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Extreme obsessions with people?

I'm not talking about just stalking their Facebook page. I'm talking about deliberately destroying their other relationships so it will look like I am the best thing for them. I first started having really obsessive behavior towards a friend in 6th grade. We quickly became best friends and sat by eachother on the bus and at lunch. We had a whole group of friends at lunch, but one by one I started whispering rumors to her. Soon I got her to become annoyed with all of them. I'm in 8th grade now and she stopped sitting with me. I was so devastated. I wrote down everything I did over summer break and was going to tell her everything. We're still friends, just not as close. Of she's looking for a seat I'll get really excited and motion for her to sit next to me but she'll sit with someone else. Sad haha. I have a new best friend and this relationship is less obsessive and we share a deeper friendship than my past one. Although I started obsessing over a guy I met over the Internet last year (smart I know). It's not a love obsession. I just wish so badly that he went to my school. He seems really cool and we talk every night. We tell eachother secrets and what we did that day and we both agree it cheers us up when we talk to eachother. He's not trying to sext me or anything like that, he genuinely acts like a friend towards me. But last week he got his iPod taken away and I went crazy. At first it wasn't so bad but then it just got alarming. I was writing out what I would say to him and strayed away from my real friends so I could think about him. How can I be less obsessive? >.<
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480448 tn?1426948538
I agree wuth remar 100%!  

Being obsessive is not healthy for anyone involved, and it CAN lead to some really destructive behavior.  You've already purposely interefered in your last friend's friendships, that's not cool.  You don't HURT the people you are claiming to care so much about by taking away other people in their lives that they enjoy.  Sounds like you're very possessive and want to be THE only friend or THE only love interest, etc.  It's HEALTHY to have a bunch of friends.

I agree, please ask your parents to help you find a professional you can talk to about this.  Best to you!
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5181320 tn?1364849409
Hey there....don't worry. I have a similar issue in a way. I'm obsessed with one person that means more than my life to me..Let me tell you this...if you aren't sure about how much they feel about you, try to loosen up. If you feel a pull towards them, it's good to be with those people, obsessive really can show you care...but try to limit yourself. If you get carried away, it can eat at you, make you do foolish things for yourself and them. I've made those mistakes. It's hard to cope with it, I know. But you have to just try to have a great time with them...and loosen your grip on the people you aren't sure with. The ones you don't think that will last. Just try to stay calm and collected, and be there for them. Being kind and always caring shows how much you love them. I hope my advice has effected you some how. I hope everything goes well for you. Good luck.
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I think getting in to therapy would really help you. Can you talk to your parents or school counselor about how you feel?
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