Aa
Aa
A
A
A
Close
1325220 tn?1283356899

Touched penis after removing condom

I am a male. On 28th August, 2010, I had vagina sex with a female (sex worker). I used condom and I am sure it was not broken or leaked. But after removing condom, which may have some vaginal fluid, immediately I touched my penis head and tip and kept hand there for about 2 mins. Then I showered with soap.

Now I am under so much stress, I  think  that I am under risk.

I am  really scared, please help me !
22 Responses
Sort by: Helpful Oldest Newest
363281 tn?1643235611
Don't hate yourself, and try not to worry, there is probably nothing wrong, but, PLEASE get tested, this will ease your mind, do it as soon as you are able, it is not worth worrying like you are everyday.
Helpful - 0
1325220 tn?1283356899
time by time i stay there to think about the sorrow! What I did and what I didn't. I hate myself!
Helpful - 0
1348686 tn?1310654243
I am not sure but I would say there is a low risk.  Honestly it is probably more of a risk for the one performing the act but I am not 100% sure of that.

Just talk to your dr about when you should test and move forward from there.  Try not to focus too much on it or you are going to drive yourself crazy with worry.
Helpful - 0
1325220 tn?1283356899
Thanks to ul04, again could you tell me something why is risk of *******? When I had sex, she performed ******* on me. Now I read on this site tell no risk, but others said that low risk. I think low risk is real risk.

Helpful - 0
1348686 tn?1310654243
4 years ago I was working in a restaurant as a waitress.   One of the waiters who worked there cut his finger while opening a wine bottle (he is hiv+).  Without thinking I went over and picked up the bottle, cleaned it off and continued to open it.  It wasn't until later on that evening I realized what I had done (touched his blood) and I had cuts on my hands.  So I began to freak out.

I did go to the dr and I did get tested and thankfully it came back negative.  My dr told me that the odds of me having caught it in the way I just described were slim because the virus can't live outside the body for more than a few seconds.  I wish I had known that before because the weeks/months leading up to the time I could get tested were horrible for me.  I kept researching my symptoms and I had myself so anxious and obsessed over hiv that I had myself convinced that I had it.

I was so sick the morning I was getting my test results it was horrible.  My stomach was so upset and I couldn't hold anything down....The moment she told me that I was negative it was like this major weight had been lifted off my chest.  So you see I was making myself so sick and I had myself convinced I had hiv when I didn't and it was all for nothing.

See that is why I keep telling you not to obsess over it.  Please try and focus on the good things you have going on and enjoy your life.  
Helpful - 0
1325220 tn?1283356899
thank you very much! Do you know how long HIV live outside the body? When It come out, it become inactive immediately, doesn't it?
Helpful - 0
1348686 tn?1310654243
I am glad that you decided that you are going to get tested.  I think that you probably had a really slim chance of getting it.

In the meantime please try not to obsesss over it because you are going to cause yourself so much anxiety and that is only going to make things worse.

I think you should focus on the good things in your life....
Helpful - 0
1325220 tn?1283356899
I am waiting to get HIV test. I'm so worried.
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
again, it's best to have your doctor test you...until then, you'll only be guessing.

good luck, friend, and keep us posted.
Helpful - 0
1325220 tn?1283356899
I don't know her status.
Helpful - 0
1325220 tn?1283356899
Yes, I just worried that she might have HIV.
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
in your next to last post, you'd said "And when I was removing condom, my fingers touched outside of condom (which contents HIV) then I touched immediately, etc....."

by saying "which contents HIV" are you saying that she, in fact, has HIV, or are you just worried that she might have HIV?
Helpful - 0
1325220 tn?1283356899
Thanks Jeez again! I think touching  vaginal fluids on hand and touching the vaginal fluids in a female's vagina is the same risk because the action of removing condom so quikly and touching touched my penis head immediately. This is my trouble. I am confused!
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
as with anything, it's always best to have yourself tested...talk to your doctor and find out when the best time is to do so.
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
here's a bit more....hope it answers some of your questions, and possibly helps to put your mind at ease a bit.

Scientists and medical authorities agree that HIV does not survive well in the environment, making the possibility of environmental transmission remote. HIV is found in varying concentrations or amounts in blood, semen, vaginal fluid, breast milk, saliva, and tears. (See below, Saliva, Tears, and Sweat.) In order to obtain data on the survival of HIV, laboratory studies have required the use of artificially high concentrations of laboratory-grown virus. Although these unnatural concentrations of HIV can be kept alive under precisely controlled and limited laboratory conditions, CDC studies have showned that drying of even these high concentrations of HIV reduces the number of infectious viruses by 90 to 99 percent within several hours. Since the HIV concentrations used in laboratory studies are much higher than those actually found in blood or other specimens, drying of HIV- infected human blood or other body fluids reduces the theoretical risk of environmental transmission to that which has been observed--essentially zero.

Helpful - 0
1325220 tn?1283356899
Thank jul04, Jeez so much!

Could you tell me what are laboratory conditions? Is it same with environmental condition: 37oC, air, ..etc?

Could you tell me some thing about time duration of HIV living? I know that HIV can live outside within several hours. And when I was removing condom, my fingers touched outside of condom (which contents HIV) then I touched immediately my penis head and tip and kept hand there. Is it enough time for HIV be transmitted to my penis by tiny cuts and a hole?
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
hope this helps...

Incorrect interpretation of conclusions drawn from laboratory studies have alarmed people unnecessarily. Results from laboratory studies should not be used to determine specific personal risk of infection because 1) the amount of virus studied is not found in human specimens or anyplace else in nature, and 2) no one has been identified with HIV due to contact with an environmental surface; Additionally, since HIV is unable to reproduce outside its living host (unlike many bacteria or fungi, which may do so under suitable conditions), except under laboratory conditions, it does not spread or maintain infectiousness outside its host.

Helpful - 0
1348686 tn?1310654243
I believe it doesn't live outside the body for more than a few seconds.  I am not 100% on that but I believe that what I have heard.

Please try not to obsess over this or you are going to convince yourself that you have hiv and you are going to make yourself sick.

Helpful - 0
1325220 tn?1283356899
Thank Paxiled, jul04 very much!

Hi all, Could you tell me how long HIV alive outside the body?
Helpful - 0
1348686 tn?1310654243
I think you are probably fine but you might want to get tested just to put your mind at ease.  I am not sure how long you have to wait to test but your dr would know the appropriate time.
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
You shouldn't be at risk from this incident, but anyone with concerns can always get tested.
Helpful - 0
1325220 tn?1283356899
anyone there?
Helpful - 0
Have an Answer?

You are reading content posted in the Anxiety Community

Top Anxiety Answerers
Avatar universal
Arlington, VA
370181 tn?1595629445
Arlington, WA
Learn About Top Answerers
Didn't find the answer you were looking for?
Ask a question
Popular Resources
Find out what can trigger a panic attack – and what to do if you have one.
A guide to 10 common phobias.
Take control of tension today.
These simple pick-me-ups squash stress.
Don’t let the winter chill send your smile into deep hibernation. Try these 10 mood-boosting tips to get your happy back
Want to wake up rested and refreshed?