I know what that feels like. I'm afraid of doctors, dentists, & needles too. When I was little I had many operations so that's why I'm so afraid now. I force myself to go sometimes and other times I make up excuses not to go.
I usually get someone to go with me.. Try that?
I'm not much help haha sorry
I am so sorry that you are so torn, on one hand you are in so much pain, that you need to get medical help, but you are afraid of being in even more pain at the dentist-doctor. You had a very bad experience as a child, most people have some fear of dentist as a child , but you weren't supported and encouraged to return by your mother. If you can think of your teeth issue like having a splinter in your foot, you can leave it there forever, in pain,fearing it will hurt to pull out, or you can pull it out ,ouch, and the pain is OVER....and you can get on with your life. Most dentist or doctor have seen many patients who have great fear, there are so many newer ways of treating your anxiety before hand, laughing gas, rub on numbing meds, that your doctor can use.If you check with your area health dept, most have low cost dental services. I suspect you may get tired of the pain, and make the choice to just do it, and if you pass out, no big deal, they have seen it many times in the office !
you know, there are 2 types of hypochondriacs. The ones who go to see the doctor for every ache, pain, lump or bump then there are those who refuse to see the doctor NO matter the situation. I am not saying that is what you are, I think you have a true phobia but it sounds similar.
I am on the other end of the spectrum. I go to the doctors for everything as my anxiety is health anxiety. I get tests and tests and tests until I have reassurance, even then it only lasts a short time then I am back to wondering if something was missed. I also then worry about the radiation I may have gotten due to the xray etc. Its a vicious cycle!
How do you feel about seeing a therapist to help you with your fear or phobia? I love mine, she is amazing and truly helps me to get over a lot of my anxiety. Remember, that is what they are there for, to help you get over your fears, to help move you along in life. But you have to find a therapist you truly connect with.
Doctors are there to help and they can make things much better for us. Do you have a friend or family member who can go with you to see the doctor? Even talk to your doctor about your fear of THEM. They can often give great advise on what you can do.
Once you get your issues addressed, you will be so happy you did. Just like with the dentist, they will fix you up and you will feel great showing off your smile again!!! :)