rooms because it was hard for use to sleep together (at the time) but now we wanna sleep togetehr agein since we got a new matress. any ways we go my daughter a brand new bed and my husband cant sleep in this kind it is a loft bunk bed (wich my daughter is not scared to be up ther or anything she is up ther all the time) but now she slept up ther with her 12 year old sister for the 1st night n she was fine then the second night she went to bed by herself but the third night she is refusing and crying to sleep in there. -please help me give me sugestions on what to do please

[bristle1]

Is she being bullied? That's usually what happens when kids are bullied.

[aquamarine_moon]

Take her to see a mental health professional.  She is exhibiting classic symptoms of Separation Anxiety (school refusal).  It is an anxiety disorder that can be treated very successfully with a little professional intervention (take her to see a child psychologist and they will map out a strategy for you).  You are doing nothing wrong - it is a recognized anxiety disorder that isn't uncommon in children with certain temperments.  Good luck to you!

[hailsky]

i mean school

[hailsky]

we know 100% she doesent have a bullying issue we made sure. thankyou for your time. she is very stressing us out. she is still refusing to go to school, i half to go to a meeting with the cool conserning her absents

[ILADVOCATE]

I would think you should find out why she doesn't want to go to school. Maybe there is a bullying issue or something else going on that would make her afraid of going to school. I know I had that problem as a child and my mother spoke to the school guidance counselor and it stopped. As well there may be some other factors creating emotional dependence. I would suggest taking her to a child psychologist as well. There is a specific forum to discuss child behavior issues more in detail as there might be very specific issues going on rather than just anxiety disorder but you should speak to both a child psychologist and as well as your child directly to find out exactly what is going and then better suggestions could be made on how to help it.