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Baby Separation Anxiety!

Ok, I'm nursing my 7 mo baby and she's pretty easy going, but the last week, without me she screams until she sees me.  Is she spoiled?  What should I do to undo this?  When others watch her she cries up to an hr.  As soon as she sees me and I hold her it's automatic silence and sometimes she even smiles right after.  It's heartbreaking to see her cry.  Should I let her cry it out for a day?!  I have been watching her at home ever since she was born and there are other people around her continuously but she still prefers mommy for comfort.  I'm trying to go back to work a few hours, but it's so hard to see her cry like that.  It's my first baby and also the first grandbaby, so you see where I think she's spoiled!  What should I do?
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It's normal but it is so hard on us parents as well as her.  She is not spoiled.  Spolied is when you start giving her things that you know you shouldn't.  She is used to you and you will notice certaint ages this gets worse.  Also she will prefer someone else over you at times.  That is all part of babies and kids.  Try peekabo with her.  This gives her the concept of you going away and coming back.  Then proced to the leaving for short time periods like Nora said.  This is all normal and all part of  normal seperation.  Good luck I know how heart wrenching this experence is.  It does get better as they get older but at times it will go back and forth.  
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Hello.
This is my humble opinion:

It is only natural for your baby to cry when you leave.
The most important thing is not to make "a big deal" out of it because she senses your insecurity, which will only make things worse. She needs your support in that it's OK to be with somebody else(father, grandparents etc). It has to be done with small steps when she hasn't ecperienced to be alone with other people before. You can't just leave and be away from her for hours and expect her to cope with that. She has to learn that it is ok that you're gone for 5 minutes, then 10 min etc...and get the experience that it is OK because you ARE comming back.
I don't believe she's spoiled. I don't believe you can spoil a baby. But the baby will always pick up the parent's feelings and attitudes because they are fine-tuned to it. The slightest insecurity will be detected:) If YOU believe she will do fine, then she will believe it too:)

Best Wishes
Nora

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