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HELP I FEEL LIKE EVERYTHING IS UNREAL

I have been dealing with anxiety for a while now I am 16 years old and this mainly started when i was in 7th grade (12 or 13) where i am just nervous randomly but over the past year or so it has just been getting worse and worse, i havnt been to the doctor or anything about it because i just really hate going to the doctor its not a fun place. i havnt always been like this which is why i really want to feel normal again and it seems to just be getting worse with time and it really scares me about a year and a half or so ago i got this feeling that was veeerrry strange like i was walking at school and there were alot of people around me and i suddenly felt as if i wasnt really there like everything was unreal or dreamlike it was very scary and i figured lke whoa i must be sick but then it passed as i got back into class. then one night i got it again when i was hangin out with friends after that i started getting it every so often that was back around 7th grade i am in 9th grade now and just about this last summer it came back and now i feel like this all the time its so horrible and scary! i have learned to deal with it alot now but i just want to feel like myself again sometimes i seriously feel like im going crazy or like i will never feel like myself again i feel like and i worry that i have all these different mental disorders, i constantly look up my symptoms online because i just want to find the answer its so hard to enjoy the great life that i have when i constantly feel like i am in a dream i swear everything feels so unreal, like all the time now most every where i go i feel like the only time i feel normal is whne im sitting in my room, or in my house but i still get it when i get up and go somewhere alot and it really ***** i also noticed that i am getting really bad anxiety in social situations such as talking to people looking people in the eye i feel as if my neck is stiffening and i feel like my head shakes. (not visibly usualy i just feel it.) i get alot of muscle spasms as well, i constantly think that i am very sick like mentaly i am soo afraid of getting serious mental disorders

also my memory feels like it is getting worse now i feel like i cant think of what im trying to say anymore i cant ask quesitons in class because i feel really strange and when i talk alot of times i feel like it is not me, like it doesnt sound like me its so scary i just want to feel normal again is there a cure for this problem that i have im really a normal person i just dont feel normal anymore and it affects me in so many ways. i usualy wont be aware of the dreamlike/unreal feeling untill i remember it or think of it then it seems to come right back and i will just feel like i am not there and everything is just not really happening scary!!!

about my memory it seems like its getting harder to remember things such as peoples names even though i know themreally well usualy when i'm trying to tell somebody something about someone or anything like that. i cant focus at all i have the worst attention span eveer and its just gotten worse in this year or two year period.

I mean i  just dont know i feel like im getting dumber i cant stand up infront of the class anymore i cant read in class casue when i do it doesnt sound like me to me everyone tells me that im ok and its just stupid because i talk about it 24/7 i wanna be with reality again and be able to hangout and enjoy my life without feeling like im just not myself THIS *****! helpp pleeeasse


