scars and social anxiety

[Volcom23]

Is there any way in totally removing scars in the face? I have two visible scars located at my cheeks and at my forehead. The scar in the forehead is the most critical one because it is ruining my life and my future. I know, you wouldn't understand me. I am suffering from so much shyness and this suffering is exacerbated by these scars. I had already gone to a plastic surgeon to fix this hole-like scar in my forehead. Unfortunately, my problem got worse because the new scar from surgery is really visible and its shape is like letter 'Z'. Worst is that it will take 6 months to totally heal the scar and there will be no assurance that the scar could be totally removed. Now, I'm stuck and I cannot think well. I am always hiding the scar since then with my bangs. Now, my classmates teased me about my bangs and I am totally devastated about it. I've been aware now (due to the teasing) that my hairstyle is really bad but I cannot change it. I am totally stuck and cannot think of a particular solution. I felt compelled to show it but really can't. At the same time, my classmates tease me about my hairstyle because it's really bad (the bangs is bad because my hair is very dry) . However, I cannot change it for if I will change it the scar will be seen. I want to move on but really can't. As long as this scar is in my forehead, I will be forever bothered. Please help me because it's really ruining my life. I cannot go out with friends because of the wind-- I am afraid my scar will be seen if there is a strong wind. I also cannot face in front of the class because people will think how bad my hairstyle is, and felt ashamed and humiliated because I am hiding something behind my bangs. I think I am the only one experiencing this kind of problem. I even consider this suffering as more intense than cancer. It's emotional torture. My head aches everyday whenever I'm in school with people around me. Because of this scar and bad hairstyle, I had developed an intense social phobia and chronic depression for almost one year. Your help would save my life. I cannot think out of a box right now,.

[Volcom23]

I am a Filipino, male. Actually, it's just my hair. My bangs is very frustrating to arrange and it looks bad. I cannot wear various kinds of hairstyle because of the scar.

[Julie359]

You haven't made it clear about what bangs are?  I have no clue, are they bandander's or some kind of head band? Plus also can i ask what race you are... I ask this cause people with dark skin (afrian, carriabean) seems to scar worse than white, fair skin and from what i have read, seen treatment can be different in races.

I have a little experience of facial scarring due to my step-mum having severe burn scars around her jaw line and neck, which cover about 30% to 40 % of her face, i am aware of how consious you must feel because this has affected her immensly.

As for treatment, you can buy cosmetics out there that are made just for hiding scars, there are foundation type creams that both men and woman can use which do work.  You could also investigate lazer treatment, but this i think is more siutable for  smaller and less promient scarring, but worth having a chat with someone quaified.  

Google 'cosmetics for facial scarring' and you should get a few sites come up that sell products.. although you may be able to get it free from your doctor so have a chat with him/her as well.

Hope this has been of help..but thought i'd just say that in a ideal society you shouldn't have to be bothered by what other people think about how you look, i do think it's very sad that anyone who has something slightly different about them gets so much hardship and made to feel so uneasy about themselves.  I do hope you manage to find a soultion that works for you.  Good luck!!

Julie