13 year old son with Depersonalization help plz

[Joneedsanswers1]

Need advice my son is have out of body experiences and feeling like he's not in control of his arms or in a dream what's going on is it hormones sounds like all the symptoms of Depersonalization

[specialmom]

Hi, well, it IS absolutely true that a lot of hormonal things go on at that age.  Absolutely.  I think it is as confusing for the kids going through it as their parents!  I think I'd take  watch and see approach.  Listen to your son and encourage him to talk to you.  And listen for cues.  Anxiety and depression can look like different things most definitely for different people.  Depersonalization is a symptom  But it doesn't always have to be.  I'd look to see if other things are present as well.  I have a son who is anxious (and one who isn't) and you notice patterns and wording of things.  If he stops wanting to do things he likes or be with friends, wants to sleep all the time or tells you he can't sleep, mentions he's worried or nervous all the time, etc.  Keep a little mom journal if that is easiest and judge when you need to step in for help.  And most pediatricians are pretty in tune these days.  At my son's last well visit, both did mental health questionnaires.  You can also talk to his school counselor.  I've found mine to be awesome at recommendations and resources.  good luck.  

[Joneedsanswers1]

Thankyou for your advice
He's happy mostly if he's busy but when he's not doing much he randomly has the symptoms he says they feel really strange but he's not scared of them but I have said don't worry to much it's just hormones playing up which might make him feel like he's not going crazy x

[specialmom]

My son around this age is moody.  And definitely trying to understand what his body is going through.  I tell my son I'm here to listen and to let me know how he is feeling.  And I say often, Okay, tell me if anything new happens or if this gets worse.  Lots of times, things will go away.  So, I acknowledge that I hear him, acknowledge what he is going through and keep the door open for more information.  That way, I don't worry as much because things aren't careening out of control without my even being aware.  :>)  It's a difficult age for a lot of kids.  Especially if he is in middle school.  good luck

[Joneedsanswers1]

Thankyou so much for taking the time to talk with me x

[Paxiled]

13 was a very complicated year for me.  I started getting migraines.  I started my sexual awakening without knowing it, my mother didn't apparently know anything about sex so I later wondered how she and my Dad managed to have me, but my pediatrician proved very very helpful on this score.  I started having the anxiety that would in later life become a big problem.  There were also some of the highs of my life that year.  Just a very complicated time to be a boy around that age, you're between becoming an adult and staying a child.  The best thing?  You two are talking about it -- my parents were completely uninterested.