ALSO i feel dizzy all the time my eyes suck too they seem fuzzy and dizzy/strainedi dont know what to do becaues my eyes feel really messed up all the time not that i cant see good i see fine there just seems to be like tiny dots and i just dont really know how to explain but thats one more thing that reeally affects me is i feel dizzy like all the time now its so annoying!
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Same, I have anxiety but I kept it a secret to my family, I always feel disconnected to the place Im at, I feel hazy and an incoming nausea whenever Im in a crowded place. I hate going out, which is unusual of me to do, because when I was younger than I already am I was the opposite, I was outgoing; loud; and optimistic, pretty much the opposite of the me after the anxiety. Admittedly Im scared, because as days and months pass by, it gets worser and worser. I slowly lose close friends of mine, and drifted further away from my family as well.
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I feel exactly the same I thought it was just me going mad. I know it sounds horrible but it helps me feel better knowing that it's not just me and I'm not going crazy. I have every single symptom that you have said and I can only put it down to anxiety. Anxiety is horrible and cruel it ruins your life completely and cuts you off from your friends and family. I'm hoping I find myself again
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I'm 19 years old.I'm going through the same thing. I feel like things are unreal. Sometimes I feel like I'm going to die. I get headaches all the time and also head pressure. My heart beat is so rapid(fast) I even feel like I'm about to fate a lot. I went to the emergency room and they did an EKG and x-ray on my heart and everything and they couldn't find anything. They was trying to get my heart rate down so they gave me a pill for aniexty because that's what it seemed to be and that's what it was. I really don't take my anxiety pills because I try to handle it. I've gotten my anxiety from a really bad car wreck I was in but I wasn't the driver. I think everything is wrong with me and people tell me its all in my head it may be but how do I tell my mind that. Its really affecting my living hood I can't even enjoy my life. My anxiety sometimes just hits me out the blue when I can be acting just fine and then when I realize I'm breathing to good or something then it happens I don't know what to do.
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Ive had this feeling for 4+ months and it SUCKS!! it's such a hard feeling to explain. I feel like a completely different person who is scared of life. That life is boring and there's nothing to do. My whole point of view on life has changed. And I just want to feel normal again. I feel disconnected from everything and I feel very unreal. My bed doesn't feel like it used too, and a lot of things don't feel like it used too. It feels like there is absolutely no cure to this.
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You basically just explained my whole life...I too have all of these symptoms. I constantly worry about me having a tumor or seizure. I feel like I'm going crazy. I wish someone would help me but nobody understands.
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I find this very relatable even though this was written a long time ago. It's impossible to pin point how I feel or why I feel so anxious because I have a happy life which I've usually always enjoyed. However I have a strange feeling stuck in my head which makes me feel flat and empty like nothing will change or anything is good in life. It makes me feel unreal like I'm not really there. I feel like I'm in a sleepwalking trance and everything feels unfamiliar. Every day is a challenge. I can't deal with this anymore. I feel like something has changed (in the worst way) although physically it hasn't. My mind is scaring me and I have the most terrifying thoughts. What do I do???? :((((( feels like out of nowhere life has turned upside down and I can't go back to normal. I get anxious thinking about home and i don't know why. My mums gonna try and get therapy but I can't explain how I feel and I feel like no one will understand. It's not an illness it's mental. Not physical but psychological. I feel alone. :((( I am not struggling with anything at home, no bad relationships - I am happy - but this feeling has changed me. My life is perfect normally and I am a happy person but that's all gone :(
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Hi, I'm a 26 year old female who has complex ptsd and I live with this 24/7 I also feel disconnected from my body most of the time aswell and feel like I have no thoughts or feelings. I have 3 children and the  unreal feelings even effect my relationship with them bcoz it feels unreal they are mine. I have no sence of who I am pretty who any of my close friends and family are. However please do not think u are going crazy or something is wrong with u, these are feelings that ur brain haS done to protect u from extreme anxiety. I no it is very scary and frustrating and even tho i have learned what it is and coping mechanisms I still struggle every day with it. What u are experiencing tho is direalization and it is your brains way of trying to protect u from extreme overwhelming feelings, normally anxiety. If u go and c ur GP there are lots of things that can help u. X
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So I am 16 as well and also feel like everything is unreal and sometimes I freak out and look up a ton of mental disorders and self diagnose. I smoke weed about 2 times a week to help cope, but it only makes me feel more crazy. Like now I constantly see **** out of the corners of my eye, and sometimes I'm in this dream like state where I can't move but I know I'm away. And I think I'm dying when this happens. I also sometimes think I'm seeing smoke come out of my mouth when I breath. I always freak out over this and I constantly think I'm schizophrenic. My mom also has been diagnosed with OCD and ADD runs in my family. I'm really scared and honestly can't tell if I'm going crazy or it's just anxiety.
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https://youtu.be/H564Dmsksz0   It can be a disorder of its own, or it can be a symptom of anxiety, it really helps to see a therapist or a doctor for medication hope this helps   I struggle with this myself on a daily basis good luck (:
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Do you still feel like this.. because i literally feel the exact same. And cannot take ivlt anymore please let me know :)
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I feel the exact same way I actually was looking for answers and it lead me here I'm only 15 and my anxiety is horrible I kinda feel relieved that its probably my anxiety but it scares me cause I feel like I'm not real and im scared if I tell someone I might be put in a mental hospital....
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What you have is derelaization.  It is a very really thing and it feels very real. But when you accept that what your going through is a part of anxiety you will be ok. Too much anxiety caused this because it is almost like the brain shuts down to help avoid anxiety when really it causes people like you more anxiety because of the unreal feelings
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I am a highschool student from EU. This post pretty much sums up what I'm feeling. In addition I ovethink all the time and question EVERYTHING including whether life could be a matrix or maybe everyone except me is not real and only a simulation coming from my own brain. (I know it sounds crazy) I have always been a sensitive person but never had anxiety until 2 panick attacks which were triggered by drug abuse (I quit drugs immediately after the second panick attack) This whole unreal feeling started three weeks after the last panic attack. I try to stay positive but it is VERY hard and I think about suicide a lot. If somebody reads this, please PLEASE give me some advice I don't know how long can I last.
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The brain analyses what its taught or was taught maybe its a past experience or present its hard to fabricate things out of the norm even in psychosis it just analyses normal information abnormally but not fabricate i think you saw or went through something sometime
