flashbacks

[karat29]

A month back, my mother a raging alcoholic was carried in by two men, and in all honesty i don't even want to finish this because i'm already having horrible flashbacks. I am 16 and i now live with my dad in the next town over, today is the first day since that night i have seen my mother. Since that night i have been getting flashbacks and i get scared whenever i hear someone coming up the stairs i get really nervous. I usually get my flashbacks at night, and they sometimes go away i have yet to have a nightmare about it or anything. However whenever i get the flashbacks, which has been everynight since that night, i get a really bad pain in my side and overheat. It's kind of like a panic attack... but not because i know what those are. It's like i'm about to have a panic attack, but never do i then get really tired and just have to sleep it off. Many of my friends want me to start therpy, because i'm "taking it so well" which  I am minus these silent attacks. I don't really know what to do, but it's to the point where my life s just so messed up because of it. On top of that my father and I are looking for an apartment, I stopped talking to my best friend in the world (becuz he is now to cool for me) and i have to deal with my mother. Oh not to mention school which i am slowly falling behind in. It's all just too much and i don't know what to do... any suggestions?
they would be sooooo very helpful also if you need more background, i sure as hell got it :]
Love
KT

[nursegirl6572]

Sweetie...honestly?  Don't worry about how going into therapy will affect your Dad.  First of all...I'm SURE he completely understands how this would have greatly affected you...and also, that's what Dad's do...they are there for you and will move heaven and earth to make sure you get any help you need.

Please be sure you are confiding in your dad also...tell him what has been going on if you haven't already.  He may not even be aware of how significantly this is affecting you.

I look forward to hearing how you are doing....I really feel for you, and as a Mom myself...wish I could give you a big ole hug.

[hope_for_more]

My daughter didn't want to start talk therapy, I even had to sort of bully her in the beginning to get her to go to the second session.  Now she is a big believer, it's helped her get a different view and loves her therapist.  Now that she's doing better they are meeting less often so it doesn't have to be a forever thing.  Our insurance pays for most of the cost though I know that there are services available to everyone in our area based on what they can afford to pay (sometimes very little).

It sounds like you're dealing with alot and I hope you get some relief.  

[karat29]

thank you so much, that really did hep
i'm really nervous about therapy and i feel like it's the last thing my dad needs to think about is that, it's effecting me so much, but i suppose it is the best idea.
I'l be sure to keep you posted, and once again thank you so much.

[nursegirl6572]

First of all, I'm so sorry that you are going through this.  No child should ever have to see one of their parents in a state like that...and of COURSE it is very anxiety-producing, as our parents are supposed to be the ones in control, right?

I applaud you for being so well-spoken about it...and you really seem to have a good handle on assessing your feelings and emotions.  I couldn't agree more with your friends who suggest therapy.  It will help you tremendously, to be able to talk about this situation, how it made you feelm how it is STILL affecting you...with a completely neutral thrid party therapist.  Please ask your Dad (or whomever handles that kind of stuff for you) that you want to start that right away.  Also, sometimes, talking to your school counselor in addition to the therapy can be helpful as well.  They can maybe work with you and your teachers, so that while you are going through such a rough time....you can get the help you need with your schoolwork, and your teachers will understand what's up.

Please update us on how you are doing, this is a great support place.  Again, I'm so sorry you are going through this, and hope you realize that none of this is your fault.

Best wishes to you.