Ah, I'm really sorry sweetie. I do think this sounds like anxiety. The thing about anxiety is that it is not the same for everyone. So, I, of course, couldn't say for sure but you have an appointment to visit a psychiatrist and I think that is a great idea. By the way, depending on who you are seeing, many psychiatrists DO have training in women's hormonal issues. There are psychiatrists in my city that this is their sole specialty. So, your desire to see a psychiatrist is a good one based on how you are currently feeling. It doesn't have to be that way.
How are things with the boyfriend? Sometimes we can be so dependent that it creates a bit of desperation. I hope that isn't the case. Our partners are important and interdependence is a good goal with them to keep things balanced.
What other things can you do until your appointment to go over symptoms? Can you do some relaxation exercises, yoga, exercise which is a mood lifter, meditation, breathing exercises? All of that can help in times of anxiety.
I'm going to disagree with Mom on something we almost always disagree on. I would recommend therapy with a psychologist given your situation, not a psychiatrist. Psychiatrists virtually never do therapy anymore and even when they do they charge more and see you for less time than a psychologist. All they're going to do is recommend you take medication, but your life doesn't seem so far out of whack that you can't do what you need and want to do at this point so I don't think you need medication. Medication is difficult, and it shouldn't be a first resort unless you're just really having a terrible time. I also think that in your case, you know exactly what triggered it this time. I'm not sure if this is anxiety or anxiety caused by depression or just an insecurity you have that eventually you will benefit by fixing. Those of us who get so attached to others that any threat to the relationship sends us into a tailspin, and that was my problem, need to fix that. Drugs don't do that. They might make you feel better, but you'll still have the problem. If you can fix the problem, it stays fixed. If you can't, then that psychiatrist will still be there, there's no danger of psychiatrists disappearing any time soon. That's my two cents worth, anyway. I agree, you probably didn't have an ear infection, and even if you did they just go away on their own. But you might have some sort of inner ear imbalance that rises up occasionally, that could cause dizziness, but not derealization. Whatever you choose to do, I hope it works, and I hope you do learn not to let others define your life quite so much -- you're young and most likely no relationship right now is going to last a lifetime. It might, but most likely it won't. All the best.