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If you feel like this please readHello, I know how all of you feel, the same exact thing is how I feel. Feeling hazy like everything is a dream, I have been through some stuff in the last month and things feel so weird. So after talking to my parents about this they took me to a psychologist and the doctor said this was common, he prescribed me Zoloft which is supposed to do me a world of good. So talk to someone about this and see if it works. If not try a different type of drug there are many out there. Most important thing is to know 1. Your not alone 2.this will get better, you will not feel like this forever
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Ok calm down no big medical issue here, but have you changed any of your normal schedules like missing lunch, missing meds, or even like watching movies aloot
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I personally find this scary reading your post and relating to it like you are describing how I feel. I went through a traumatic even at the age of 13 and haven't been the same since, I'm also 16 now. I diagnosed myself with bipolar and sometimes it eats better sometimes worse, my friends are my personal doctor and my parents are oblivious to what's really going on with me. I've been suicidal and self harmed yet I'm still pulling through even tho I don't feel worth it. lately I've had the weirdest feeling, like I'm always high and taht everything I'm doing isn't real, for example if I have an itch on my hand I would watch myself itch it but wouldn't be able to feel myself doing so, it's crazy!! I have had many panic and anxiety attacks but nothing like this, I'm just glad I'm not the only one...
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Seriously, I'm going through the same thing right now. Everything you said, I feel. Like it's not even funny. I've been so scared and I fear the same things you do. Even though this was from 6 years ago, I have the same feelings and the same everything. Did you ever find a way to cure it or find out what it was? Knowing what it is would make me feel better.
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Has anyone figured it out? i recently started going through the same things 3 times in the past month, im 13 and only a few of my close friends know about this and are worried, I am to of course.
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Ya same it seems to start at like 7th grade or so because mine started last year and I just want it gone forever! I'm been told it's a "gift" but that's about as far as you can get about how I feel about this thing.
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Hi everyone, I am 19 years old and I have been dealing with these feelings of anxiety and depression for a while too. I have become so aware of it that it is all I can think about now, I feel such an out of body experience like I will look into the mirror and not recognize myself. I feel so far gone that I have almost forgotten who I am or I do not believe myself when I try to say inspirational things to tell myself I am going to be okay. I suppose it is good to say them anyway. Someone mentioned being involved in witchcraft which I also dabbled in a bit and although I still think it was harmless perhaps it did do something so I am going to continue to pray. I also smoked a lot of weed this semester of college which I know probably triggered a certain something in me once I opened my mind that much. I have convinced myself I am so alone in this world even with an entire family who loves me, friends, an amazing boyfriend whom I also can't feel happy toward anymore although I know I love him and he just wants me to be happy again. I feel like the entire world is inside of my mind and somehow no one can convince me otherwise, I am going to therapy today (for the first time because I finally told my parents) and even typing this has been difficult because of the immense weight I feel I have on my chest. Even as I say these words about myself I do not feel connected to them. I also cannot sleep and I feel that when I do I am still exhausted. It feels like there is a little voice which I know is mine that is just trying to break free from these bars I just cannot get myself to relax and I don't know how to let go and just live. Does anyone have any advice for changing the mindset of yourself? Training your brain into not thinking so depressingly about every aspect of life? Or at least on how to deal with it.
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everything you said is what im going through literally . everything getting dizzy . life feels like a dream , everything you said I can relate to . im so happy I found someone that knows what im going through . I feel like mine is getting worse with time . I feel really stupid now . like I cant act normal in front of people , like they think im on drugs or something . ive went to nuerologist , doctors and physiologist . and my physiologist said it might be adhd but I don't think that's it . but do you ever feel uncomfortable making eye contact with people ? do you ever get like bad headaches ? do you ever get afraid to like look someway cause the way you move your head? like i also feel things like that.
please reply , i just wanna figure out whats wrong with me. im 16 to btw
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Have you figured anything out. I'm going thru the same thing
But sometimes I can't control it
Same exact thing that i experience. I've been trying to figure out why it happens but nobody has been able to give me an answer . It feels like I'm tripping out. And I have really bad anxiety and depression too. I'm 15 and a half but it started when I was in school one day the first week of my freshmen year and after that it happened a lot . Sometimes it freaked me out but I'm used to it now. It's weird though because I can control it. The ppl r so thin they look like aliens and I can't even make out faces and their bodies lag when they walk. It usually happens at school but it happens anywhere really.
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I am experiencing this too! It is so awful and at times I feel completely hopeless. I have been on medication for just about 3 weeks to control my OCD/anxiety and panic disorder, and it has helped to an extent, but I am still experiencing this dream like feeling. I am only on 10 mg of paxil (I was on for 18 months and then went off for the summer--went back on as soon as I got back to college). I'm scared this feeling will never go away.
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Thanks for your post. I'm having problems again with my anxiety and that horrible feeling of being in a dream like state. It really *****. Reading your post help to calm me.
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finally an answer to all my questions!
someone who relates down to the point! KEEP STRONG BOY
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Try kundalini. Try to search how to open your energy centers of your body. (Sorry for my bad english) im also suffering from those syptoms.
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Yes dlin I can relate to your exact feelings as you put them in to very good words.  I went through a period of around 6 months where I continually felt as you explained.  I also had it randomly in the future.  I somewhat attribute it to marijuana LSD and mushroom use   I have managed to control it by making Positive life adjustments, such as not engaging in drug use. combined with other things.   But I think it is more than just that.  It is a transformation that the mind and spirit are trying to acquire I believe it is your inner spirit and self looking for you to make a change in your life.  The subtle change, that you and only you can discover, will transform yourself and once again normalcy will return to everyday life. Random acts of kindness never hurts either:)
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Do not give up bran863. I know thats hard to say but you are not alone. i have spent many times crying my eyes out in frustration. here is what i wrote to cody and it may help you

