My parents have no clue what social anxiety is so its pointless telling them, and by the way im not exactly in sohpomore yet about 10 days ill be going to school
I told my dad he didnt say anything as expected
I think you are very small for all of this mess. You have social anxiety that is not good for your health and your future. You should talk to your parents about this and consult a doctor as soon as possible. Don't wait for anything; otherwise this condition may become severe.
I do not have a therapist and asking my parents is not good i have asian parents ill just get roasted by my dad if i do trust me i know how they are like i just want this to be gone..
Oh, I'm sorry to read this While we can't diagnose you on the internet, you do sound very anxious! That is so hard. Social anxiety is really difficult and uncomfortable. And I'm sure besides the performance anxiety, speaking in front of others, being singled out in class is awful, you'd also like to have friends and a social life. Social anxiety is treatable! There is therapy that is proven to be very beneficial and man do take medication for anxiety/SAD along with that. That's for you and your doctor to decide. But the best thing to do is know that you CAN get help with this and talking to your mom and/or your dad is the first step. School counselors have resources. Therapists/psychologists are great. They even have online therapy these days that can be done first in chat and then you can do skype or phone call --- and it is cheaper than a traditional psychologist setting. Anyway, that's just an option. There are a lot of hand books aimed at teens as well for this and work books that are interactive so you can participate in what you are reading. Amazon and Ebay have many and they are maybe around 10 to 15 dollars, so not expensive. My son, close to your age, has had to work on this as well.
By the way, do you have an intense fear of failure? Are you a perfectionist? We all have this to a certain extent but people like my son and maybe you have fight or flight level responses to this fear.
You have a form of social anxiety. I'd discuss this with your parents and try and get yourself into therapy with a psychologist who specializes in treating anxiety problems. You can learn some relaxation techniques and maybe figure out where the insecurity comes from. In the meantime, look at getting called on the fun part of school -- school is a pretty passive thing, you sit and the adults decide your day for you. The only time you get to truly have fun is when you get called on, on tests and on papers, when you get to talk. Next to learning new things, which is fun for a lifetime, getting to talk in class and on tests is the next best thing about school if you think about it.