My name is Anne and i am 21, I am not a doctor but I am almost certain i'm can help. I know this was many many years ago and you have already probably had the issue straightened out. Your story is exactly like my, My anxiety started at the exact same age. The phenomenon your talking about it called derealization. I know it may sound scary but i promise its perfectly normal with people who are going through anxiety. Also you are in complete control of it. I know the worst part about all this is you feel like your going crazy, or reality is slipping from you. I know your probably sitting here saying id rather have a ulcer or my arm broken! I was there too. completely there.  Everything will be okay, take comfort in knowing that in this one specific case you are not special. There are forum and forums of people going through the same thing. Entire communities. Every anxiety is different because every conscious and unconscious fear is different. I know the doctor sounds horrifying. I know the least thing you want to do is go on the medicine. because i know your afraid to take it and what itll feel like and if youll loose control and what will happen.  I know your afraid that the doctor will listen to you and say wow your nuts and lock you up. They wont. I have seen many doctors. i basically have my own psychiatrist and psychologist. the Psychologist is great! You sit on a leather couch and talk about whatever you want. You just need to find the right one that personally suits you. you could take baby steps see a psychologist and maybe just that is all you need and maybe it isnt then you seen a psychiatrist.If so thats fine too. I see one. i recieved the medication, hell iv been on  like a 4 different types. My favorite was zoloft. wow that makes me sound like a addict haha im not!  But for me when  i took it nothing happenend. boring right? i thought id get high or become a different person and lose myself but i didnt. I was able to do amazing amazing things! like fly to NYC by my self and live far away from my parents to go to college. my favorite are scary movies! ironic isnt it. Im normal. No im not normal. Because im better than i was before anxiety.  Iv been given tools to help and talk people through things, kindness, compassion and most importantly the true meaning of bravery. Remember, being brave doesnt mean your not scared, it means your scared as hell but do it any way. Only a idiot would jump into a burning building to safe people without fear.  But im going off topic. Getting super emotional because ive been there. Any way if your set on not seeing a doctor and maybe you dont need one at all. You can always look at the book Panic To Power by Lucinda basset. shes my biggest hero. i know reading sounds boring and that it just sounds like rubbish  of inspirational words but its not thats the amazing thing its a book about everything youve said everything everyone with anxiety has gone through.

Go take back your life, live happy and be at peace and god bless,
Anne

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My name is Anne and i am 21, I am not a doctor but I am almost certain i'm can help. I know this was many many years ago and you have already probably had the issue straightened out. Your story is exactly like my, My anxiety started at the exact same age. The phenomenon your talking about it called derealization. I know it may sound scary but i promise its perfectly normal with people who are going through anxiety. Also you are in complete control of it. I know the worst part about all this is you feel like your going crazy, or reality is slipping from you. I know your probably sitting here saying id rather have a ulcer or my arm broken! I was there too. completely there.  Everything will be okay, take comfort in knowing that in this one specific case you are not special. There are forum and forums of people going through the same thing. Entire communities. Every anxiety is different because every conscious and unconscious fear is different. I know the doctor sounds horrifying. I know the least thing you want to do is go on the medicine. because i know your afraid to take it and what itll feel like and if youll loose control and what will happen.  I know your afraid that the doctor will listen to you and say wow your nuts and lock you up. They wont. I have seen many doctors. i basically have my own psychiatrist and psychologist. the Psychologist is great! You sit on a leather couch and talk about whatever you want. You just need to find the right one that personally suits you. you could take baby steps see a psychologist and maybe just that is all you need and maybe it isnt then you seen a psychiatrist.If so thats fine too. I see one. i recieved the medication, hell iv been on  like a 4 different types. My favorite was zoloft. wow that makes me sound like a addict haha im not!  But for me when  i took it nothing happenend. boring right? i thought id get high or become a different person and lose myself but i didnt. I was able to do amazing amazing things! like fly to NYC by my self and live far away from my parents to go to college. my favorite are scary movies! ironic isnt it. Im normal. No im not normal. Because im better than i was before anxiety.  Iv been given tools to help and talk people through things, kindness, compassion and most importantly the true meaning of bravery. Remember, being brave doesnt mean your not scared, it means your scared as hell but do it any way. Only a idiot would jump into a burning building to safe people without fear.  But im going off topic. Getting super emotional because ive been there. Any way if your set on not seeing a doctor and maybe you dont need one at all. You can always look at the book Panic To Power by Lucinda basset. shes my biggest hero. i know reading sounds boring and that it just sounds like rubbish  of inspirational words but its not thats the amazing thing its a book about everything youve said everything everyone with anxiety has gone through.

Go take back your life, live happy and be at peace and god bless,
Anne
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